Parental units are chill about it. The lawyer jokes get old though.Kafkaesquire wrote:Has anyone grown up from a lower/middle class background, went to law school, and had their professional growth put strain on their old family relationships (for whatever reason)?
I know it's a pointless personal question, but I would enjoy it if people could humor me with pertinent anecdotes.
It's a Friday, guys. Don't take things too seriously
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Scotusnerd
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kay2016
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My parents are having a hard time realizing that the legal market sucks currently..
Dad constantly makes remarks about how my loans don't matter because ill make it all back.. So he's reluctant to help any, even though he'll be making 2-3 times what ill make if I'm lucky
Dad constantly makes remarks about how my loans don't matter because ill make it all back.. So he's reluctant to help any, even though he'll be making 2-3 times what ill make if I'm lucky
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TooOld4This
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And he's at least two decades closer to retirement than you and isn't the one that taking out the debt. If you don't like your debt to employment chances, rethink your law school decision.kayleighcheyenne wrote:My parents are having a hard time realizing that the legal market sucks currently..
Dad constantly makes remarks about how my loans don't matter because ill make it all back.. So he's reluctant to help any, even though he'll be making 2-3 times what ill make if I'm lucky
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jingosaur
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An ex-GF stopped talking to me when I said that I wanted to go to law school because law school was "her dream" and it's not fair that "I just wake up one day and decide I want to be a lawyer and can get into a better school". Other than that, most of my friends are suprisingly aware of how bad the legal market is and aren't jealous of me.
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Scotusnerd
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From the sound of it, making her an ex was a wise move.goldbh7 wrote:An ex-GF stopped talking to me when I said that I wanted to go to law school because law school was "her dream" and it's not fair that "I just wake up one day and decide I want to be a lawyer and can get into a better school". Other than that, most of my friends are suprisingly aware of how bad the legal market is and aren't jealous of me.
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kay2016
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Perfectly happy with my law school decision. Thanks.TooOld4This wrote:And he's at least two decades closer to retirement than you and isn't the one that taking out the debt. If you don't like your debt to employment chances, rethink your law school decision.kayleighcheyenne wrote:My parents are having a hard time realizing that the legal market sucks currently..
Dad constantly makes remarks about how my loans don't matter because ill make it all back.. So he's reluctant to help any, even though he'll be making 2-3 times what ill make if I'm lucky
Sorry if I wasn't clear, but I don't mean him pay for my LS. Just silly stuff, like for instance, he thinks I should refinance my car for living expenses and do other sorts of non student loan leveraging because he doesn't realize that the legal market is changing and that it isn't a guarantee that in three years I'll easily be making 6 figures and loans will be irrelevant.
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Rory19
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I think what is hard to stomach right now for me, as I am just now beginning law school, is people's immediate response of "well at least you'll be making bank for the rest of your life..." not necessarily, as we on TLS know all too well. People get frustrated with me for having anxiety about my future employment prospects and debt but I truly lose sleep over those two topics all the time. Its hard when those closest to you just don't get it.
On the other hand, in terms of family from humble roots, my grandmother literally sobbed when I told her about my scholarship. She said she had prayed for this every day and I should move across the country, pursue my dreams and know that she understood why I was gone and that she loved me. That was pretty awesome.
On the other hand, in terms of family from humble roots, my grandmother literally sobbed when I told her about my scholarship. She said she had prayed for this every day and I should move across the country, pursue my dreams and know that she understood why I was gone and that she loved me. That was pretty awesome.
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Kafkaesquire
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Yeah. I don't even know what to say about our legal job market. Part of me seriously wishes that a bunch of lawyers would just drop off the planet so that I could stop feeling financial anxiety about my decision to practice law.Rory19 wrote:I think what is hard to stomach right now for me, as I am just now beginning law school, is people's immediate response of "well at least you'll be making bank for the rest of your life..." not necessarily, as we on TLS know all too well. People get frustrated with me for having anxiety about my future employment prospects and debt but I truly lose sleep over those two topics all the time. Its hard when those closest to you just don't get it.
On the other hand, in terms of family from humble roots, my grandmother literally sobbed when I told her about my scholarship. She said she had prayed for this every day and I should move across the country, pursue my dreams and know that she understood why I was gone and that she loved me. That was pretty awesome.
Oh, well. At least I have an engineering degree to help me out.
Edit: My parents think they wasted their money by helping me get through engineering, and then having me decide to potentially become a patent lawyer. "Since you’re going to law school, your engineering degree is a waste." "No, dad. I may still need it." “Oh (*doesn't understand and immediately loses interest*)."
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laotze
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Similar but sort of inverse issue with mine. My family simply can't comprehend why I would choose to pay ~half sticker at a T14 (i.e. nearly six figure debt) rather than accept a full ride at a low T50 or a TTT. No matter how many times I explain the economics of the situation, they refuse to believe that a 90% shot at legal employment with more debt might be a smarter gamble than a 30% shot (make that <10% biglaw) at legal employment with less debt.kayleighcheyenne wrote:My parents are having a hard time realizing that the legal market sucks currently..
Dad constantly makes remarks about how my loans don't matter because ill make it all back.. So he's reluctant to help any, even though he'll be making 2-3 times what ill make if I'm lucky
It's worsened by the fact that some of the TTTs in question have fantastic undergraduate reputations, and they can't possibly imagine how a school with great academics in one degree could be a comparative shithole in another.
Not once have they congratulated me on my T14 acceptances; every law school related conversation consists of berating me for my failure to take the "free" option.
/Bitchfest
