ballouttacontrol wrote:fuck anyone else just like completely devolved?
I mean I was always kinda an alcohol but now it's just kinda ridiculous
I used to be so religious about the gym every fuckin person was mirin
Now I can't even bring myself to go to the gym all I will think about is how I could be at home trying to find more jobs to apply to. Probably exercise 1x per week now if even that
People still be mirin sure but I've gained probably like 10 pounds of fat and lost at least an inch or two on all of my measurements. I've always taken great pride in being sexy af like it's part of my identity and now I just wanna yack up everything I eat. Like without the gym I have to maintain at like 1800 calories or some shit and then I'll eat some ice cream or something and have to immediately yack it all up. Except when I'm just drunk and pass out before eating and don't eat anything except alcohol all day. then I can just yack and and have a nice clear stomach no cals thats nice
i do rough draft cover letters from buzzed to drunk at night and then1 proof them sober in the morning, send them off, and repeat. I am just completely devolving. I just felt like the fucking shit before. Then after the no offer, and moreso the constant and repeated rejection since then, I just feel like complete shit and constantly just wondering how longer I can keep doign all this shit..starting to seriously feel burnt out
Not only do I owe 6 figure debt, but I spent my LIFE FUCKING SAVINGS on tuition. Instead of just banking it and taking more loans. So now even if I do some BS fucking shit pay govt job to get my debt forgiven, I fucking 100% WASTED my life savings, like i literally just fucking donated to the government for ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in return. Like every single fucking dollar, nearly half or maybe a third of my sticker debt flushed down the goddamn toilet
Is there a point where you just say fuck it and stop applying? Just try to go back to a normal life and lie to yourself everything is fine? I would sure as hell be happier, at least until I ran out of $. If it weren't for my parents still being alive I'd probably just re-start in some other random fucking country
This comes from the tough love category of advice: GROW UP.
It sounds like you've kinda been coasting your whole life so far, cashing in on your looks, charisma, money, and whatever else you think you have to get by in life and have fun. Now, because of your own inability to control yourself as a summer associate, you are a no-offered 3L. And you're falling apart during your job search, becoming an alcoholic, and apparently have developed some sort of eating disorder.
Thing is... people are supposed to grow out of this shit. Yeah, partying, looking fine, getting drunk and high, and hooking up with hot girls is fun in college and into your mid-twenties. But if you're trying to become some sort of responsible person that can hold down a job (a legal job at that), you need to let go of that stuff. Because soon, you're gonna look like a Jersey Shore reject that people pity.
First, stop drinking. You seriously sound like you need outside intervention, because YOU ARE AN ALCOHOLIC. No, you don't just drink for fun anymore or to have a good time. You are drinking by yourself to drown your negative emotions. Stop making excuses - YOU NEED HELP.
Second, get back to a gym routine and eat healthy, but change your attitude. You take care of your body to be healthy, not to look sexy so everyone else can check you out. That is the wrong motivation for doing things. Basing your health routine on what other people think of you will drive you to the things you say you're doing - calorie counting, bulimia, and eating nothing to compensate for binge eating. And that's even more unhealthy than just not doing anything at all.
Third, get some friends. Ones that you can open up and talk to, not ones that will hang with you at a club. You need some healthy relationships and emotional support in your life, which you don't have. And is your girl a real partner, or some dumb-ass arm candy? Because if she were real, you'd open up to her. You sound like a guy who doesn't really think deeply about yourself and about life, nor talk deeply with others, i.e. YOU ARE SHALLOW. Time to grow up and be a real man, not this boy-child you are now.
Fourth, get some perspective. You're still in school and still have a lot of time to find a job. Don't lose hope yet. This job search is apparently crumbling your self-esteem. But guess what - this is far from the hardest thing you'll experience in life. There are much worse things that will happen down the road - more job layoffs, health scares, the death of your parents. Life doesn't get any easier. Shit just piles onto shit until you die. You have to become more resilient than this. Talk to friends, get a therapist, go on a Eat Pray Love trip, or ANYTHING that will change your view of life.
Fifth, start budgeting your money if you are concerned about it. Stop buying alcohol and going out so much. Develop self-control.
Lastly, just look in the mirror and think whether the person you are now is the same person you want to be 10 years from now. If the answer is no, then you'll do what I've suggested and more to become a person that people will actually respect. If the answer is yes, then you're too far gone already and nothing I say will mean anything.
Anyways, I've already spent too much time typing this goddamn basic shit. Time to get back to my life.