Parents on ASD? Forum

[ArtVandelay]

Do people typically bring their parents with them to an admitted students day? My parents would like to come (as they will be partially financing LS), would I be better off telling them no? It really doesn't bother me if they come, but I just wanted to see if this is typical. Thanks!

[OGR3]

I brought my mother along on a couple ASDs, she didn't really sit in on any of the sessions, but she took part in the free breakfasts/lunches and paid for our hotel and food outside the visit.

Lots of people brought their parents, just make sure they're not asking a billion questions or trying to negotiate aid for you.

[toolshed]

Do people typically bring their parents with them to an admitted students day? My parents would like to come (as they will be partially financing LS), would I be better off telling them no? It really doesn't bother me if they come, but I just wanted to see if this is typical. Thanks!

There has been a voracious debate about this in the past. I personally wouldn't bring them, but a lot of people do.

[kissy]

my parents went for me

[fwaam]

The one I've attended so far had virtually no parents, but then they were pressed for space so that may be part of it. If you want your parents to actually attend events, you'll want to contact the school in advance and ask if that's all right.

[soullesswonder]

I brought my mother along on a couple ASDs, she didn't really sit in on any of the sessions, but she took part in the free breakfasts/lunches and paid for our hotel and food outside the visit.

Lots of people brought their parents, just make sure they're not asking a billion questions or trying to negotiate aid for you.

This. Keep them on a short leash. I think the most cringe-worthy moment at Harvard's ASW was during the full group's Q&A with Dean Minow - a parent unnecessarily identified himself as such in his preamble and then asked a really basic question that a quick search of the website could have readily answered.

[amclane]

If the event's RSVP asks if you are bringing a guest, it would be a good idea. If you really want to meet people or find potential roommates, it might be a problem, though.

[09042014]

I'd feel so embarrassed bringing my parents to ASW.

[BenJ]

Try not to. Maybe 5% of all admitted students have parents with them, so you will be in a small minority. It tends to be really awkward for the students.

[snickersnicker]

There was one girl at Michigan's latest ASW who was there with her mother, and the entire time she looked pestered and embarrassed. I feel like people bringing parents to ASWs, at least voluntarily, are:

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[lstwin]

I just went to an ASD last week, and there were a ton of parents there. I was staying with my uncle while I was visiting the school, so I brought him with me. If having them there will make you feel uncomfortable, then ask them not to come. But if you're comfortable with it, then bring them. It's just an ASD - it's not like you're bringing them to the first day of class.

[LavAzza2004]

Don't bring your parents to the events. If they want to travel with you, see the campus, etc., fine. But skip the programming. This is law school, not freshman year of undergrad. As someone a few years out of school it was eye-opening how many parents tagged along to an ASW last week. It made me wonder if I'm ready to leave my career to join these kids in the classroom.

[Slimpee]

I was at Iowa's ASD last weekend and several people had brought parents into the sessions. I guess if you're still in UG I can SORT OF understand but overall, I decided right then and there that I didn't like those people.

If parents came to check out the town or wander around the school on their own, that's fine, but if you're sitting in an ASD session and your mom is paying more attention than you and is even taking notes (saw it) then you need to reevaluate your life...

That being said, if my parents wanted to come with me on self-guided tour i'd be cool with that...

[HBK]

Aren't you people adults?

[amclane]

I was at Iowa's ASD last weekend and several people had brought parents into the sessions. I guess if you're still in UG I can SORT OF understand but overall, I decided right then and there that I didn't like those people.

If parents came to check out the town or wander around the school on their own, that's fine, but if you're sitting in an ASD session and your mom is paying more attention than you and is even taking notes (saw it) then you need to reevaluate your life...

That being said, if my parents wanted to come with me on self-guided tour i'd be cool with that...

I would disagree with this, depending on the parents. I am not dependent on my mom, I've been fully independent for two years since graduating college. My mom is my best friend and I took her to an ASD and it really made her feel good to be involved and learn about the school beyond what I could tell her, and for her to see where I would be for the next 3 years.. My ASD even had one separate session just for parents/guests. That being said, if you do bring your parent, tell them not to ask questions. That could just get emabarasssing.

