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3pianists · Post by **3pianists** » Tue Oct 13, 2015 7:41 pm

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texasellewoods · Post by **texasellewoods** » Fri Oct 16, 2015 6:58 pm

NotoriousRBGJr. wrote:Checking in! Going on a duke tour soon and really hoping it doesn't have a boys club vibe.

I'm going to visit soon too! How did you like it? Did you do an informational interview?
Also any Durham restaurant recommendations would be appreciated

NotoriousRBGJr. · Post by **NotoriousRBGJr.** » Fri Oct 16, 2015 7:08 pm

texasellewoods · Post by **texasellewoods** » Fri Oct 16, 2015 7:20 pm

NotoriousRBGJr. wrote:
texasellewoods wrote:
NotoriousRBGJr. wrote:Checking in! Going on a duke tour soon and really hoping it doesn't have a boys club vibe.
I'm going to visit soon too! How did you like it? Did you do an informational interview?
Also any Durham restaurant recommendations would be appreciated

I really liked it, the facilities were nice and the students were very friendly. I did an informational interview, and it was a little awkward. I would recommend writing your questions down in case you forget some in the moment and don't reference the changing law school application pool/keep your questions positive and Duke specific, even if they're not super detailed.

What do you mean by "the changing law school application pool?" And would it be appropriate to ask the "supportive environment for women" question because I really would like to know but it might seem sassy. What did you wear to that? Im thinking nice dark jeans, boots, fitted sweater, understated jewelry because I'm doing a tour before and a class visit after.

zozo1717 · Post by **zozo1717** » Sat Oct 17, 2015 4:34 pm

texasellewoods wrote:
NotoriousRBGJr. wrote:Checking in! Going on a duke tour soon and really hoping it doesn't have a boys club vibe.
I'm going to visit soon too! How did you like it? Did you do an informational interview?
Also any Durham restaurant recommendations would be appreciated

In the Durham area closer to Duke, try Nana Taco, Thai Cafe, Six Plates (wine bar with good tapas). Bull City Burger is also a good spot downtown. Enjoy your visit!

barley · Post by **barley** » Sat Oct 17, 2015 4:38 pm

texasellewoods wrote:
NotoriousRBGJr. wrote:
texasellewoods wrote:
NotoriousRBGJr. wrote:Checking in! Going on a duke tour soon and really hoping it doesn't have a boys club vibe.
I'm going to visit soon too! How did you like it? Did you do an informational interview?
Also any Durham restaurant recommendations would be appreciated

I really liked it, the facilities were nice and the students were very friendly. I did an informational interview, and it was a little awkward. I would recommend writing your questions down in case you forget some in the moment and don't reference the changing law school application pool/keep your questions positive and Duke specific, even if they're not super detailed.

What do you mean by "the changing law school application pool?" And would it be appropriate to ask the "supportive environment for women" question because I really would like to know but it might seem sassy. What did you wear to that? Im thinking nice dark jeans, boots, fitted sweater, understated jewelry because I'm doing a tour before and a class visit after.

You can totally ask about a supportive environment for women! It ends up helping all of us because the more people who politely bring it up, the more they'll do about it.

Sounds like a good outfit for the meeting. Have lots of fun!

NotoriousRBGJr. · Post by **NotoriousRBGJr.** » Sat Oct 17, 2015 4:41 pm

texasellewoods · Post by **texasellewoods** » Sat Oct 17, 2015 7:19 pm

Thanks for all the help y'all <3 I'm here now and its AMAZING but I'm worried I won't be able to afford all these delicious restaurants on a law school budget haha. I'll let you know about the girl power vibe when I do the official visit

bamb00zled · Post by **bamb00zled** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 9:28 pm

Love that this thread exists (imagine dancing girls emoji here)

schocolate · Post by **schocolate** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 9:59 pm

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barley · Post by **barley** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:12 pm

schocolate wrote:So I haven't applied anywhere quite yet (waiting for October scores and working on my personal statement), but I had a question for you ladies. I was talking to a male friend who's currently at law school, and he suggested that he didn't think law school was the right choice for me because I'm too emotional. Is this sort of judgment something anyone else has dealt with? If so, how did you respond to it?

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Seriously though, that was a kinda sucky thing for him to say. I haven't had anyone say something like that to me, but I'd probably call the person out for it if they did. I think it can even be done in a fairly non-confrontational way - if it happens again, just say something like, "You know, you probably wouldn't be saying that if I were a guy." If he's a decent person, he'll probably appreciate it if you gently point out his biases.

texasellewoods · Post by **texasellewoods** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:27 pm

barley wrote:
schocolate wrote:So I haven't applied anywhere quite yet (waiting for October scores and working on my personal statement), but I had a question for you ladies. I was talking to a male friend who's currently at law school, and he suggested that he didn't think law school was the right choice for me because I'm too emotional. Is this sort of judgment something anyone else has dealt with? If so, how did you respond to it?

Seriously though, that was a kinda sucky thing for him to say. I haven't had anyone say something like that to me, but I'd probably call the person out for it if they did. I think it can even be done in a fairly non-confrontational way - if it happens again, just say something like, "You know, you probably wouldn't be saying that if I were a guy." If he's a decent person, he'll probably appreciate it if you gently point out his biases.

definitely TCR - as annoying/rude/shallow as that comment was, if you respond in an 'emotional' way then he may view it as evidence to support his judgement. I would also just ask him why emotions would be a disability in law school. If he's forced to explain his view, he may realize how redonkulous he's being and apologize (or at least not say dumb stuff like that again haha). Good luck dealing with him!!

