Biglaw_Associate_V20 wrote:It is what it is. You really have to be in it to understand it. No one can really explain how it's going to be for you (whether positive or negative). I was surprised to find that there are people with (1) no plan to have a family, (2) no desire to maintain social lives, and (3) an earnest desire to strive forever and ever. For these people, biglaw is a blast. For people like me, it's not. TBH, I didn't really know I fell into the latter category as much as I do until I actually worked in biglaw for a while.
which is why it is important to reiterate this:
Biglaw_Associate_V20 wrote:Your experience will depend on who you work with. Some firms are tolerable. Some are unbearable.
seriously, this can many times be dispositive of your biglaw experience.
case in point, i started out at a firm in a small and relatively unknown practice group and had a great experience. really enjoyed the clients we worked with and i got a lot of attention and feedback/mentoring from the partners in the group. the partners and a lot of the associates had families and respected everyone's time because of it.
well, an opportunity came up to join another firm with large and prestigious practice group and now i'm regretting my decision. at the time, i figured i would get better exposure to more diverse types of tasks, better access to the best partners in the field, and i would get to work with some pretty well known clients. turns out, since the practice group is huge, there is a lot of inter-associate competition for the best tasks and partner attention. the best tasks typically go to those who are best at kissing ass and have time to do all the "firm citizenship" bullshit. and many of the partners tend to be out to lunch with the feedback and mentorship, and honestly, i don't think they are any better at the practice than the partners at my previous firm.