[lawschoolmike]

Seriously, this isn't freshmen year of undergad this is LAW SCHOOL. You don't need to bring mommy and daddy! You're a freaking adult (assuming your 21+).....The only reasons you should bring mom and dad along :

1) You're a child
2) You can't make your own decisions
3) You can't speak for yourself
4) They are paying AND INSIST on coming (even in this situation your parents by NOW SHOULD be able to rely on your judgement, if not then refer to point 1)

Don't worry no one will peer-pressure you into smoking stuff you don't want to.

Also, it's embarrassing... nothing against moms and pops but bringing them along just gives an impression of immaturity. As others have said if they wanna come and just see the campus (some campuses are really beautiful), sure why not, maybe grab something to eat at a local restaurant later on... BTW YOU pay the bill.

Just my 2 cents.

[romothesavior]

Don't take them to ASDs. For one, it will automatically make you look like a little baby. I felt uncomfortable around people who brought their parents. Second, you will not get the full experience if they are with you. You want to have the opportunity to shoot the shit with current students and maybe even go out in the evening to get a feel for the student life. You don't want to censor yourself around them.

If your parents do want to see the school, then absolutely take them once you decide to matriculate. I plan on bringing my parents down in June or so to look at houses and walk around the building. I really want them to see the school because it is so beautiful, and I know they want to see it so they feel like they're still a big part of my life.

Just don't bring them to ASD.

[phoenix323]

I am planning on taking my mom on a campus visit to a school I've been admitted to (not an official ASD). I told her she can't sit in on the class with me but can take the tour.

Is this acceptable?

[romothesavior]

I am planning on taking my mom on a campus visit to a school I've been admitted to (not an official ASD). I told her she can't sit in on the class with me but can take the tour.

Is this acceptable?

I would say yes.

[prezidentv8]

You know what's great?

Not having a fear of people judging you and sharing the things you do with people you care about. Seriously, nobody cares though. That is all.

[kalvano]

I am planning on taking my mom on a campus visit to a school I've been admitted to (not an official ASD). I told her she can't sit in on the class with me but can take the tour.

Is this acceptable?

I would say so. Even let her sit in on the class.

But go alone to ASD. Seriously. It's grad school, not the first day of kindergarten.

[romothesavior]

You know what's great?

Not having a fear of people judging you and sharing the things you do with people you care about. Seriously, nobody cares though. That is all.

Like almost all things in life, it depends on the time, place, and manner. I think it is great if OP wants to show the school to his parents. But there are ways to do it that would be a little more appropriate than his mommy tagging along during the ASD event.

I just can say from personal experience, it has been awkward seeing parents with their kids at ASD events. I'm obviously not alone. If OP (or you, for that matter) doesn't care about people thinking you're a little immature for having your parents there, then go for it.

[Cupidity]

make sure your school doesn't say "no guests"

[darknightbegins]

Seriously, this isn't freshmen year of undergad this is lawl skool. You don't need to bring mommy and daddy! You're a freaking adult (assuming your 21+).....The only reasons you should bring mom and dad along :

1) You're a child
2) You can't make your own decisions
3) You can't speak for yourself
4) They are paying AND INSIST on coming (even in this situation your parents by NOW SHOULD be able to rely on your judgement, if not then refer to point 1)

Don't worry no one will peer-pressure you into smoking stuff you don't want to.

Also, it's embarrassing... nothing against moms and pops but bringing them along just gives an impression of immaturity. As others have said if they wanna come and just see the campus (some campuses are really beautiful), sure why not, maybe grab something to eat at a local restaurant later on... BTW YOU pay the bill.

Just my 2 cents.

+1 I didn't even want my parents on my first day of undergrad, but an ASD tour around law school? Shit talk about helicopter parents. Cut the cord already.

[calicocat]

I'd feel so embarrassed bringing my parents to ASW.

haha you have parents?