Help - The Partner's Son and I Have a Past Forum

[delusional]

Well apparently no one in this thread is a parent. It doesn't matter if you and the guy both know that his son is a terrible human being. If he knows that you guys hate each other, he's not going to like you. That said, there's no reason he has to know anything. Mention that you knew his son, or even that you aren't buddies because you had a misunderstanding. That way, in the tiny, tiny chance that the details come up, it won't look like you covered it up.

[Anonymous User]

Well apparently no one in this thread is a parent. It doesn't matter if you and the guy both know that his son is a terrible human being. If he knows that you guys hate each other, he's not going to like you. That said, there's no reason he has to know anything. Mention that you knew his son, or even that you aren't buddies because you had a misunderstanding. That way, in the tiny, tiny chance that the details come up, it won't look like you covered it up.

Covered what up?? This isn't the C&F. You're allowed to not hang out with douchebags. Including douchebags that have Partner/lawyers for a parent.
Assuming you are a parent, are you telling us you hate every kid your kid hates? You know enough about all of your kid's friends to know who your kid hates? You're going to continue to hate all the kids your kid hates through high school, college, and grad school? And in the off-chance some kid your kid hated in high school works for you one day you're going to have an attitude with that kid because your kids didn't get along with him? Is that what you're really saying?

[delusional]

Well apparently no one in this thread is a parent. It doesn't matter if you and the guy both know that his son is a terrible human being. If he knows that you guys hate each other, he's not going to like you. That said, there's no reason he has to know anything. Mention that you knew his son, or even that you aren't buddies because you had a misunderstanding. That way, in the tiny, tiny chance that the details come up, it won't look like you covered it up.

Covered what up?? This isn't the C&F. You're allowed to not hang out with douchebags. Including douchebags that have Partner/lawyers for a parent.
Assuming you are a parent, are you telling us you hate every kid your kid hates? You know enough about all of your kid's friends to know who your kid hates? You're going to continue to hate all the kids your kid hates through high school, college, and grad school? And in the off-chance some kid your kid hated in high school works for you one day you're going to have an attitude with that kid because your kids didn't get along with him? Is that what you're really saying?

It's not that covering up is a big deal. It's just that to the extent that getting off on the right foot is important, it's better to handle the situation sensitively than not at all.
And yes, I'm saying that as a parent, my default emotion toward someone who has a negative history with my kid is negative. That doesn't mean it's a big deal. It just means be careful, cover your bases, and everything will be fine.

[dresden doll]

Well apparently no one in this thread is a parent.

I'm a parent, and I wouldn't automatically dislike or be wary of an SA who had a bad past with my in-and-out-of-rehab kid. Chances are great that plenty of people out there have shit history with this guy's son and that the partner has by now come across some of those people.

The few times my parents knew about whatever beef I happened to have with someone, they'd say, before saying anything else: 'and what did YOU do to contribute to that situation?' You might be automatically biased in this partner's position, but there are at least some parents who wouldn't be, particularly if they were well aware that their kid was a screw up.

[Anonymous User]

You can skate by through the summer, get an offer, and worry about it then. DO THAT.

[delusional]

Well apparently no one in this thread is a parent.

I'm a parent, and I wouldn't automatically dislike or be wary of an SA who had a bad past with my in-and-out-of-rehab kid. Chances are great that plenty of people out there have shit history with this guy's son and that the partner has by now come across some of those people.

The few times my parents knew about whatever beef I happened to have with someone, they'd say, before saying anything else: 'and what did YOU do to contribute to that situation?' You might be automatically biased in this partner's position, but there are at least some parents who wouldn't be, particularly if they were well aware that their kid was a screw up.

Okay. I would differentiate between a run in with a known acquaintance and a blood feud with a stranger. And knowing my kid was a screw up would only make me more sensitive. Maybe my earlier post came on too strong, but at the very least, OP should take care in case the partner turns out to be my type of parent.

[bk1]

Final Warning: If you're not posting revealing info then you shouldn't be posting anon.

[swc65]

Omg this is insane. If it comes up, which it won't, just laugh about how childish you were "back then" because you got into it over a girl. Perfect chance for some self deprecating humor and to bond with the guy.


Also, you're over thinking it. Just chill

[Miller32]

People in here advocating an awkward convo with the partner over this stupid bullshit is why no offers happen.

Just saying.