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[HWS08]

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[MellowMantis]

why don't you just tell them this instead of passive aggressively posting it on an on-line forum?

[lsatcrazy]

Whatever you do, don't do this

[HWS08]

why don't you just tell them this instead of passive aggressively posting it on an on-line forum?

Because I am just venting and, traditionally, telling someone they are behaving rudely is considered just as rude as the offending behavior. Plus I like being friendly with my classmates and I don't want people to think I am b@thcy for complaining about this at school. Also, the original post was posed as a question. Maybe this is actually a common thing and my thoughts on etiquette are just behind the times.

[I.P. Daly]

Bitchy, yes; rude, no. It's customary and polite to take your phone conversations outside. Many libraries have explicit policies that ban cell phone conversations in the library.

[Ded Precedent]

Saying something in that sort of situation accomplishes nothing. You could possibly talk to a librarian and ask that they try to enforce the rule better but calling him out will probably only stop him from talking for the rest of the day and will certainly make you look like a cunt.

[NeighborGuy]

With the time and and emotional energy you spent getting pissed off about this, you could have bought some earplugs and gotten back to work.

[Tom Joad]

I get all the best calls when I am in the library. I assume it is karma for studying.

[bport hopeful]

It depends on your library really. Id agree that generally the rule is to be quiet. My library has three floors, and it generally recognized that anything goes on the fourth floor.

[portaprokoss]

A few years ago I dropped a note, complaining about the noise level, in the comment box at my undergraduate library. I was pissed that someone was eating chips & talking on the phone in the "quiet" reading room, but generally the library was a silent place to study. Weirdly, over the next month the librarians started a nazi-esque campagin to keep the library quieter. They had hundreds of glossy, table trees printed with pictures like this: . They put one at virtually every place you could sit, at every desk, on all 6 floors . . . it must have been a 1k+ print job. They always had someone on patrol that hassled people about typing too loud or putting their stuff down too hard; even I, the complainer, thought it was over the top.

...wait. Why the hell am I typing this lame ass story to share with pretend internet friends instead of studying? Peace.

[eandy]

It depends on your library really. Id agree that generally the rule is to be quiet. My library has three floors, and it generally recognized that anything goes on the fourth floor.

This. We have two buildings (connected by bridge) of our library. In one of them, it is more high school cafeteria hang out spot than library. I talk on the phone in there a lot (but never longer than five minutes). If everyone around me is chatting to other people, what difference does it make if I am on the phone?

I would never do it in the quiet area of the library, though. Seriously, though, if it bothers you to have noise around you--suck it up or study at home. You can't expect the general public to change their behavior to meet your individual needs.

[zomginternets]

This one really weird guy in my section would walk through the main level of our library talking on his phone while on speaker. It's mind-boggling how socially ungraceful some people are.