Unique situation. Forum

[limalu]

I'm originally from upstate New York but have been living in Portland, Oregon for 8 years. I'm 32, quite older than most L1s... Anyways, I got a scholarship to the University of Oregon, which would require moving down to Eugene. From what I hear it's a pleasant hippy town, but I'm worried that I'll feel isolated, especially after the novelty wears off.

The "unique" part of my situation is that my Dad has generously offered to pay for me to go to Brooklyn (at sticker) because he wants me to move back to the east coast and I think he feels a little sorry for me. (He lives in upstate New York with my Mom). He says he can afford it and that it's "not that big of a deal" , but I still hate the thought of him spending so much on tuition when it's not completely necessary.

So, do you think I am being silly to move to a small town in the middle of nowhere just to be frugal and independent?

Or should I just go to Brooklyn and send the bills home to my Dad, feeling like a grateful schmuck?

Thank you for taking the time to vote!

[bdole2]

I'm originally from upstate New York but have been living in Portland, Oregon for 8 years. I'm 32, quite older than most L1s... Anyways, I got a scholarship to the University of Oregon, which would require moving down to Eugene. From what I hear it's a pleasant hippy town, but I'm worried that I'll feel isolated, especially after the novelty wears off.

The "unique" part of my situation is that my Dad has generously offered to pay for me to go to Brooklyn (at sticker) because he wants me to move back to the east coast and I think he feels a little sorry for me. (He lives in upstate New York with my Mom). He says he can afford it and that it's "not that big of a deal" , but I still hate the thought of him spending so much on tuition when it's not completely necessary.

So, do you think I am being silly to move to a small town in the middle of nowhere just to be frugal and independent?

Or should I just go to Brooklyn and send the bills home to my Dad, feeling like a grateful schmuck?

Thank you for taking the time to vote!

I would go to Oregon. BLS at sticker is gross, even if someone else is paying for it. If you really want to practice on the east coast, retake the LSAT.

[bk1]

Where do you want to work?

[rad lulz]

Where do you want to work?

And what do you want to do.

[CanadianWolf]

Eugene is a college town. Lots of grad strudents plus law schools know how to keep students busy. Do you prefer to live in Portland, Oregon after law school or in New York state ?

[quiver]

Where do you want to work?

And what do you want to do.

Yeah we need this info to give you any meaningful opinions. Also, how much debt would you be in coming out of Oregon and will your Dad be covering living expenses as well?

[limalu]

I am the antithesis of Big Law and am not motivated by making a ton of money.

My ambition is to have autonomy, be useful, meet interesting people, and to enjoy a nice balance between working and living.

I was thinking of estate law, even though intellectual property is interesting to me and I have some experience with entertainment law.

I've been doing a chill but dead-end dot com job in the "music" industry for the past 4-5 years. Living off 24K a year (seriously) in Portland is actually not that hard. Looking to the future I'd like to be able to travel, maybe buy a house one day, or invest in a fun/risky business on the side.

I'd love to live in NY but you can probably tell I'm not that ambitious. I'm your typical liberal arts girl and it doesn't take that much to make me happy. My Dad has a small legal practice in upstate New York and I figure my "worst case scenario" would be to work for him for a couple of years to get my feet wet. He says he could have me making six figures in 3-5 years.

I guess part of my confusion is the east coast / west coast conflict. The west coast (especially the northwest) is so chill and I relate to that. The east coast is where my family is but it's more saturated/ competitive....

I guess ideally I would live in both New York and Portland!


Thanks again for any comments. It makes me feel good just to know that other people are out there thinking about similar issues!

[rad lulz]

Will your pops let you work for him if you don't go to Brooklyn?

[in2win]

So you are making 24k a year now. Your dad is offering to pay for whole education AND give you a job making six figures further down the road. And you would get to move back to your home state. I would imagine you will at the least a pretty difficult time finding a decent paying job so you could pay back your loans. I say take the easy route and enjoy a solid career/ lifestyle

[checkster]

Have fun in New York.

[imbored25]

I'm originally from upstate New York but have been living in Portland, Oregon for 8 years. I'm 32, quite older than most L1s... Anyways, I got a scholarship to the University of Oregon, which would require moving down to Eugene. From what I hear it's a pleasant hippy town, but I'm worried that I'll feel isolated, especially after the novelty wears off.

The "unique" part of my situation is that my Dad has generously offered to pay for me to go to Brooklyn (at sticker) because he wants me to move back to the east coast and I think he feels a little sorry for me. (He lives in upstate New York with my Mom). He says he can afford it and that it's "not that big of a deal" , but I still hate the thought of him spending so much on tuition when it's not completely necessary.

So, do you think I am being silly to move to a small town in the middle of nowhere just to be frugal and independent?

Or should I just go to Brooklyn and send the bills home to my Dad, feeling like a grateful schmuck?

Thank you for taking the time to vote!

I'm kinda in the same situation, except with different schools. I didn't want to make my parents pay $100k+ so i took the scholarship