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cannonballer · Post by **cannonballer** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 2:40 pm

schocolate wrote:
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curlious wrote:
schocolate wrote:
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schocolate wrote:Who's planning on entering law school in a relationship? Are you worried about balancing your relationship and studies?
I am. Not sure if it will be a LDR yet. My SO should be able to transfer offices - in major US cities only - relatively easily. He travels a lot for work, so weekend visits should also be relatively easy if I wind up at a more rural school. I do think it would feel strange going from living together back to a dorm, roommates, etc.
Are you basing your applications on locations he can transfer to?
No, his fear is that I wind up picking a school because it's convenient for him but it winds up not being the right fit for me --> me resenting him. So I'm applying broadly and will see what sticks. By the same token, I'm afraid of him moving because of me to a place that winds up being a bad career move for him.
I'm in a similar boat. My husband is also applying to grad schools so I'm really hoping we get in to schools at the same location. Harvard is, shockingly, a dream for both of us, but NYC is our ideal long-term location. Come on, NYU/Columbia!
I've been talking to friends who are applying to grad programs with their spouses, and some of them have mentioned that married couples applying at the same time get a boost because schools know if you accept one, the other will likely come too. Is this actually true or just wishful thinking on their part?

I know that people applying for academic positions can negotiate positions for spouses, but I've never heard of an admissions boost as you described it. That would be great, though! We're applying to completely different programs, though, so I don't even know if they would be aware that we're married.

schocolate · Post by **schocolate** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 2:40 pm

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curlious · Post by **curlious** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 2:44 pm

cannonballer wrote:
schocolate wrote:
cannonballer wrote:
curlious wrote:
schocolate wrote:
curlious wrote:
schocolate wrote:Who's planning on entering law school in a relationship? Are you worried about balancing your relationship and studies?
I am. Not sure if it will be a LDR yet. My SO should be able to transfer offices - in major US cities only - relatively easily. He travels a lot for work, so weekend visits should also be relatively easy if I wind up at a more rural school. I do think it would feel strange going from living together back to a dorm, roommates, etc.
Are you basing your applications on locations he can transfer to?
No, his fear is that I wind up picking a school because it's convenient for him but it winds up not being the right fit for me --> me resenting him. So I'm applying broadly and will see what sticks. By the same token, I'm afraid of him moving because of me to a place that winds up being a bad career move for him.
I'm in a similar boat. My husband is also applying to grad schools so I'm really hoping we get in to schools at the same location. Harvard is, shockingly, a dream for both of us, but NYC is our ideal long-term location. Come on, NYU/Columbia!
I've been talking to friends who are applying to grad programs with their spouses, and some of them have mentioned that married couples applying at the same time get a boost because schools know if you accept one, the other will likely come too. Is this actually true or just wishful thinking on their part?
I know that people applying for academic positions can negotiate positions for spouses, but I've never heard of an admissions boost as you described it. That would be great, though! We're applying to completely different programs, though, so I don't even know if they would be aware that we're married.

Might be worth letting the school know that you are married. In a Why X, maybe you could throw in "my spouse is applying to Program Y - both of us consider School Y our top choice." I have no idea if this would affect either one of your admissions chances, but I can't imagine it would hurt

zozo1717 · Post by **zozo1717** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 2:53 pm

schocolate wrote:
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I'm getting married in a few months, so we are being strategic with where I'm applying based on where he can get a job. For my job now, I travel all the time/work weird hours and it hasn't been an issue. A little worried about being a newlywed/1L, but I really will just have to focus on getting a lot of work done during the day. From what I've heard visiting campuses, many students give it the 9-5, 9-6 approach - i.e. they are focused on getting all their readings, etc. done during breaks between classes so when they go home they are pretty much done for the day.
Congratulations!

Thank you! He's been incredibly supportive through the whole process and is actually excited about potentially moving somewhere new. I feel for you ladies with the dilemma about long distance, etc. Its hard enough to make a call about what is best for you and then adding in another person makes it all the more difficult.

schocolate · Post by **schocolate** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 2:55 pm

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cannonballer · Post by **cannonballer** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 2:59 pm

curlious wrote:
Might be worth letting the school know that you are married. In a Why X, maybe you could throw in "my spouse is applying to Program Y - both of us consider School Y our top choice." I have no idea if this would affect either one of your admissions chances, but I can't imagine it would hurt

Good point, I can't imagine doing so would actually harm my chances. Can't even think about Why X's yet, though - need to get this PS done!

bamb00zled · Post by **bamb00zled** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:05 pm

theugg wrote:I just bought the Mac Cyber lipstick. It's basically black, reflecting my post-breakup attitude.

I can't figure out how to add pictures but imagine on of Beyonce telling you you look fierce

schocolate · Post by **schocolate** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:06 pm

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cannonballer · Post by **cannonballer** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:11 pm

schocolate wrote:
bamb00zled wrote:

I can't figure out how to add pictures but imagine on of Beyonce telling you you look fierce
You need 100 posts first.

I pretty much want to get to 100 posts solely to post Leslie Knope gifs.

texasellewoods · Post by **texasellewoods** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:12 pm

schocolate wrote:Who's planning on entering law school in a relationship? Are you worried about balancing your relationship and studies?

Me too - its nice to see how many others are doing the same, it makes me feel less crazy haha. I met my BF first night of college and we've been dating basically ever since. He's planning on moving where I go to law school for the first year, but he's applying to med school after that. Were either looking at my 2/3L years apart and then I get a job where his med school is, or he goes somewhere near me and my first two years on the job are apart. Hard to know which is better... long distance sounds hard no matter what.

ugg · Post by **ugg** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:14 pm

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bamb00zled · Post by **bamb00zled** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:19 pm

cannonballer wrote:
schocolate wrote:
bamb00zled wrote:

I can't figure out how to add pictures but imagine on of Beyonce telling you you look fierce
You need 100 posts first.
I pretty much want to get to 100 posts solely to post Leslie Knope gifs.

