Long-term Relationship/Engaged Forum

[James Bond]

go to good law school.-->have a good law career

LMFAO, like that's a guarantee at all

1. we all know that.
2. its not "LMFAO" funny. I mean really. You were LAUGHING YOUR FUCKING ASS OFF? Really?
3. Im assuming the reason it matters between t1 v t3 is job prospects. I was just simplifying it.

1. There are still tons of people applying to law schools. obviously not enough people know
2. It was at least "LOL" funny. Are we really arguing the semantics of internet slang? Really?
3. Your lists, and your attitude, suck

[Barbie]

My boyfriend is coming with me to law school. He's a business major so he can pretty much work in any city. I might end up having to commute a bit if I go somewhere near a big city but not in one (we would try to find a place between the two).

This will end well

He came with me to UG too. So far so good.

A lot easier to find a college that will take you than a job in a new city, commuting 1L is about as smart as Russian roulette, etc etc etc

I'm talking like a 30 minute commute. Which is less than what I drive in to work every morning now (over an hour, ughh). And he will manage a freakin Applebees if he needs to, just something that'll pay for our little three bedroom house.

[IAFG]

3 bedrooms? Applebee's so she can go to a school with weak job prospects? Wait, is barbie a flame?

[Barbie]

3 bedrooms? Applebee's so she can go to a school with weak job prospects? Wait, is barbie a flame?

Are you not understanding correctly? We have a three bedroom now and he is currently a manager at a local italian place. He makes enough now to afford where we live, and he hasn't yet graduated. Applebee's was obviously an exxagerated example, assuming his college degree doesn't grant him any further advantage than where he is now. I'm interested to know why you care so much?

[IAFG]

3 bedrooms? Applebee's so she can go to a school with weak job prospects? Wait, is barbie a flame?

Are you not understanding correctly? We have a three bedroom now and he is currently a manager at a local italian place. He makes enough now to afford where we live, and he hasn't yet graduated. Applebee's was obviously an exxagerated example, assuming his college degree doesn't grant him any further advantage than where he is now. I'm interested to know why you care so much?

ehh I don't really care either way

[starrydreamz3]

If I got into Harvard (a really big if!), I'd give it up in a heartbeat to be in NYC with my boyfriend of 5 years. Then again, Columbia and NYU aren't a big step downward for what I want to do with my life, so that's not a huge sacrifice.

[oreo3405]

I'm curious how many young people (20's) on this board would consider sacrificing school rankings on behalf of staying close to their significant other whom they could see marrying. More specifically, I'm wondering how many would give up schools like WUSTL, UIUC, Wisconsin, Iowa, and Bloomington at sticker to go to free rides at T3's such as Drake or Louisville. I've seen many threads regarding 30-somethings who are married or engaged or have kids who are clearly making the right choice and sticking by the partner.

The whole reason I'm curious is because my significant other is entering med school at either Louisville or Des Moines at the same time I will be entering law school, and both cities only have T3 schools.

I can 100% relate to this. Im 21 getting married in July, graduating in May and hoping to start LS in the fall (admissions pending). I am limited to applying to schools in the Philadelphia area, but my fiance (he is a police officer in Phila) is trying to find a job in the VA/DC/MD area so I applied to all the schools in those areas too. Not only did it make it pricey for me when applying since I'm regionally restricted, but you come to the point where its not just "you" anymore. Now it's "us". You learn to make the sacrifices necessary in order to be successful in what you are passionate about, but also supporting what he is passionate about as well. I am willing to go to where I can get into depending on where he can get a job.

In a perfect world, I'd get accepted to a school down south, he gets hired in a nice suburb and we'd move and live happier ever after. I just want to be able to get into a one school in both so I have the options, but who knows what the admissions process will be like. So to make a long story..a bit shorter, stick to your guns, follow your heart. It honestly depends on what kind of law you want to go to, and what kind of career path you want to take. If you can be successful by going to a T3 with what you want to do, then do it. Life is all about choices, and if you know 100% you are getting married to your SO, then you need to do to where you will be happy/successful in both your career and your personal life.

