Married During Law School? Forum

[jcl2]

I don't think getting married is that much of a life changing experience and won't really change your law school experience much, assuming you have already been in a committed relationship for a while. The idea that once you are married you can no longer relate or interact socially with unmarried people seems bizarre to me. I got married just before starting a masters program a few years ago and I don't think my experience would have been that different if I had not been married. I had single friends, couple friends, and married friends, I went out to the bars on occasion, I went to and threw parties on occasion, and I stayed in and did things with just my wife sometimes; not really any different than if I had just been in a serious committed non-married relationship. Having kids on the other hand does change things a little, since you can't just go out whenever you want without making plans ahead of time. I have a three month old now and will be starting law school in the fall, my schedule will be a little more structured and restricted than a lot of my peers, but I don't think it will prevent me from having friends that don't have kids and/or aren't married.

[Na_Swatch]

So you're married to a rich Russian oligarch who is funding your education with oil money??

not russian and no oil money ... indeed, if that were the case, I wouldn't have taken out any student loans.

I revise my guess to a Japanese Heiress whose domineering father expects a son-in-law with a law degree. The money is limited as he refuses to release the inheritance until all his conditions are met.

[chadwick218]

I'm confused. You dislike her, yet you take her money every month. Does she know you dislike her?

I've never asked ... I don't really know ... right now, divorce is too much of a hassle and I figure that I will just let things play out until after OCI next year.

[kittenmittons]

PM me her info when yall split up. I like the sound of this arrangement

[goosey]

chadwick..wow. sorry to hear that. sounds crappy

[jks289]

chadwick..wow. sorry to hear that. sounds crappy

+1 that's really rough. Hope it works out for you guys.

[LSATfromNC]

[quote="jcl2"]I don't think getting married is that much of a life changing experience and won't really change your law school experience much, assuming you have already been in a committed relationship for a while. The idea that once you are married you can no longer relate or interact socially with unmarried people seems bizarre to me. I got married just before starting a masters program a few years ago and I don't think my experience would have been that different if I had not been married. I had single friends, couple friends, and married friends, I went out to the bars on occasion, I went to and threw parties on occasion, and I stayed in and did things with just my wife sometimes; not really any different than if I had just been in a serious committed non-married relationship. Having kids on the other hand does change things a little, since you can't just go out whenever you want without making plans ahead of time. I have a three month old now and will be starting law school in the fall, my schedule will be a little more structured and restricted than a lot of my peers, but I don't think it will prevent me from having friends that don't have kids and/or aren't married.[/quote]

Prepare yourself my friend, prepare yourself

I have a 2 year old and we just started over again with our second, yikes! busy busy busy

[MC Southstar]

PM me her info when yall split up. I like the sound of this arrangement

+1 i can help increase the odds

[jks289]

I don't think getting married is that much of a life changing experience and won't really change your law school experience much, assuming you have already been in a committed relationship for a while. The idea that once you are married you can no longer relate or interact socially with unmarried people seems bizarre to me. I got married just before starting a masters program a few years ago and I don't think my experience would have been that different if I had not been married. I had single friends, couple friends, and married friends, I went out to the bars on occasion, I went to and threw parties on occasion, and I stayed in and did things with just my wife sometimes; not really any different than if I had just been in a serious committed non-married relationship. Having kids on the other hand does change things a little, since you can't just go out whenever you want without making plans ahead of time. I have a three month old now and will be starting law school in the fall, my schedule will be a little more structured and restricted than a lot of my peers, but I don't think it will prevent me from having friends that don't have kids and/or aren't married.[/quote]

Prepare yourself my friend, prepare yourself

I have a 2 year old and we just started over again with our second, yikes! busy busy busy

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Off topic aside but at the Stanford Law graduation, students with families walk across the stage to get their degrees with their kids (mostly little babies). It is really, really cute.

[jcl2]

I don't think getting married is that much of a life changing experience and won't really change your law school experience much, assuming you have already been in a committed relationship for a while. The idea that once you are married you can no longer relate or interact socially with unmarried people seems bizarre to me. I got married just before starting a masters program a few years ago and I don't think my experience would have been that different if I had not been married. I had single friends, couple friends, and married friends, I went out to the bars on occasion, I went to and threw parties on occasion, and I stayed in and did things with just my wife sometimes; not really any different than if I had just been in a serious committed non-married relationship. Having kids on the other hand does change things a little, since you can't just go out whenever you want without making plans ahead of time. I have a three month old now and will be starting law school in the fall, my schedule will be a little more structured and restricted than a lot of my peers, but I don't think it will prevent me from having friends that don't have kids and/or aren't married.[/quote]

Prepare yourself my friend, prepare yourself

I have a 2 year old and we just started over again with our second, yikes! busy busy busy

[/quote]

Oh I know, life is already pretty crazy, you definitely don't realize how much work a baby is until you have one, and I'm not expecting it to get any easier for about 18 years. I am, however, looking forward to having a slightly more flexible schedule next year, even if I am working similar or more total hours to what I am doing now. Definitely planning on waiting until after law school to have a second though.

[UFMatt]

I'll be a little older than most when I start this fall (28 years old), and I'm married. Fortunately my wife is awesome, well-educated, and has a career. We both made it through grad school for 5 years just fine, despite late nights working, etc., so I don't think law school will be any different. It's all about having an understanding with each other.

I'm curious how the social dynamic with my classmates will turn out though. I suspect I'll gravitate toward other married couples, but who knows. I don't think it'll be a big issue.