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Bring a parent to law school visit?

Postby tuc00318 » Tue Mar 05, 2013 12:41 pm

Hey All,

I'm planning on visiting in the next few weeks because I won't be able to make ASDs. Is it okay to bring a parent with me to a regular law school visit? I've already gone to an ASD by myself, so being alone/independent isn't an issue. I do want my parent to come on a regular tour with me though. The visit will involve a class sit-in and a tour. If anyone has gone on a regular visit solo, with a parent, or if you're a current law student at either school, any help would be appreciated. Thanks!
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Postby Davidbentley » Tue Mar 05, 2013 12:55 pm

Bringing a parent to a school visit is like bringing a glove to a baseball game. You can do it if you're over 12, but you should expect to be judged for it.

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Postby romothesavior » Tue Mar 05, 2013 1:00 pm

Davidbentley wrote:Bringing a parent to a school visit is like bringing a glove to a baseball game. You can do it if you're over 12, but you should expect to be judged for it.

Awesome analogy.

I always recommend against bringing parents. This topic has been discussed ad nauseam so I can already hear what the other side will say ("People who judge people for bringing their parents are jerks!" and "I trust my mom with everything, why wouldn't I bring her?"). But you're an adult, and you should be able to attend a school and decide on it without your parents being physically present. People absolutely will judge you for it because its time to cut the cord. Are you going to bring your mom and dad to callbacks to have them help you pick a firm?

If they do come, tell them to keep their mouths shut. Nothing is worse than a parent asking a bunch of questions like they're at third grade parent teacher conferences.

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Postby A. Nony Mouse » Tue Mar 05, 2013 1:01 pm

Davidbentley wrote:Bringing a parent to a school visit is like bringing a glove to a baseball game. You can do it if you're over 12, but you should expect to be judged for it.

Nicely put. I totally agree.

(Although I'd argue that an independent visit, rather than ASD where you're going to meet potential future classmates, isn't quite as bad, though still judge-worthy. Only possible exception is if the parent's going to be paying for everything - I suppose they have a right to see what their money's buying.)

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Re: Bring a parent to law school visit? (Esp. IUB/northeastern)

Postby curious66 » Tue Mar 05, 2013 1:03 pm

tuc00318 wrote:Hey All,

I'm planning on visiting Indiana Bloomington and Northeastern in the next few weeks because I won't be able to make their ASDs. Is it okay to bring a parent with me to a regular law school visit? I've already gone to an ASD by myself, so being alone/independent isn't an issue. I do want my parent to come on a regular tour with me though. The visit will involve a class sit-in and a tour. If anyone has gone on a regular visit solo, with a parent, or if you're a current law student at either school, any help would be appreciated. Thanks!


I think it is fine to bring a parent. However, I would do the class sit in visit alone and do the tour with the parent.

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Postby leapincamelleopard » Tue Mar 05, 2013 1:07 pm

Its not ASD, bringing a parent is fine.

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Postby mephistopheles » Tue Mar 05, 2013 1:29 pm

what would be the point?

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Postby cinephile » Tue Mar 05, 2013 2:05 pm

What's the benefit of bringing a parent? It's important to spent time alone with yourself, because you'll have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.

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Postby 20130312 » Tue Mar 05, 2013 2:07 pm

cinephile wrote:What's the benefit of bringing a parent? It's important to spent time alone with yourself, because you'll have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.

Forever alone :(

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Postby guano » Tue Mar 05, 2013 2:16 pm

Do what you want. But do expect people to judge you accordingly

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Postby Davidbentley » Tue Mar 05, 2013 2:17 pm

InGoodFaith wrote:
cinephile wrote:What's the benefit of bringing a parent? It's important to spent time alone with yourself, because you'll have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.

Forever alone :(

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Postby Icculus » Tue Mar 05, 2013 2:22 pm

Davidbentley wrote:Bringing a parent to a school visit is like bringing a glove to a baseball game. You can do it if you're over 12, but you should expect to be judged for it.


This is the best analogy I have read.

The only reason I can understand as to why a parent would come along would be if said parent is paying the entire tuition and living expenses. And even then I would try and avoid it. I give tours at my school, and the few times a parent has come it has been kind of awkward.

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Postby xjustyoursmile » Wed Mar 06, 2013 3:06 am

My parents are paying for everything and they want to check out the school I've chosen to attend. I don't think I'll be bringing them to the actual ASD events but I'll probably tour them around myself after attending the actual tour. I don't see the problem with it, especially since I'd like the company and we'll be exploring the area around the school together afterwards. I'd also like to feel like I brought a little bit of home with me to where I'll be for the next three years before I move all the way across the country.

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Postby 09042014 » Wed Mar 06, 2013 3:33 am

xjustyoursmile wrote:My parents are paying for everything and they want to check out the school I've chosen to attend. I don't think I'll be bringing them to the actual ASD events but I'll probably tour them around myself after attending the actual tour. I don't see the problem with it, especially since I'd like the company and we'll be exploring the area around the school together afterwards. I'd also like to feel like I brought a little bit of home with me to where I'll be for the next three years before I move all the way across the country.


LOL at your helicopter parents.