Hildegard15 · Post by **Hildegard15** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:33 pm

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schocolate · Post by **schocolate** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:39 pm

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texasellewoods · Post by **texasellewoods** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:43 pm

schocolate wrote:
barley wrote:
schocolate wrote:So I haven't applied anywhere quite yet (waiting for October scores and working on my personal statement), but I had a question for you ladies. I was talking to a male friend who's currently at law school, and he suggested that he didn't think law school was the right choice for me because I'm too emotional. Is this sort of judgment something anyone else has dealt with? If so, how did you respond to it?
Seriously though, that was a kinda sucky thing for him to say. I haven't had anyone say something like that to me, but I'd probably call the person out for it if they did. I think it can even be done in a fairly non-confrontational way - if it happens again, just say something like, "You know, you probably wouldn't be saying that if I were a guy." If he's a decent person, he'll probably appreciate it if you gently point out his biases.
I've been on the fence about watching Parks and Rec for a while (I've gotten through some of the first season and wasn't super impressed) but I think that video has helped convince me.

And yeah, he's a good guy, so I think he'll be receptive to comments about it. It just really took me aback. Thanks!

Later seasons of P&R are SO GOOD leslie evolves/matures a lot and the characters are just amazing, I re-watch that and the Office all the time

barley · Post by **barley** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:44 pm

Hildegard15 wrote:
texasellewoods wrote:
barley wrote:
schocolate wrote:So I haven't applied anywhere quite yet (waiting for October scores and working on my personal statement), but I had a question for you ladies. I was talking to a male friend who's currently at law school, and he suggested that he didn't think law school was the right choice for me because I'm too emotional. Is this sort of judgment something anyone else has dealt with? If so, how did you respond to it?

Seriously though, that was a kinda sucky thing for him to say. I haven't had anyone say something like that to me, but I'd probably call the person out for it if they did. I think it can even be done in a fairly non-confrontational way - if it happens again, just say something like, "You know, you probably wouldn't be saying that if I were a guy." If he's a decent person, he'll probably appreciate it if you gently point out his biases.
definitely TCR - as annoying/rude/shallow as that comment was, if you respond in an 'emotional' way then he may view it as evidence to support his judgement. I would also just ask him why emotions would be a disability in law school. If he's forced to explain his view, he may realize how redonkulous he's being and apologize (or at least not say dumb stuff like that again haha). Good luck dealing with him!!
I have no non confrontational way of dealin with this shit. All I have to add is, he's definitely not a friend if he said that to you. I probably would have said "fuck you too" but I'm not a nice person.

Eh, that's not productive though. Now, I know nothing about the guy in question, but sometimes perfectly well-intentioned people can say something sexist/racist/whatever - we all have implicit biases, and that doesn't make us terrible people. I've nonconfrontationally pointed out male friends' biases and they've appreciated it; I've had people point out my own biases, and I appreciate it as well because it helps me be more mindful. I doubt I'd have been as receptive if they told me to eff off.

Now, if she points it out and he gets defensive, THEN I'd be much less sympathetic

schocolate · Post by **schocolate** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:47 pm

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texasellewoods · Post by **texasellewoods** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:50 pm

schocolate wrote:

texasellewoods wrote:
definitely TCR - as annoying/rude/shallow as that comment was, if you respond in an 'emotional' way then he may view it as evidence to support his judgement. I would also just ask him why emotions would be a disability in law school. If he's forced to explain his view, he may realize how redonkulous he's being and apologize (or at least not say dumb stuff like that again haha). Good luck dealing with him!!
Yeah, I definitely want to have a response prepared if this ever comes up again, because I know I do react very impulsively to things and I don't want to give him any more cannon fodder. Also, sorry, what's TCR? -__-

"The credited response" which is what the right answers on the LSAT are called! took me 3947 years to learn the dang acronyms on this site so now I feel like I have to use them hahaha

texasellewoods · Post by **texasellewoods** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:52 pm

schocolate wrote:
texasellewoods wrote:
Later seasons of P&R are SO GOOD leslie evolves/matures a lot and the characters are just amazing, I re-watch that and the Office all the time
Alright, I'm sold! I'll get started on that once I get caught up with Jane the Virgin (does anybody else watch that show?)

No but Im starting once I catch up on How to Get Away With Murder!
Also does anyone read the walking dead comics??? I just got the third compendium and I'm halfway through and loving it

schocolate · Post by **schocolate** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 10:53 pm

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texasellewoods · Post by **texasellewoods** » Sun Oct 18, 2015 11:14 pm

schocolate wrote:
texasellewoods wrote:
No but Im starting once I catch up on How to Get Away With Murder!
Also does anyone read the walking dead comics??? I just got the third compendium and I'm halfway through and loving it
I have such mixed feelings about that show, but I can't stop watching.

And I haven't read those comics (I'm not super into zombies, except for Shaun of the Dead and iZombie now), but I have played the video game. Do you read other comics too?

right?? The first season was almost too much and I still don't know who did the 'bad thing' (trying not to spoil) and its bothering me. I also can't tell if I like AK yet... like I wish she was purely awesome and an easily identifiable feminist character but maybe its better that she's not because not all women are great female goddess warriors haha.

I only read Walking Dead, I'm obsessed with the show so my boyfriend got me the comics and I was hooked! They're very different from the show, in tone/theme/characters/graphic violence/storyline so I get double the fun. Plus now Fear the Walking Dead is out (the prequel, shows how it all started, different characters) so I live and breathe zombie apocalypse haha.