I think I ruined my career prospects at firm Forum

Anonymous User · Post by **Anonymous User** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 2:49 am

Help! Long time lurker, first time poster spurred by a crisis. I’m a new associate at a V100. I had a bad encounter with a well known, rainmaking partner at my firm today and don’t know what to do.

The story: This partner has a very distinct blazer that he wears frequently. I went to wash my hands after lunch and noticed he was in a stall because this blazer was hanging over the side (I also could make out his fancy shoes underneath the door). I left, but had to return 30 minutes later to use the bathroom. He was still in the stall. As I was washing my hands at the sink, he finally came out of the stall. I looked up and made eye contact. I didn’t know what to say, and blurted out of nervousness “lot of Mexican food this week huh?”

His response was unintelligible.

As we finished washing our hands I decided to introduce myself. I reached out reached out my hand and said "I don’t think we’ve met I’m 'name'”. He brushed past and said sarcastically “my pleasure”.

Super awkward every time I see him now. What should I do? I’m scared I’m going to get canned

Anonymous User · Post by **Anonymous User** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 3:02 am

This could not have happened.

Aergia · Post by **Aergia** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 4:35 am

You fucked up when you didn’t immediately offer him some pepto bismol.

jbagelboy · Post by **jbagelboy** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 8:58 am

bobrino · Post by **bobrino** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:04 am

Retake

objctnyrhnr · Post by **objctnyrhnr** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:08 am

I don’t believe this happened because, assuming the first thing happened, you have to have realized how absurd it was. That’s why it doesn’t make sense to me that you’d introduce yourself by name immediately afterwards.

jd20132013 · Post by **jd20132013** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:51 am

this didn't happen , work on making these more believable

Damage Over Time · Post by **Damage Over Time** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 10:00 am

People don't shake hands in the bathroom

kellyfrost · Post by **kellyfrost** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 10:12 am

Also not believable because no one hangs their blazer over the side of the stall. That is absurd.

pancakes3 · Post by **pancakes3** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 10:36 am

you deserve to be fired

Graybrow · Post by **Graybrow** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 10:56 am

But how does this tie into the lay prestige of Cornell vs NYU?

Anonymous User · Post by **Anonymous User** » Thu Jan 25, 2018 11:53 pm

OP here. I know it sounds super ridiculous but I am not joking. I have really bad anxiety sometimes (different story I don't want to get into on here) and when it happens my mind starts moving a mile a minute... looking back it's ridiculous I did what I did and I'm so embarrassed. I think I was trying to be funny with the first comment but I didn't think before I spoke... then I was trying to save face by the introduction but obviously that was not proper etiquette either

Is there anything I can do? Should I email the partner to apologize?

Anonymous User · Post by **Anonymous User** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 12:34 am

In the off chance this is serious:
No, do not email the partner about your comment re his bowel movements. Pretend that the conversation never happened. That's what he wants.

spha12 · Post by **spha12** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 1:14 am

spha12 · Post by **spha12** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 1:14 am

Anonymous User wrote:This could not have happened.

I agree. This must be a troll.

Anonymous User · Post by **Anonymous User** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 1:30 am

Anonymous User wrote:In the off chance this is serious:
No, do not email the partner about your comment re his bowel movements. Pretend that the conversation never happened. That's what he wants.

OP here. Thank you. Would you recommend taking 'any' action at all or just lay low and hope this blows over?

whats an updog · Post by **whats an updog** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 4:58 am

If this isn't fake, first, lay low. Anything you do/say can only make this worse. But more importantly, what type of low shelf firm has stalls without floor to ceiling walls?

RCSOB657 · Post by **RCSOB657** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 10:15 am

Should totally sponsor a taco bar for your next firm lunch.

magnum_law · Post by **magnum_law** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 10:49 am

I would email the partner first thing Monday morning (after he's had time to calm down) and apologize profusely.

Make sure to CC all the partners in his practice group and any others that you frequently work with. You want to counteract any possible bad-mouthing that he might have done

Nagster5 · Post by **Nagster5** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 12:17 pm

Order him lunch from a Mexican place and deliver it to his office. It will show you have a good sense of humor about the whole thing and want to make it up to him. Not talking about it just makes it awkward, bring it up at every opportunity and laugh about it, he will see you don't take yourself too seriously.

cron1834 · Post by **cron1834** » Fri Jan 26, 2018 12:39 pm

whats an updog wrote:If this isn't fake, first, lay low. Anything you do/say can only make this worse. But more importantly, what type of low shelf firm has stalls without floor to ceiling walls?

Love the full walls.

Anonymous User · Post by **Anonymous User** » Sat Jan 27, 2018 12:04 am

cron1834 wrote:
whats an updog wrote:If this isn't fake, first, lay low. Anything you do/say can only make this worse. But more importantly, what type of low shelf firm has stalls without floor to ceiling walls?
Love the full walls.

I barely just started at the firm I don't know the rationale behind their bathroom architecture decisions. Should I email the partner about that too? smdh

Anonymous User · Post by **Anonymous User** » Sat Jan 27, 2018 12:05 am

Thank you for humor glad you are all taking my embarrassment so seriously.... does anyone else have suggestions on what I might want to do?

jd20132013 · Post by **jd20132013** » Sat Jan 27, 2018 12:20 am

I suggest learning from
This experience and making your troll topics less unbelievable

Anonymous User · Post by **Anonymous User** » Sat Jan 27, 2018 1:23 am

As a managing partner he was probably just concerned about the latent racism in the original "joke"

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