Why is revealing salary/offers so taboo outside of the firm? Forum

[BrokenMouse]

or, more likely, it depends how you grew up. sure if all you friends are consultants or bankers, or doing some type of public interest but living off parents, of course you would never run into this. but if you come from a real working class background (im talking about having friends that are mechanics, construction workers, security guards, etc), I'll be surprised if this has never happened to you. and I'm not talking about, oh yea I have one 3rd cousin that is a mechanic and he never tells me this stuff - im talking about your entire social circle being working class people. and its not like they come out and tell you to buy them shit at the mall like you are their sugar daddy. but there are definitely references and jokes that sometimes I feel like are not so appropirate

im in the working class and so are all my friends. the shit some of them do for friends even as they are laid off and living off unemployment amazes me. again i've never seen people who would ask for a handout/freebie because you make $ as a lawyer. im skeptical it really happens in real life, but in the event that it does, it is an indictment on how you carry yourself and how you make friends.

[ballouttacontrol]

I personally can't think of an instance where some guy I barely know or even an acquaintance would assume I'd pay for them, let alone take advantage of me because I'm a lawyer and make $. Who does that? How do you let that happen to you? That situation simply doesn't arise and it's hard for me to imagine one. It's even more unthinkable my non-lawyer close friends would ever do that. In the event that ever happens, that person would be barred for life from being in my life. Maybe it says more about you and how you carry yourself.

You seem sheltered

Or just extremely boring if you've never told ppl to bring bottles and such to parties