Co-signed (except for being a professional artist lol my skills are not good). I also changed careers and picked law because I’m good at writing and sifting through large quantities of boring material to identify the relevant stuff (and had quite a lot of public speaking experience). I do think people can learn most things and shouldn’t just shy away from STEM in a knee jerk way, but I agree that people do tend to have strengths/weaknesses and that playing to your strengths makes sense.Anonymous User wrote: ↑Fri Feb 11, 2022 7:57 amI literally need a paralegal’s help to make an excel spreadsheet. So, no. I’m a senior biglaw associate and although I have a pro-level talent in an art (think acting, music) and have done it professionally in the past, I still couldn’t see myself realistically doing anything besides what I’m doing now.
At the end of the day, you shouldn’t go to law or medicine or coding or whatever because you perceive an incrementally more favorable ratio in some combo of QOL/oppo cost/hours worked/total comp/comp potential. Even at 9-5, workdays are way too long for this stuff to be the only metrics in deciding what you should do (or for the purposes of this thread, I suppose, to talk about how you should have done something else).
You should go into whichever one of these things play best to your intellectual strengths. My intellectual strengths, I felt, were reasoning through things and writing about them. No way in hell could I do anything with math, data, tech, or science. I did my art professionally for a year and consciously decided I did not want that life (but all of my peers in that industry thought I was crazy for wanting to stop and do law instead).
This is why I always find the “I banker vs biglaw vs coding vs medicine” discussions to be silly. It’s also why I’m consistently so shocked when people tell me they gave up solid coding jobs where they made solid money and routinely got promoted to make nothing for 3 years and take out tons of loans…for this insane industry that I work in that most people don’t like. It’s also why I’m never shocked when so many junior associates hate their lives and burn out—most never should have gone into law to begin with.
When I was applying to law school the scamblog crowd was getting underway, and while they did a good thing in alerting people to the fact that law isn’t a guaranteed path to a lucrative career (models and bottles!), it seemed to foster this reaction on various corners of the internet that no one should go to law school (fair enough) and everyone should go into nursing instead, because it was portable and in demand and frequently well paid and you’d have so much more control over your life, without the costs of going to med school and being a doctor. Leaving aside how accurate this was (which is pretty dubious - I don’t think anyone I saw saying this actually worked as a nurse and I don’t really see people say it now), it just always baffled me how it flat out ignored questions of temperament or ability.
I actually had a law school classmate quit halfway through to become a nurse (which they love so it was a great choice), but generally, I could not understand what about having wanted to go to law school would make anyone remotely suited to be a nurse. And nursing isn’t exactly an easy profession that just anyone is going to be good at. I would be a TERRIBLE nurse (probably second only to being a terrible coder).
That’s not to say people shouldn’t become nurses - or coders - but that there’s often weird kind of idealization of some kind of “other” job based on its characteristics on paper, without any really serious understanding of what it entails or whether a given person would be remotely suited to it.
(Not saying that anyone in particular in this thread who wishes they’d gone into coding is fooling themselves or anything! Just it’s funny to how how there can be this fetishization of whatever job looks different from whatever’s causing us misery at the moment.)