LSAT prep and significant others Forum

[bulldogblues]

Anyone else starting to feel passive aggressiveness/frustration coming from their significant others? I'm taking the June LSAT so I've been prepping heavy since the end of April/beginning of May. I try to make time for her, but you know how it is...between PTs, reviewing those PTs, and drilling, there's not as much time left as we're used to. She understands and doesn't interrupt my studying, doesn't ask to do anything outside of a quick run to Starbucks, etc., but is anyone else starting to venture into 'upset significant other' territory?

[DCDuck]

Just wait for 1L!

[cc.celina]

They just dont understand...

[Systematic1]

Anyone else starting to feel passive aggressiveness/frustration coming from their significant others? I'm taking the June LSAT so I've been prepping heavy since the end of April/beginning of May. I try to make time for her, but you know how it is...between PTs, reviewing those PTs, and drilling, there's not as much time left as we're used to. She understands and doesn't interrupt my studying, doesn't ask to do anything outside of a quick run to Starbucks, etc., but is anyone else starting to venture into 'upset significant other' territory?

Totally understand this post. My old ball and chain has been good on the surface, but she hasn't been good at hiding the fact that deep down she's annoyed. It is somewhat understandable, since she just graduated UG and she knows she doesn't have anything fun to look forward to this summer. Luckily, before I started studying I was able to get her out for a nice 3 day getaway in Santa Barbera, so that helped. Plus we're planning a Hawaii trip for a couple weeks after October 6 and that gives us both a little something to look forward to. It is tough though, and I occasionally have to pull the old, "oh, my phone was in the other room" or "woops, my phone died" when she bombards me with texts or calls while I'm in the middle of a study session.

Stay strong dude.

[Systematic1]

"You know lsat doesnt matter THAT much right?"

I hate this one.

[BuckeyeGirl]

The boyfriend is super, ultra mega supportive, has read TLS and totally gets how big of a deal the LSAT/app process is, so I'm kind of spoiled that way, the following is only practical advice...don't know how to convey imporance to an SO since I haven't had to convince him of that...

1) We have a shared Google calendar. All my LSAT study is put into it, so he has a good idea of how much time/when I am studying. It's helpful and alleviates disappointment. He doesn't even ask if I can do things during those blocks of time.

2) At least a basic understanding of the LSAT (he's played around with questions from each section) so when I'm frustrated/doing well he has some context for those conversations and can feel at least sort of engaged in the process.

3) On a similar note, I work really hard to separate my frustration/exhaustion/annoyance with the LSAT from our relationship. Like when I'm being snippy I'll say "practice didn't go well today, sorry I'm in a shitty mood, nothing to do with you." Even something that simple helps

4) At LEAST 2 significant, quality block of time per week. Even with studying I have time for that and we plan it ahead (back to the gcalendar, haha) so everyone can look forward to enjoying it.


Just my 2 cents. This is the man I plan to marry, so maintaining a strong relationship with him is really important to me....but it's also easy because he sees MY success as fundamental to OUR success and planning a life together...not sure it would be worth it otherwise. And honestly, who knows what will work for other people's relationships, this is just what works for us.

[bulldogblues]

3) On a similar note, I work really hard to separate my frustration/exhaustion/annoyance with the LSAT from our relationship. Like when I'm being snippy I'll say "practice didn't go well today, sorry I'm in a shitty mood, nothing to do with you." Even something that simple helps

I'm bad at this, I have to admit. If one of my PTs goes poorly, or I'm just frustrated with studying, I definitely can get an attitude with her. I think she knows it's not really about her, but I can see how that gets to be a bit much.

My GF understands the need to study because it ultimately means the better I do, the better the chances I have of getting into a school close to where she wants to work (aka I'll hopefully have a bigger list of schools to choose from)...I think there should be an SO support group to get them off our backs haha

[princeR]

Dude, my ex and I broke up BECAUSE of the LSAT. According to her, I was not making her a "priority". What's funny is that she also took the LSAT. We scored very similar on our December tests, but I opted to retake because I knew I could do better. She decided that she couldn't put herself through it again. I think studying for the LSAT and having an SO is a good indicator of how strong the relationship is lol.

[Micdiddy]

My wife had to suffer through my stint as on online poker semi-pro. 10 hour days of me sitting in one chair eating chicken tenders staring blankly at a screen randomly screaming "Yes!" or "No!" and bolting like Usain to the bathroom. Then even when I was done playing and technically spending time with her I'd be lost in my own mind replaying hand after hand.


If she still loves me after that, I don't think the LSAT is any match.

[Scotusnerd]

I think studying for the LSAT and having an SO is a good indicator of how strong the relationship is lol.

This. Mine kicked me in the ass when I didn't study enough. She understood that it was directly tied to my ease in getting through law school, and the payoff was potentially more than working full-time for a year. It sure paid off. We're together and stronger than ever.

AND I saved myself 30k on law school by switching to Geico!

[094320]

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[VariableChange]

"Need a friend? Get a Dog" -Gekko

[NoodleyOne]

My girlfriend has been pretty damn understanding, all things considered. She even listens to me bitch about the PTs and certain questions sometimes. That being said, she's counting the days until the 11th.

[banjo]

3) On a similar note, I work really hard to separate my frustration/exhaustion/annoyance with the LSAT from our relationship. Like when I'm being snippy I'll say "practice didn't go well today, sorry I'm in a shitty mood, nothing to do with you." Even something that simple helps

This is really, really considerate. Your boyfriend's lucky.

[TRex77]

I get pissed when I have to talk to my gf for 10 minutes on the phone. lol.

When I start studying I don't like to stop.

I give her one evening a weekt though. She's pissed, I can tell. But LSAT>gf for me.

[princeR]

I get pissed when I have to talk to my gf for 10 minutes on the phone. lol.

When I start studying I don't like to stop.

I give her one evening a weekt though. She's pissed, I can tell. But LSAT>gf for me.

lol, I was the same, now I no longer have a gf... fuck it, acquire high LSAT score disregard females.

[automaticfortheppl]

Out of pure coincidence I was out of the country the month before my girl's LSAT last June and she is currently doing the same right before mine. That sure saved a lot of arguments!

[cc.celina]

I give her one evening a weekt though. She's pissed, I can tell. But LSAT>gf for me.

What the heck!! Maybe its because I'm a girl, but talking to my boyfriend HELPS my lsat studying. You know, since I'm generally forgoing all other human contact pretty much every hour of the day...

[bulldogblues]

I get pissed when I have to talk to my gf for 10 minutes on the phone. lol.

When I start studying I don't like to stop.

I give her one evening a weekt though. She's pissed, I can tell. But LSAT>gf for me.

I'm definitely of the more 'balanced' type, but it definitely dominates my thinking pretty much all day. At least she nods and smiles when I talk about studying or RC or whatever...the only time she gets outright angry is when I turn her statements into LSAT questions, haha.

Deep down she understands, since she has to study hard for UG and I don't as much, but I can definitely tell I owe her in a week