tlsguy2020 wrote: ↑Mon Aug 23, 2021 6:57 pm
njdevils2626 wrote: ↑Mon Aug 23, 2021 5:58 pm
I don't have kids yet, so right now it's not that difficult, I haven't had to cancel any vacations or family visits, and
always make sure to take time for my friendships and relationship. Don't get me wrong, it's a lot of work, and I'd be more than happy to take on less. But when there's work to go around, people want their best associates on it, and I don't get the mentality of wanting to be mediocre. If you like the work, it's a lot of fun and I guess I'm one of the lucky few who actually likes it...
Sorry to derail this thread. No snark question: how do you manage to do this? How much time are you able to make for your friendships or relationships? When are you able to keep in touch with folks? Genuinely curious how the 2700+ maintains a social life.
Also wary of derailing the thread and happy to answer any DMs if people have any questions (though it doesn't seem like OP is coming back anyways), but the most important factor is probably that I don't sleep very much. I sleep about 4 hours a night, and grew up with my father working long hours and sleeping 4 hours a night too, so maybe it's genetic. But I operate perfectly fine on very little sleep.
Aside from that, I try to take at least one, ideally two, nights a week to have a date night with my wife. We cook together most other nights to spend time together. I also mostly keep up with friends via group chats rather than seeing each other in person, as I grew up in Canada and most of my friends are still back there. I take the time to see them whenever we visit friends and family back home, typically every month or two in non-COVID times, and grab lunches with local friends whenever I can. I play multiple team sports on a weekly basis (but don't get to the gym as much as I should), and manage to maintain what I'd consider a relatively balanced lifestyle, even if there's always more I wish I could be doing.
This all will likely look different in a few years when I have kids and I have no doubts that I will need to scale it back a bit. And I don't want to give the impression that work never interferes with life; even with a more typical 2000 hours that's an impossibility. To give just one example, I spent most of an afternoon of my wife's brother's bachelor party multitasking the group poker game while also on a call and turning comments on an urgent matter. It's not ideal, but I genuinely like the work, don't find the hours to be killer, and feel pretty balanced overall.