I actually came to this thread to pull Knope gifs to send to a friend who had a super bad day on Saturday, and they were perfect. It also inspired a Parks and Rec evening with my bf on Sunday. So, thanks ladies! Even though Leslie can do no wrong, Bey is underrepresented on these boards, so I'm gunning for that addition.

bamb00zled · Post by **bamb00zled** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:21 pm

theugg wrote:Anyone NOT planning on entering law school in a relationship?! Haha.

Probably most people there!

I was talking to a friend at Michigan about it and he said most 1Ls live on the quad there all together, and my first thought was that it would be pretty weird for couples to do that so most people must be going in single.

bamb00zled · Post by **bamb00zled** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:25 pm

texasellewoods wrote:
schocolate wrote:Who's planning on entering law school in a relationship? Are you worried about balancing your relationship and studies?
Me too - its nice to see how many others are doing the same, it makes me feel less crazy haha. I met my BF first night of college and we've been dating basically ever since. He's planning on moving where I go to law school for the first year, but he's applying to med school after that. Were either looking at my 2/3L years apart and then I get a job where his med school is, or he goes somewhere near me and my first two years on the job are apart. Hard to know which is better... long distance sounds hard no matter what.

Loving the number of ladies on here with men who are moving to accommodate their law school ambitions! My bf has pledged to do the same (once I know where... ugh) and whenever I remember how uncommon that type of shit would be not too long ago it makes me super happy. I also don't think it ever occurred to him to put his career first, since this is something I've been passionate about doing for a while. Sounds like some of y'all have equally committed awesome flexible partners.

jettison63 · Post by **jettison63** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:26 pm

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barley · Post by **barley** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:32 pm

jettison63 wrote:
bamb00zled wrote:
cannonballer wrote:
schocolate wrote:
bamb00zled wrote:

I can't figure out how to add pictures but imagine on of Beyonce telling you you look fierce
You need 100 posts first.
I pretty much want to get to 100 posts solely to post Leslie Knope gifs.
I actually came to this thread to pull Knope gifs to send to a friend who had a super bad day on Saturday, and they were perfect. It also inspired a Parks and Rec evening with my bf on Sunday. So, thanks ladies! Even though Leslie can do no wrong, Bey is underrepresented on these boards, so I'm gunning for that addition.
On this note, I'd like to propose a celebration of Galentines this year among participants on this thread.

Last year I mailed my friends in the US notes and cards with the most fitting Leslie to Anne compliment. But I feel a large breakfast involving waffles coming on this year....

Anyone else mark the occasion?

I threw a Galentine's Day party last year! We made quiche and french toast and mimosas, and I made a "[Name], you [adjective] [adjective] [animal]" card for all of the guests.

Hildegard15 · Post by **Hildegard15** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:34 pm

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cannonballer · Post by **cannonballer** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:37 pm

Hildegard15 wrote:
barley wrote:
jettison63 wrote:
bamb00zled wrote:
I actually came to this thread to pull Knope gifs to send to a friend who had a super bad day on Saturday, and they were perfect. It also inspired a Parks and Rec evening with my bf on Sunday. So, thanks ladies! Even though Leslie can do no wrong, Bey is underrepresented on these boards, so I'm gunning for that addition.
On this note, I'd like to propose a celebration of Galentines this year among participants on this thread.

Last year I mailed my friends in the US notes and cards with the most fitting Leslie to Anne compliment. But I feel a large breakfast involving waffles coming on this year....

Anyone else mark the occasion?
I threw a Galentine's Day party last year! We made quiche and french toast and mimosas, and I made a "[Name], you [adjective] [adjective] [animal]" card for all of the guests.
All my lady friends are back East No Galentines day for me.

Similar situation

Are you on the West Coast?

Hildegard15 · Post by **Hildegard15** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:39 pm

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jettison63 · Post by **jettison63** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:39 pm

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cannonballer · Post by **cannonballer** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:49 pm

Hildegard15 · Post by **Hildegard15** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:53 pm

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jettison63 · Post by **jettison63** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:57 pm

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curlious · Post by **curlious** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:57 pm

bamb00zled wrote:
cannonballer wrote:
schocolate wrote:
bamb00zled wrote:

I can't figure out how to add pictures but imagine on of Beyonce telling you you look fierce
You need 100 posts first.
I pretty much want to get to 100 posts solely to post Leslie Knope gifs.
I actually came to this thread to pull Knope gifs to send to a friend who had a super bad day on Saturday, and they were perfect. It also inspired a Parks and Rec evening with my bf on Sunday. So, thanks ladies! Even though Leslie can do no wrong, Bey is underrepresented on these boards, so I'm gunning for that addition.

I support more Bey

cannonballer · Post by **cannonballer** » Tue Oct 27, 2015 4:00 pm

Hildegard15 wrote: I'm an Oregonian, but I miss the pace of the East Coast. Everyone here is just too relaxed for me. I think the weather in Oregon is lovely, but there is something to be said for suffering 75% of the year, and then the glorious 3 months combined of spring and fall feel so much more special. I think this is a great place to grow up and grow old, but being a young adult is better in the NE if you're like me.

My sister lives in Portland and has settled into Oregonian life with enthusiasm. I do love Oregon and could totally see myself living there at some point, but I'm with you - the East Coast pace is so much more my style. Even after 6 years in CA I have to catch myself at work sometimes moving too quickly or speaking too harshly. I also feel like people in San Francisco are incredibly flaky - it's like plans don't even mean anything! Or maybe that's just a problem with our generation as a whole...