Law school with a spouse Forum

[SemperLegal]

Actually, screw it. I'm going to stand up for my honest and not-at-all-weird lifestyle, we've both occasionally asked the other to keep us company during a long, less stinky poop, especially if the need arose in the middle of a conversation.

This is hilarious but seriously does your wife know you're posting about her pooping on tls?

Not specifically as to TLS, but she's loud and proud about her lack of a socially aware bowel. She's even suggested other married couples remove their ensuite bathroom doors.

[BVest]

Actually, screw it. I'm going to stand up for my honest and not-at-all-weird lifestyle, we've both occasionally asked the other to keep us company during a long, less stinky poop, especially if the need arose in the middle of a conversation.

This is hilarious but seriously does your wife know you're posting about her pooping on tls?

... but you don't need to talk about it (especially about someone else doing it).

[ETA: This is a philosophy I subscribe to even as a parent.]



ETA2:

She's even suggested other married couples remove their ensuite bathroom doors.

That's just weird.

[A. Nony Mouse]

I mean it's a nice thought, but stay woke. Law students estimate their individual chances of divorce 9% lower than the general population, but are 12% more likely to get one.


http://www.law.harvard.edu/programs/oli ... l1iJICN5ww

Isn't that just Harvard law students, though? I mean...

Sorry about the dead link. NoBlades found the article, I don't think the survey was limited to Harvard, just published there.

From what I saw in the article, the law student survey was of 91 Harvard law students.

[A. Nony Mouse]

... but you don't need to talk about it (especially about someone else doing it).

[ETA: This is a philosophy I subscribe to even as a parent.]

I know some married couples have no boundaries but the husband and I have mutually agreed that pretty much the only mystery we want to maintain in our marriage is who's doing what in the bathroom.

[SemperLegal]

... but you don't need to talk about it (especially about someone else doing it).

Stop being a self-hating pooper and trying to shit-shame people.

[TLSModBot]

TLS: turning well-intentioned on-topic threads into (literal) shit-shows.

[SemperLegal]

I mean it's a nice thought, but stay woke. Law students estimate their individual chances of divorce 9% lower than the general population, but are 12% more likely to get one.


http://www.law.harvard.edu/programs/oli ... l1iJICN5ww

Isn't that just Harvard law students, though? I mean...

Sorry about the dead link. NoBlades found the article, I don't think the survey was limited to Harvard, just published there.

From what I saw in the article, the law student survey was of 91 Harvard law students.

You are probably right, I'm on my phone. I suspect that you can extrapolate to all schools. I think the mechanism is: Everyone thinks their marriage is a special snow flake, law students are especially susceptible to thinking their shit don't stink (pun intended), and lawyers do have a higher divorce rate*.

As a result, I think pessimism (as long as it isn't self justification) is TCR. Odds are overwhelming that your marriage will be tested, and (sadly) it'd fairly close to even money that it'll fail. So, I don't blindly trust our love or commitment, alone, to get us through.

*I can try to find supporting data if you want, but I honestly don't think that's in dispute.

[A. Nony Mouse]

Honestly, I think Harvard law students are pretty...special.

(The first google result I got for "rate of divorce by profession" actually came back with this list:

15) Maids and housekeeping cleaners -- 26.38% divorce rate
14) Roofers -- 26.85% divorce rate
13) Waiters/waitresses -- 27.12% divorce rate
12) Telemarketers -- 28.10% divorce rate
11) Baggage porters and concierges -- 28.49% divorce rate
10) Entertainers and performers, sports and related workers -- 28.49% divorce
9) Nursing, psychiatric, and home health aides -- 28.95% divorce rate
Telephone operators -- 29.30% divorce rate
7) Factory workers: food & tobacco -- 29.78% divorce rate
6) Gaming service worker -- 31.35% divorce rate
5) Extruding machine operator -- 32.74%
4) Gaming cage worker -- 34.66% divorce rate
3) Massage therapists -- 38.22% divorce rate
2) Bartenders -- 38.43% divorce rate
1) Dancers & choreographers -- 43.05% divorce rate

No idea how good the study is, but it's the one that seems to be out there, since all the other results on the first google page were the same list.)

