xylocarp wrote:I live with my SO and he's a bar manager - his work day goes from 7 PM to about 4 or 5 AM. At first I thought, when he got this job, that we would just have to see each other a lot less because one of us would always be sleeping, haha, but I've actually somehow been able to get my schedule to be so that we sleep around the same hours at basically no detriment to my life or goals so far. However, when, on occasion, I do have to wake up early, I'll take a sleeping pill at around 9, but even after 10 hours of sleep I feel weird and groggy, maybe because I'm just not used to it?
It sounds like your schedule doesn't force you to be nocturnal but, rather your SO's schedule forces your SO to be nocturnal and you've chosen to adapt. There's a difference, and that difference is everything. (If I'm misreading and your schedule does, in fact, force you to be nocturnal, I'd suggest taking a week off. Seriously.) I was in a similar boat before the October LSAT a few years ago. I have serious insomnia problems (which are better managed now than they were then. Thank you 1L for forcing me into 9am classes) and when I have my druthers, I default to being nocturnal, and have done my whole life. I can't take sleeping pills/NyQuil/whatever because sedatives give me severe panic attacks.
On average, when not being an insomnia-plagued stressball, I sleep about 7-8 hours a night if I go to bed when tired and let myself wake up naturally. I also do poorly with gradual schedule adjustments - I can never stick to them. The only way I've ever managed to set/reset my schedule is with a drastic, shock-to-the-system type of adjustment.
Here's what worked for me. I knew I needed to be up and out of bed around 6:30-7am on exam day. About a week before the exam, I got up at my usual mid-afternoon time and forced myself to stay up as late as I physically could the next day. I think I was up for about 30 hours straight. (Sleep deprivation's bad for you. Don't do this regularly and for the love of God don't drive or do anything of consequence on no sleep.) I set an alarm for 5am (earlier than I'd need to be up on exam-day) and finally let myself crash at about 9pm. Then I forced myself out of bed at 5am everyday that week and to bed/sleep by 9:30 or 10. Two nights before the exam I stayed up until about midnight so that the night before the exam I'd be working on less sleep than usual and thus, more likely to be tired. I also set my exam-day alarm for 6:30 (and 6:45, and 7am) instead of 5am so that I had a 90-minute insomnia window. (I.e., I could toss-and-turn for up to 90 minutes but still get enough sleep.) On exam-day, I actually woke up a few minutes before my alarm. Then I beat my PT average by 1 point.
TL;DR: About a week before the exam, force yourself to stay up until you're so sleep deprived that you pass out. Then get up in the morning and keep getting up in the morning for a week. Suck up the week of not seeing your SO that much.