Rude Office Behavior Forum

[Anonymous User]

Am I being overly picky and difficult? I have an office mate, but her friend constantly barges into our shared office at least five or so times throughout the day just for social reasons, and they are so incredibly loud when I’m trying to focus and get my work done. I understand that having a shared office means that there will be visitors, but I find their behavior pretty rude.

[mvp99]

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[Anonymous User]

Am I being overly picky and difficult? I have an office mate, but her friend constantly barges into our shared office at least five or so times throughout the day just for social reasons, and they are so incredibly loud when I’m trying to focus and get my work done. I understand that having a shared office means that there will be visitors, but I find their behavior pretty rude.

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[pierredelecto7]

Rude office behavior in a law office setting has blown up many careers. It's more prevalent among those in their 20s. I've seen T14s in Big Law with 176 LSATs who never made partner due to rudeness.

[Res Ipsa Loquitter]

Just say something. Probably won’t fix it but social unawareness and ineptitude is a constant in any big law firm

[randomthrowaway]

Rude office behavior in a law office setting has blown up many careers. It's more prevalent among those in their 20s. I've seen T14s in Big Law with 176 LSATs who never made partner due to rudeness.

Absolutely, we had a super smart attorney who was brilliant but just extremely rude and abrasive to everyone, including partners she worked for. She probably could have made partner but her attitude was such an issue that she was taken off track because everyone was worried about her being rude to a client. She ended up going to another firm and is stuck in a forever-associate loop.

[Anonymous User]

Rude office behavior in a law office setting has blown up many careers. It's more prevalent among those in their 20s. I've seen T14s in Big Law with 176 LSATs who never made partner due to rudeness.

I think there's a difference between being rude and abrasive vs. being rude and oblivious.

This sounds like the latter rather than the former. These two probably don't realize how disruptive they are being, and the next time it happens and OP is busy, they should just speak up and say "do you guys mind going to get coffee or chilling in the cafeteria? I have to read this doc that's super convoluted and need to focus for like the next 30 minutes or so".

[pierredelecto7]

a forever-associate loop

from randomthrowaway, above

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[mardash]

Am I being overly picky and difficult? I have an office mate, but her friend constantly barges into our shared office at least five or so times throughout the day just for social reasons, and they are so incredibly loud when I’m trying to focus and get my work done. I understand that having a shared office means that there will be visitors, but I find their behavior pretty rude.

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And passive aggressively shove them on when they start talking.

[Prudent_Jurist]

Am I being overly picky and difficult? I have an office mate, but her friend constantly barges into our shared office at least five or so times throughout the day just for social reasons, and they are so incredibly loud when I’m trying to focus and get my work done. I understand that having a shared office means that there will be visitors, but I find their behavior pretty rude.

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And passive aggressively shove them on when they start talking.

I concur. Passive-aggressively disconnect your laptop, but make sure to forcefully close the lid, then shuffle papers together as chaotically as possible before stomping out of the room. For bonus points, make direct eye contact with each of them as you storm past.

[Anonymous User]

Am I being overly picky and difficult? I have an office mate, but her friend constantly barges into our shared office at least five or so times throughout the day just for social reasons, and they are so incredibly loud when I’m trying to focus and get my work done. I understand that having a shared office means that there will be visitors, but I find their behavior pretty rude.

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And passive aggressively shove them on when they start talking.

I concur. Passive-aggressively disconnect your laptop, but make sure to forcefully close the lid, then shuffle papers together as chaotically as possible before stomping out of the room. For bonus points, make direct eye contact with each of them as you storm past.

I like to accidentally unmute Teams/Zoom when they're talking about something embarassing.

[LBJ's Hair]

very casually -- "Folks, I'd love to chat but I'm trying to knock something out. Mind taking this to [the cafeteria/the break room/outside]"

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