Am I being too uptight about this? Forum

[vanwinkle]

Hey Bro, can I visit you for a week in the third week of August?

No no, you're doing it wrong. Watch:

Hey Bro, I'm visiting for a week in the third week of August. I'm going to need a spare key and your car. Oh, and I'm going to borrow your girlfriend, too, hope you don't mind. Thanks!

[romothesavior]

Your friend is being incredibly rude. There is nothing wrong with occasionally crashing somewhere with permission, and I'm sure I'll allow friends to stay with me once in a while (only on weekends, and never more than a night or two).

But school should come first and your privacy should be a close second. This guy needs to respect that.

[quickquestionthanks]

I bet he's messing with you. You're probably super uptight and he wouldn't really want to hang out with you anyway.

[StudentAthlete]

Your friend doesnt sound like much of a friend.

[esq]

I think that there is more to the story than the OP lets onto. UC Hastings? San Francisco? Dude OK with letting another dude make him his Nancy? Uptight? Not divulging more details? We are clearly involved in a lovers feud here people.

[20160810]

I agree with everyone else here. If a friend needs to crash for a night once in a while (esp. if they have travelled a long distance for the express purpose of hanging out with you), then yes, you are obligated to let them. But if someone just asks for a key so they don't have to catch the last BART train back to Berkeley before they pass out 3x/week, they're using you and you're totally within your rights to say no.

[hopefulapp]

I'd be extremely worried giving a key to anyone: not because of the inconvenience, but because of the safety/liability concerns. The idea of a somewhat close ex college friend inviting himself and others into my place of living while I'm gone gives me shivers.

[zeth006]

Thanks for the advice, guys. Helped ease my conscience. Long story short, problem solved. I couldn't help noticing the passive-aggressive posture he took with me when I explained the whole situation. Laters.

[dood]

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[zeth006]

this guy is NOT your friend, FYI. fuck his passive aggressive shit, you need to get aggressive on his ass...ur totally being taken advantaged of...hes treating u like a chump. stand up for urself. NOT ur friend....not even close.

No worries. Not the first time I've put my foot down with him.



I guess my weakness has always been knowing how to be an ass when necessary. I guess that's what law school's for minus stealing books and sabotaging my classmates.

[Marmot]

I live in the same city as a friend who's been close since preschool. We're talking trust-me-with-anything for more than two decades. I would never ask for a key to his place unless he asked me to water his plants while he was gone, or something like that.

You were NOT being an ass, and this guy does NOT sound like a friend.

[go4hls]

You were NOT being an ass, and this guy does NOT sound like a friend.

+1

[trialjunky]

this guy is NOT your friend, FYI. fuck his passive aggressive shit, you need to get aggressive on his ass...ur totally being taken advantaged of...hes treating u like a chump. stand up for urself. NOT ur friend....not even close.

God I havent heard someone use the word "chump" in a really long time...I am going to start breaking it out again.

[romothesavior]

this guy is NOT your friend, FYI. fuck his passive aggressive shit, you need to get aggressive on his ass...ur totally being taken advantaged of...hes treating u like a chump. stand up for urself. NOT ur friend....not even close.

God I havent heard someone use the word "chump" in a really long time...I am going to start breaking it out again.

+1. Chump is a great word.