SOs/GFs/BFs/Partners moving with you to new job? Forum

[Anonymous User]

Hi, I was wondering how many of you have had the experience of moving to a new job after graduating and also taking along your SO/partner? How many of you are in the middle of such an experience?

I wanted to see if any of you guys had any tips to share?

For example, I am going to law school in a decent regional school (think WUSTL or UT) and am moving to another bigger city for work. I was wondering what it was like adjusting? How hard was it for your life partner to find work? Did they start applying right when you knew you were going to move? Or did he/she start only after you got settled in?

Thought this thread might be a useful one.

[Anonymous User]

Hi, I was wondering how many of you have had the experience of moving to a new job after graduating and also taking along your SO/partner? How many of you are in the middle of such an experience?

I wanted to see if any of you guys had any tips to share?

For example, I am going to law school in a decent regional school (think WUSTL or UT) and am moving to another bigger city for work. I was wondering what it was like adjusting? How hard was it for your life partner to find work? Did they start applying right when you knew you were going to move? Or did he/she start only after you got settled in?

Thought this thread might be a useful one.

I might in a different stage or unable to help because I'm too early in the stage, but I am going through something similar. Both my boyfriend and I are law students, and we both did our SA in different cities. The current struggle is deciding who is going to move and join a different office or firm. Luckily, in our situation, my office has multiple shops all over the country. That being said, it isn't going to be easy and is not my ideal.

To your situation, I'm assuming you are not both law students? The sort of job and your partner's personality type will likely dictate when they start applying for jobs. What does your partner want to do? Not everyone hires super far out like law firms tend to. As for the adjustment, if this was not your partner's first choice in cities or if you are moving away from their family, you will need to exercise some patience. I also recommend thoroughly talking it out and letting your partner know that you appreciate their willingness to move for your job. I think, in the end, this will alleviate any sort of resentment that might arise later.

I'm sorry I can't be any more helpful, as I am currently trying to figure out most of this stuff, myself. Good luck!!!

[Anonymous User]

Thanks, that's helpful.

[Anonymous User]

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[Anonymous User]

I went to LS in CA and got a post-LS job on the east coast. Both my long-term gf and I are from CA and I went to LS in CA.

She moved with me without any job lined up because we could fortunately live off my salary while she looked for a job. It was tough for her to find one, but she finally did after 4 months. While she was unemployed, things got a little rocky at a few points, but nothing major, because I thought she was being lazy about her job search and was spending too much money on stuff she/we didn't need. Her job search was difficult because she needs specific relevant experience for grad school and it's one of those fields where almost all the jobs are unpaid internships or career positions that require a master's and years of experience.

Based on my experience and other friends' experiences moving far away with a SO, it either goes fine or goes horribly. Some people simply do not handle moving to new, unknown cities well and that can really strain a relationship.