[mandaleni23]

I had to make a similar decision. It was difficult, but I put off law school for a couple years until my husband and I got settled.

Based on my experience:

Pros
In the interim I've worked as a paralegal, which I hope will get me bonus points on my application.
It gave me time to study and re-take my LSAT. (My first score was pretty ugly...)
I am 100% confident that I would like to practice law for the next 30-40 years, or so. I think that many people that go to law school right from undergrad do it hoping for a lucrative career, not necessarily because they like the work. (In fact, I'm pretty confident that many prospective law students don't really have a good grasp on the job.) My point here is that it is an opportunity to really weigh everything out and make a confident decision.

Cons
The law school admissions process is much, much more competitive now than it was when I was applying before...

I am still planning on commuting to law school because we won't be selling our house in this market, which stinks. Fortunately my top choice school is an hour away...
In the end I think it's worth it. A career isn't everything...but it is a lot. Don't compromise too much but sometimes a little compromise is worth it.

[krad]

My longtime SO is in his 2nd year of a 3 year surgical residency and we live together. I am applying to LS across the country. We've already agreed that we will spend my 1L in a long distance relationship ( barfff) because I will undoubtedly get into better schools than the ones around here. It won't be the end of the world because 1L will suck and his 3rd year is hell on earth. Plus he's already been through profesh school and knows what it entails.

But, he will be following me to where I am in school at the end of his residency, with the high probability of a $$$ job as long as I'm in a decent city, so I guess our situation is a little different...

As horrible as a year apart sounds, we're being realistic as to what's best for our careers. If it were longer, we'd still do it. Right now (mid/late 20's) career comes first for both of us, even though we're madly in love. Professional school takes some time, but if you're really serious with someone you also have the rest of your life to spend with them...

And yes, I've seen the 'stay home and profit' posts ITT, but I'm too driven to be Martha Stewart, even though I'm very good at cooking and getting crafty

[BriaTharen]

As pretty much every law professor told us at orientation, unless you are married or engaged go ahead and dump your significant other now because it will suck having to deal with a break-up during LS. While I still wouldn't have dumped him in the beginning, I can say having to deal with the break-up of a 4 year relationship in LS is tough. I don't know how much better the long distance relationship have it though, so it's a crapshoot.

If I were you, I'd pick a LS that is best for your career. After all, aren't you being put in this situation because she is going where she wants to go for med school? Why does she get full range of options and you don't?

[Nicholasnickynic]

As pretty much every law professor told us at orientation, unless you are married or engaged go ahead and dump your significant other now because it will suck having to deal with a break-up during LS. While I still wouldn't have dumped him in the beginning, I can say having to deal with the break-up of a 4 year relationship in LS is tough. I don't know how much better the long distance relationship have it though, so it's a crapshoot.

If I were you, I'd pick a LS that is best for your career. After all, aren't you being put in this situation because she is going where she wants to go for med school? Why does she get full range of options and you don't?

TITCR

[Barbie]

While I would advise most people to not go into LS with a significant other, I will be doing so myself. My boyfriend followed me to our UG, and now he is following me to law school. He's a business major, and can pretty much work anywhere and is very, very supportive. He's pretty much half the reason I've gotten to where I am now. It works for some, and not for others. However, neither of us would make BIG life sacrifices to be in the same city (If he got a big $$$ job offer here in FL and I still wanted to go to Illinois for law, for example). I guess it just depends on how things play out.

[tea_drinker]

While I would advise most people to not go into LS with a significant other, I will be doing so myself. My boyfriend followed me to our UG, and now he is following me to law school. He's a business major, and can pretty much work anywhere and is very, very supportive. He's pretty much half the reason I've gotten to where I am now. It works for some, and not for others. However, neither of us would make BIG life sacrifices to be in the same city (If he got a big $$$ job offer here in FL and I still wanted to go to Illinois for law, for example). I guess it just depends on how things play out.

Not trying to pick on you, but the bold statements sound wrong to me. Congrats on Illinois btw.