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Postby xjustyoursmile » Wed Mar 06, 2013 3:44 am

Desert Fox wrote:
xjustyoursmile wrote:My parents are paying for everything and they want to check out the school I've chosen to attend. I don't think I'll be bringing them to the actual ASD events but I'll probably tour them around myself after attending the actual tour. I don't see the problem with it, especially since I'd like the company and we'll be exploring the area around the school together afterwards. I'd also like to feel like I brought a little bit of home with me to where I'll be for the next three years before I move all the way across the country.


LOL at your helicopter parents.


Yeah, a parent's interest in their child's life is always hilarious. :roll:

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Postby 09042014 » Wed Mar 06, 2013 3:56 am

xjustyoursmile wrote:
Desert Fox wrote:
xjustyoursmile wrote:My parents are paying for everything and they want to check out the school I've chosen to attend. I don't think I'll be bringing them to the actual ASD events but I'll probably tour them around myself after attending the actual tour. I don't see the problem with it, especially since I'd like the company and we'll be exploring the area around the school together afterwards. I'd also like to feel like I brought a little bit of home with me to where I'll be for the next three years before I move all the way across the country.


LOL at your helicopter parents.


Yeah, a parent's interest in their child's life is always hilarious. :roll:


You aren't a child any more lil breh, you are an adult.

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Postby eav1277 » Wed Mar 06, 2013 3:58 am

I plan on bringing mine to one ASW. Haven't seen them in a bit and they are driving me up (saving gas :) But I'm having them stay at the hotel, explore the school on their own, do whatever parents do.

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Postby xjustyoursmile » Wed Mar 06, 2013 4:00 am

Desert Fox wrote:
xjustyoursmile wrote:
Desert Fox wrote:
xjustyoursmile wrote:My parents are paying for everything and they want to check out the school I've chosen to attend. I don't think I'll be bringing them to the actual ASD events but I'll probably tour them around myself after attending the actual tour. I don't see the problem with it, especially since I'd like the company and we'll be exploring the area around the school together afterwards. I'd also like to feel like I brought a little bit of home with me to where I'll be for the next three years before I move all the way across the country.


LOL at your helicopter parents.


Yeah, a parent's interest in their child's life is always hilarious. :roll:


You aren't a child any more lil breh, you are an adult.


And I'm making the adult decision to invite my parents to go see the school with me. -shrug-
If you think that makes me childish so be it.

I'm gonna go watch Spongebob now, bai. 8)

eav1277 wrote:I plan on bringing mine to one ASW. Haven't seen them in a bit and they are driving me up (saving gas :) But I'm having them stay at the hotel, explore the school on their own, do whatever parents do.


Basically my same plan.

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Postby eav1277 » Wed Mar 06, 2013 4:01 am

xjustyoursmile wrote:
xjustyoursmile wrote:]
xjustyoursmile"

[quote="eav1277 wrote:
I plan on bringing mine to one ASW. Haven't seen them in a bit and they are driving me up (saving gas :) But I'm having them stay at the hotel, explore the school on their own, do whatever parents do.


Basically my same plan.


I like your plan. lol

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Re: Bring a parent to law school visit? (Esp. IUB/northeastern)

Postby alwayssunnyinfl » Wed Mar 06, 2013 4:06 am

Desert Fox wrote:
xjustyoursmile wrote:
Desert Fox wrote:
LOL at your helicopter parents.


Yeah, a parent's interest in their child's life is always hilarious. :roll:


You aren't a child any more lil breh, you are an adult.


Yeah, but what if your parents going with you means that they'll also be picking up the travel costs? I don't think any potential embarrassment or judgment would be worth a few hundred dollars.

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Postby Davidbentley » Wed Mar 06, 2013 4:16 am

"Well, the world needs ditch diggers, too."

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Postby alwayssunnyinfl » Wed Mar 06, 2013 4:18 am

Davidbentley wrote:"Well, the world needs ditch diggers, too."

Hey, dude, Northeastern's not that bad.

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Postby mephistopheles » Wed Mar 06, 2013 10:16 am

alwayssunnyinfl wrote:
Davidbentley wrote:"Well, the world needs ditch diggers, too."

Hey, dude, Northeastern's not that bad.



:?:

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Re: Bring a parent to law school visit? (Esp. IUB/northeastern)

Postby romothesavior » Wed Mar 06, 2013 11:03 am

xjustyoursmile wrote:My parents are paying for everything and they want to check out the school I've chosen to attend. I don't think I'll be bringing them to the actual ASD events but I'll probably tour them around myself after attending the actual tour. I don't see the problem with it, especially since I'd like the company and we'll be exploring the area around the school together afterwards. I'd also like to feel like I brought a little bit of home with me to where I'll be for the next three years before I move all the way across the country.

I think this is perfectly normal and reasonable. Its just the having your parents tag along to an ASW or a visit that I find a little bizarre.

Another option is most schools have family weekends. Mine came 1L year and I think they enjoyed it.

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Re: Bring a parent to law school visit? (Esp. IUB/northeastern)

Postby tuc00318 » Wed Mar 06, 2013 1:39 pm

I definitely agree with many of you about going alone to ASDs (except Maryland-more parents than anything and i felt weird being alone), but what about bringing a quiet parent to a just a law school tour (no class sit-ins). thoughts? I asked an admissions office person who was helping me set up my tour and they said that that's fine and they get all sorts of people with students on tours. he said it was really normal?




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