Anonymous User wrote:Original anon -
thanks for the advice thus far, for the alcohol stuff I'm not particularly worried about getting drunk and making an ass out of myself. Drink but don't get drunk seems intuitively correct.
More worried about awkward day to day interactions, both in the office and at social events. I have a tendency to get nervous and terse up and I'm worried that will make people not want to be around me.
I am the same way. I agree with the poster above that SA was one of the most stressful experiences particularly because of all the awkwardness.
I would say, the first thing you gotta do is prepare yourself that there will be a lot of awkwardness, especially around partners. The reason for it is that everyone knows that an SA is just an extended interview. This overhanging context really spoils what otherwise could have been pleasant interactions.
You will have no choice but to just get through it. Focus on avoiding big faux pas like interrupting a partner, cursing, burping/farting, telling inappropriate jokes, etc. Another thing I would recommend is to learn to carry on a short (meaningless) five sentence conversations, to wrap them up, and to leave gracefully. This will be useful while running into people in: breakroom, hallway, elevator, printing, etc. Just have a few phrases and topics prepared for those situations.
I would also advise interacting with support staff. Although they are also evaluating you, their say probably counts for less than the lawyers'. You will feel less pressure and will probably be able to open up more. That way your secretary can put in a good word for you with the partners in terms that you normally you are not that awkward.
As a general rule, listen more than talk, smile, ask questions. Basically act like a guy on the first date. Have a story or to prepared that you can bust out at an opportune time.
Good luck. It will be tough, but you will get through it. Also know that for a full-time associate, most of that tension and awkwardness goes away almost from the start.