Plus one million. All these “getting yelled at is part of the job” posts are blowing my mind. None of my jobs, it’s not. It is not some kind of special entitled attitude to require bosses treat you with a bare minimum of decorum in not yelling or screaming at you, and to the extent there are bosses that refuse, I won’t work for them. Others can do it if they want, but don’t act like it’s a requirement to be employed as a lawyer. It’s not.JusticeSquee wrote:Getting yelled at is not “part of the job.” This is a moronic thing to say. Do not put up with people yelling at you.hlsperson1111 wrote:The bolded is obviously correct in principle, but the line between "abusive behavior" and the ordinary criticism associated with a high-stress, high-stakes, high-compensation job is very fine and not where most young associates think it is. Getting yelled at is part of the job (particularly when you are a junior associate and don't know any better), and the best way to avoid it is to get better at the job or to figure out how to work with people you jive with better.papermateflair wrote:In most big law firms, personality conflicts, work product issues, and similar things are usually handled outside of the HR process. HR handles a lot of things for non-attorneys (like compensation discussions, performance issues, etc) that attorneys will handle themselves internally. It doesn't make a ton of sense, but that's the way it is. Obviously there are times to go to HR (if you're being harassed, if you need to talk about going out on FMLA, if you need ADA accommodations, etc.) but most run of the mill issues are handled outside of HR. Going to HR because someone criticized you isn't how things work in law firms. It probably seems like we're all piling on, OP, but I think it's important for you to understand the "unwritten rules" of law firm life if you want to be successful.
That doesn't mean you need to put up with abusive behavior or anything like that. If a senior associate behaved inappropriately towards you when giving you criticism, talk to someone about what to do - maybe start with a junior or mid-level you trust and find out what the scoop is, and if they think it makes sense to raise it up the flagpole to someone more senior. Maybe consider talking to a partner mentor to see how they suggest handling it (without naming names, if possible). Ultimately, if the partner who oversees the senior thinks the behavior was inappropriate, then it's up to them to fix it. If they don't care about it, then, well, that sucks and isn't the way things should be, but the reality is that you're working for a small business (each partner with their own clients is their own little business), or a series of small businesses, and it's up to the "boss" to figure it out.
(Now, what constitutes yelling is an entirely different debate, but I’m talking about inappropriately raised voices in anger; not criticism alone or even criticism with an unpleasant tone.)