Are you "okay" with your employer/boss? Forum

[Anonymous User]

Wow only 28% terrible bosses. There is still hope in this field.

After today I'd like to amend my vote to "terrible"...lol.

Now you gotta tell us the story.

Today was just a lot of passive-aggression, but as an example of my history with the guy, I once sent him a draft of something I had no info for, explaining what I did do/couldn't do until I had all the info, and he literally questioned my intelligence and asked if the task was too hard for me because he misread the email and thought I hadn't done the thing I explicitly said I did in my email. An hour or so later he sent another email indicating that he finally read the draft I sent him ("I see that you added the things I told you to add") and then proceeded to add italics to the draft and send it out.

[Anonymous User]

Wow only 28% terrible bosses. There is still hope in this field.

After today I'd like to amend my vote to "terrible"...lol.

Now you gotta tell us the story.

Today was just a lot of passive-aggression, but as an example of my history with the guy, I once sent him a draft of something I had no info for, explaining what I did do/couldn't do until I had all the info, and he literally questioned my intelligence and asked if the task was too hard for me because he misread the email and thought I hadn't done the thing I explicitly said I did in my email. An hour or so later he sent another email indicating that he finally read the draft I sent him ("I see that you added the things I told you to add") and then proceeded to add italics to the draft and send it out.

Lol the funny thing is this type of behavior is somewhat "normal" in law practice, but in EVERY OTHER PROFESSION (almost) the boss would own up to their mistake unless they were super computer illiterate.

[zot1]

Wow only 28% terrible bosses. There is still hope in this field.

After today I'd like to amend my vote to "terrible"...lol.

Now you gotta tell us the story.

Today was just a lot of passive-aggression, but as an example of my history with the guy, I once sent him a draft of something I had no info for, explaining what I did do/couldn't do until I had all the info, and he literally questioned my intelligence and asked if the task was too hard for me because he misread the email and thought I hadn't done the thing I explicitly said I did in my email. An hour or so later he sent another email indicating that he finally read the draft I sent him ("I see that you added the things I told you to add") and then proceeded to add italics to the draft and send it out.

Lol the funny thing is this type of behavior is somewhat "normal" in law practice, but in EVERY OTHER PROFESSION (almost) the boss would own up to their mistake unless they were super computer illiterate.

Meh. I work with a lot of supervisors who work in other fields, and you find good and bad supervisors like in everything else. Less screamers though, that's for sure.

[shock259]

Pretty great. I got lucky.

[Anonymous User]

My boss is awesome but I'm also only a few months in.

She either compliments my work or expresses appreciation every few days, seemingly sincerely. It's over the top and I'm starting to wonder if it's fake. But if so, why?

I do struggle with self confidence and imposter syndrome super badly so maybe she has picked up on that.

This feels like a humblebrag but for the record I'm in midlaw and make barely over half of what you biglaw people make.

[Anonymous User]

Every other morning:

My boss: "You are being dishonest with me right now. If you keep doing this I will not work with you!"
Me: "What? I'm just reporting the facts I gathered from discovery. Why would I lie about the facts I summarized for you? I have no motive to tell you something untrue."
My boss: "No you told me X yesterday, and now you are telling me it's really Y. Which is it!?!?"
Me: "No what I meant to say is..."
My boss: "Stop! just stop. You need to speak accurately and not make up bullshit."
Me: ".........."

Every once in a while out of a blue

My boss: "You are gifted and talented. You will be successful I have no doubt."
Me : ".........."

[zot1]

My boss is awesome but I'm also only a few months in.

She either compliments my work or expresses appreciation every few days, seemingly sincerely. It's over the top and I'm starting to wonder if it's fake. But if so, why?

I do struggle with self confidence and imposter syndrome super badly so maybe she has picked up on that.

This feels like a humblebrag but for the record I'm in midlaw and make barely over half of what you biglaw people make.

Don't worry about it being fake. Trust yourself that you're doing good work.

[1styearlateral]

Can someone explain why it matters if a partner yells at you? I've gotten yelled at before, but I don't lose sight of the fact that a) I'm junior, b) I should focus on what I need to do to improve/not make the same mistakes, and c) the partner has already forgotten about why he/she was yelling. Like seriously, who cares? IMO, the screamers are really only intolerable when you let them get to you.

Because you should have an ounce of self respect.

