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[Ellie80]

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[c130pilot]

Dont ever do it for a guy or girl...If you break up then you will be unhappy. DO IT FOR YOURSELF ..... If he is truely meant to be then he will be there for you during school long distance.

[lsatextreme]

just to clarify, you already paid your first deposit to maryland when it was due on 4/15 right? or did you just get off the WL or something

[flexityflex86]

I am ready to put down my deposit for University of San Francisco (USF) tomorrow. However, I am having second thoughts.

Career projectory: ADA or else big firm--> AUSA--> big firm or stay on as AUSA. I am undecided.

Originally I was not geographically restricted, but I met a guy in the Bay Area. We are in the beginning of our relationship. He would like me to stay in the Bay Area. And I am staying for him. If I had not met him, I would not be staying in SF. I am looking at USF (100 rank) vs. UMD (42 rank). It is basically a tier 2/3 vs. tier 1 difference. I cringe at this stark difference. Not to mention that USF is under the shadow of Stanford, Berkeley, Hastings, Davis, USC and UCLA.

You might ask where I would like to practice? Once again, if it wasn't for him, I truly do not have any geographical preference.

Guys- if you truly care for a gal, you would want her to go to the highest ranking school possible, right? He made a lot of sacrifice for me, so I feel somewhat obliged.

How to choose? Any suggestions or advice, please?

It's the beginning of a relationship.

Obviously he wants to keep you so his perspective is biased.

If I really wanted to marry a girl, and this was the situation here would be my thought process:

Is my earning potential that which would realistically probably be much stronger than hers? If yes, I'd try to get her to stay in SF. If the answer is no, I wouldn't let her.

Regardless, I'd never want to lead my GF one way or the other. I'd want her to make the best choice for her whatever that is, because I'd want her to be happy. After all, doing what's best only for you is not partnership, and partnership is the whole reason monogamy is worth it.