[NoBladesNoBows]

[TLSModBot]

Seems like the takeaway here is: ymmv

Agreed. A little snarky, but ymmv has good taste in video games so he'd be okay as a spouse.

[NoBladesNoBows]

[Gray]

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[jepper]

The best part of being in law school with a spouse is that I get to get home to my wife and remember no one gives a fuck about what's happening at law school.

[84651846190]

The best part of being in law school with a spouse is that I get to get home to my wife and remember no one gives a fuck about what's happening at law school.

This. Law students are hilariously self-centered and incapable of extricating themselves from the 24/7 law school social/networking lifestyle. I was involved in a number of activities with my spouse (who was enrolled in a non-law graduate program at my school) outside of law school and when some dumbass law school event coincided with something we had already decided we were going to all my classmates were like "BUT DON'T YOU WANT TO GO TO [dumb law school social thing]!?!? EVERYONE IS GOING!!!"

I made a conscious decision to build relationships with people I knew were going into my area of law (which I wisely chose early during my time at law school), but other than them I did not give a fuck about anyone other than people I thought were chill (few and far between in the striver-infested confines of my law school).

[jepper]

The best part of being in law school with a spouse is that I get to get home to my wife and remember no one gives a fuck about what's happening at law school.

This. Law students are hilariously self-centered and incapable of extricating themselves from the 24/7 law school social/networking lifestyle. I was involved in a number of activities with my spouse (who was enrolled in a non-law graduate program at my school) outside of law school and when some dumbass law school event coincided with something we had already decided we were going to all my classmates were like "BUT DON'T YOU WANT TO GO TO [dumb law school social thing]!?!? EVERYONE IS GOING!!!"

I made a conscious decision to build relationships with people I knew were going into my area of law (which I wisely chose early during my time at law school), but other than them I did not give a fuck about anyone other than people I thought were chill (few and far between in the striver-infested confines of my law school).

Yes.

[patentlitigatrix]

The best part of being in law school with a spouse is that I get to get home to my wife and remember no one gives a fuck about what's happening at law school.

This. Law students are hilariously self-centered and incapable of extricating themselves from the 24/7 law school social/networking lifestyle. I was involved in a number of activities with my spouse (who was enrolled in a non-law graduate program at my school) outside of law school and when some dumbass law school event coincided with something we had already decided we were going to all my classmates were like "BUT DON'T YOU WANT TO GO TO [dumb law school social thing]!?!? EVERYONE IS GOING!!!"

I made a conscious decision to build relationships with people I knew were going into my area of law (which I wisely chose early during my time at law school), but other than them I did not give a fuck about anyone other than people I thought were chill (few and far between in the striver-infested confines of my law school).

All of the above, and esp. the bolded.

My husband was in business school at the same time I was in law school, with his two years overlapping with the first two of my three years. For the first month or so, we went to each other's events, but eventually realized that neither of us wanted to go to lame law and biz school events with people we generally don't like. (I actually think the biz school people were worse than the law school people, but anyways.) And then we limited ourselves to a small group of people we liked, which is what normal adults do anyways.

[thriller1122]

The OMG LAW SCHOOL IS SO HARD AND TIME CONSUMING thing is largely flame, IMO. Law students are just the type of people who naturally get stressed out and complain about everything so that's why that myth gets perpetuated.

The other aspect of this is an inflated sense of self-importance thanks to Facebook and all the social media nonsense that conditions us to over-analyze and over-dramatize everything we do. Meeting veterans has given me perspective in this regard: if I screw up a legal writing assignment, it is inconsequential; if they had screwed up in their former jobs, people could die. Realizing this, it is kind of silly to get stressed during the former situation.

+1. School is hard no doubt but it is nothing like a military career. You'll be fine. UT won't non vol you for a 365.