Being an awesome girlfriend to a 1L during finals? Forum

[krasivaya]

Boyfriend of a couple months is a 1L working on his course outlines as I type this.

Already cooking dinner, cleaning the apartment, running errands and providing ample NSFW attention.

What else could a significant other do for you during and after finals week that would make the whole process easier?

His first one is tomorrow and I want to make sure he's happy.

[Grizz]

ice dilders

HTH

[kaiser]

As long as you don't nag him, guilt him, try to compete with school for his attention, or hold his snappiness and agitation against him, then you are doing great.

[Geneva]

give him space! don't make any demands on his time whatsoever.

[Lincoln]

Listen to his venting (even when he sounds like a 5-year-old complaining to his parents) and don't give him shit if his libido isn't what it usually is. That shit will come back with a vengeance when he CALIs Civ Pro.

[Bildungsroman]

blowjerbs.

[krasivaya]

Thank you everyone!

This seems along the lines of what I'm trying to do. Now I'm just thinking of what I can get him as a "you're done" surprise.

Being a 5th year means I have too much time on my hands...

[MrPapagiorgio]

blowjerbs.

[krasivaya]

blowjerbs.

Already cooking dinner, cleaning the apartment, running errands and providing ample NSFW attention.

Done and done. Looking for, you know, not the obvious.

[BeenDidThat]

You sound awesome. Don't need to do anything more.

He'll be stressed as hell no matter what you do, so don't sweat it and think you need to do more.

[Dany]

ice dilders

HTH

[Grizz]

ice dilders

HTH

whole messa ice dilders

spICE is the variety of life

HTH

[romothesavior]

ice dilders

HTH

lololololol

My girlfriend put together a care package for me last year of a bunch of little meaningful snacks, trinkets, etc. It was really nice.

[desertlaw]

Some sort of care package would be great. Fill it with the things he's been missing during finals....

So maybe things like a few DVDs, cigars, a fifth of his favorite alcohol or a bottle of nice wine, maybe tickets to a show in there (if he likes that), other junk food he likes.

And yes, just stay out of his way. If you can put his needs/desires/school ahead of yours and not worry about getting any attention, that will help him tremendously.

[ggibelli]

steak and a BJ. all that is good in life

[delusional]

WTF it's just exams, not Navy Seal training. Stay out the way, and let him be uptight. He doesn't need a super special exam card with a gift of warm socks.

[desertlaw]

@Delusional - no one is saying what the guy NEEDS. The OP didn't ask how to be a sufficient girlfriend, she wanted to be an awesome girlfriend. So going above and beyond with cool gifts (warm socks?) would be a good response. Also, I'm sorry you don't have someone to cuddle up with this holiday season.

[DCDuck]

I would love a pair of warm finals socks, but that's just me. Be willing to leave him alone for a day or two after his finals (if that's what he wants). When I finished my finals I went kinda comatose for a couple days and just slept and played computer games. It might take a while for his brain to reset.

Other than that, it sounds like you're doing a great job! He sounds like a lucky guy.

[Konner]

Other than that, it sounds like you're doing a great job! He sounds like a lucky guy.

+1

I know you were looking for additional ideas, but you've got it down pat.

Keep doing what you're doing, then make him earn it after finals.

[quiver]

I know you were looking for additional ideas, but you've got it down pat.

Keep doing what you're doing, then make him earn it after finals.

[Konner]

I know you were looking for additional ideas, but you've got it down pat.

Keep doing what you're doing, then make him earn it after finals.

Saw that coming a mile away.

[quiver]

I know you were looking for additional ideas, but you've got it down pat.

Keep doing what you're doing, then make him earn it after finals.

Saw that coming a mile away.

Well what's the point of making him "earn it?" He's in law school, it's not his fault that finals are stressful and his entire life is riding on them. OP is doing the right thing now but I don't see any reason to be vindictive after the fact.

[Bildungsroman]

I know you were looking for additional ideas, but you've got it down pat.

Keep doing what you're doing, then make him earn it after finals.

Saw that coming a mile away.

Well what's the point of making him "earn it?" He's in law school, it's not his fault that finals are stressful and his entire life is riding on them. OP is doing the right thing now but I don't see any reason to be vindictive after the fact.

A good relationship is about supporting one another, not keeping score.

[Konner]

Honestly? I threw it in as an afterthought to see what kind of reaction I'd receive. Not worth derailing the OP.

[juicyj]

I smell gold digger...way to gain brownie points before he graduates.