Grammar Question WHO vs WHOM Forum

[luuma]

Question..


One neighbor whom my mother fearfully referred to as…

Or

One neighbor, who my mother fearfully referred to as…

[luuma]

It's for my diversity statement.

[rinkrat19]

One neighbor, to whom my mother fearfully referred as...

[rion91]

It's a direct object. Whom.

[TLSanders]

The correct phrasing is awkward here. Why not, "My mother fearfully referred to one neighbor as _________________" and then a new sentence describing whatever it is you were going to say about this neighbor.