Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview? Forum

[RaceJudicata]

I'm all for being as normal as humanly possible in an interview. Obviously, we all need to adjust ourselves a bit for an interview setting...but personally, in the real world, I would absolutely NEVER call someone my "significant other," and therefore wouldn't do so in an interview. I usually went with "long term girlfriend" or just girlfriend.

Regardless, we are probably over analyzing this, and not many people will care one way or the other. But thats just what we do....

[georgej]

Probably you should say she's your mom as that is a much more serious relationship that no one can possibly question.

[kcdc1]

it's not weird but people might judge you

i said bf and not fiance though bc lying seemed hard

Related question: do gender stereotypes make it more acceptable/persuasive for female candidate to say "my boyfriend lives here" than for male candidate to say "my girlfriend lives here?" I can see an argument that the female candidate would be more often assumed to want to marry boyfriend living in city, and that the tie would therefore be marginally more credible. Not that I think the line is a good play for either gender -- I just think the comparison is a mildly interesting thought exercise.

[Danger Zone]

the comparison is a mildly interesting thought exercise.

Go away

[El Pollito]

I'm all for being as normal as humanly possible in an interview. Obviously, we all need to adjust ourselves a bit for an interview setting...but personally, in the real world, I would absolutely NEVER call someone my "significant other," and therefore wouldn't do so in an interview. I usually went with "long term girlfriend" or just girlfriend.

Regardless, we are probably over analyzing this, and not many people will care one way or the other. But thats just what we do....

yeah i just said long term to indicate seriousness, no way could i pull of "significant other" or "partner" without cracking up and fiance just seemed like too hard a lie to pull off. some people might care, most people won't.

[Big Dog]

In before DF tells you to convert gf to fiance for interview purposes.

The real DF would recommend to knock her up....

[pa1901]

I'm all for being as normal as humanly possible in an interview. Obviously, we all need to adjust ourselves a bit for an interview setting...but personally, in the real world, I would absolutely NEVER call someone my "significant other," and therefore wouldn't do so in an interview. I usually went with "long term girlfriend" or just girlfriend.

Regardless, we are probably over analyzing this, and not many people will care one way or the other. But thats just what we do....

Yeah I don't see the big deal here either, especially if the relationship is in fact pretty serious/long-term. In my interviews I think I said something along the lines of "my girlfriend of X years lives here." In a couple of interviews I was also able to bring up the fact that my girlfriend and I had lived together in that city before I left for law school. Though I would only do so if it was a natural part of our conversation.

To be fair, having my girlfriend there wasn't my only tie to the area (went to college there). But still, I think it's weird to all of the sudden use terms like "partner" or "significant other" when you would never use the term in a normal conversation. IMO that makes you come off as strange and potentially unrelatable.

[JenDarby]

Significant other sounds strange. I called my fiance my boyfriend since fiance always gives me this weird feeling like I'm inviting congratulations (I'm not). It wasn't weird. "long term girlfriend" is pretty credited

[El Pollito]

my bf was my only tie to the area and people seemed to believe me. tls stop overthinking everything.

[Anonymous User]

I did. But then broke up right before the summer, so had to answer those awkward questions throughout the summer. But ultimately, in my exit interview, the hiring partner made sure I was still cool with the city despite not having the same ties as when I originally interviewed-got the offer.

[Anonymous User]

I did. But then broke up right before the summer, so had to answer those awkward questions throughout the summer. But ultimately, in my exit interview, the hiring partner made sure I was still cool with the city despite not having the same ties as when I originally interviewed-got the offer.

I was in a similar situation. Nobody even remembered when I started my SA.

[iamgeorgebush]

my take on the BF/GF/significant other/partner taxonomy:

partner: it would be odd to say "partner" if you you're young but not committed enough to propose to your GF/BG. "partner" implies a greater commitment than "significant other"—it was, until same-sex marriage was legal, the term used by same-sex couples to denote a commitment equivalent to marriage. it implies a true, equal partnership—joint bank accounts, share and share alike, "the punctilio of an honor the most sensitive," see Meinhard v. Salmon, etc. if that doesn't describe your relationship, steer clear. (different rules may apply to same-sex couples, b/c many LGBT people still do not believe in marriage, notwithstanding Obergefell, for a number of reasons.)

significant other: "significant other" is somewhere in between mere "boyfriend"/"girlfriend" and "partner." it implies a relationship serious enough that the couple would make plans for the future, but not serious enough that they would "share and share alike."

[Desert Fox]

[kartelite]

In before DF tells you to convert gf to fiance for interview purposes.

The real DF would recommend to knock her up....

I'm not sure "baby mama" gets you any more mileage though.