If you're getting yelled at for something not your fault I think this applies. Otherwise i kinda agree the attitude to have is to shrug it off and not let it bother you. As long as the check clears every week, who cares. I try not to be that emotionally invested in work.

This is what I was referring to. I wasn't referring to being insulted. That's just weird/not cool. Never been insulted before but I'd probably tell them to go fuck off.

[elendinel]

My boss is awesome but I'm also only a few months in.

She either compliments my work or expresses appreciation every few days, seemingly sincerely. It's over the top and I'm starting to wonder if it's fake.

I'm in a volunteer position at a nonprofit right now where my supervisor does the same, and I'm so conditioned to biglaw madness that I had the same reaction you did about it. Turns out there are legit nice people in law; who knew?

[Genius]

Im very skeptical of the poll. Really are most of you content/happy yet vast majority of the people in the legal profession want to kill themselves? Clearly select TLS posters have it better than most ppl in the profession and the poll is not even remotely representative.

[A. Nony Mouse]

Liking your boss doesn't mean you have to like the job.

[Genius]

Liking your boss doesn't mean you have to like the job.

I value personal relationship/interaction far more than the work itself so I am biased. But at least most ppl are not having he/she problem and that is a huge positive.

[Anonymous User]

My boss is awesome but I'm also only a few months in.

She either compliments my work or expresses appreciation every few days, seemingly sincerely. It's over the top and I'm starting to wonder if it's fake. But if so, why?

I do struggle with self confidence and imposter syndrome super badly so maybe she has picked up on that.

This feels like a humblebrag but for the record I'm in midlaw and make barely over half of what you biglaw people make.

Your last line demonstrates your self-confidence issues and imposter syndrome. You're not bragging, and who cares how much you make! Be proud of yourself and the good work that you're doing.

[mds79]

Im very skeptical of the poll. Really are most of you content/happy yet vast majority of the people in the legal profession want to kill themselves? Clearly select TLS posters have it better than most ppl in the profession and the poll is not even remotely representative.

I'm clerking for a really great judge, so I'll own up to skewing the poll

[Anonymous User]

My boss is awesome but I'm also only a few months in.

She either compliments my work or expresses appreciation every few days, seemingly sincerely. It's over the top and I'm starting to wonder if it's fake. But if so, why?

I do struggle with self confidence and imposter syndrome super badly so maybe she has picked up on that.

This feels like a humblebrag but for the record I'm in midlaw and make barely over half of what you biglaw people make.

Your last line demonstrates your self-confidence issues and imposter syndrome. You're not bragging, and who cares how much you make! Be proud of yourself and the good work that you're doing.

Thank you and the others who responded. I'll try not to be cynical!

[Anonymous User]

At what point does it become "not worth it" to wait until you get another job to quit? I hate the person I work for and my practice area (switching practice group is not an option).

[Anonymous User]

At what point does it become "not worth it" to wait until you get another job to quit? I hate the person I work for and my practice area (switching practice group is not an option).

My sympathies.

But you'll have to give way more info to get constructive comments. What year are you, what is your skillset/resume like, how unbearable is it, how long have you been there.

[Anonymous User]

At what point does it become "not worth it" to wait until you get another job to quit? I hate the person I work for and my practice area (switching practice group is not an option).

My sympathies.

But you'll have to give way more info to get constructive comments. What year are you, what is your skillset/resume like, how unbearable is it, how long have you been there.

2nd year. lit only (motion writing & attending hearing. no depo) and a bit of IP counseling from lawl school. Been here on paper 6 months. Last job was 1 year. It's pretty bad. Boss chews me out on the regular. One day last week my boss called me 7 times straight on the phone in a span of 30 mins and each time talked shit.

[Anonymous User]

At what point does it become "not worth it" to wait until you get another job to quit? I hate the person I work for and my practice area (switching practice group is not an option).

My sympathies.

But you'll have to give way more info to get constructive comments. What year are you, what is your skillset/resume like, how unbearable is it, how long have you been there.

2nd year. lit only (motion writing & attending hearing. no depo) and a bit of IP counseling from lawl school. Been here on paper 6 months. Last job was 1 year. It's pretty bad. Boss chews me out on the regular. One day last week my boss called me 7 times straight on the phone in a span of 30 mins and each time talked shit.

I'm in a very similar position. 4th year associate, had two jobs before (one for 2 years, one for 1 year) and am now 6 months into my new firm. I started applying, but I think that I have to stick it out here for a little while longer before I can just straight up quit and hope for a new job.