University of Virginia School of Law 2011 Forum

[Wellsfargowagon]

We also need to get MissV up in this piece.

[sialeeds]

I do agree that lots of folks (men folk and women folk) seem to be carrying relationships to law school.

During the life panel they said a lot of students make their long distance relationships work . . . but many 1L's that I hung out w/ over the rest of the weekend told me that most of them don't last more than the first 2-3 months of law school, if that.

Oh, and I'm single, and will be in August!

well that's depressing

That depends on the relationship! I've been with my boyfriend for three years long distance already, so... yeah. And if "long distance" means DC --> Charlottesville, I doubt that those relationships would be tested too much, either. But I think people who have been together for less than a year who are doing a real long distance relationship (i.e. you need to fly) might have problems. My boyfriend and I have always been long distance, so while it's a big problem in our relationship, we know how to handle it. Couples who have been together the entire time and then suddenly are thrown apart have a much harder time handling it. But really, it all comes down to trust and how much you love each other. It's true =P

[tkm.]

Well, I'm not actually worried for myself. I've been with my boyfriend for three years as well, living together for two, and he's coming along to Charlottesville. I'm just a cheerleader for relationships so I thought the idea of most couples breaking up was slightly depressing! Yeah, I don't see why you would have a problem if you've already been long distance for so long...btw you two are a very cute couple!

[triadolpho]

1. Some info about yourself
I’m 21, and will be 22 about half-way through first year. Interests include tennis, cards, video games, etc. I like to drink, although I anticipate that during 1L that activity will be mostly confined to the weekends.
2. How many roommates you're looking for
One
3. What apartment complexes you are looking at
Ivy Gardens or the equivalent (similar price, walking distance, etc.)
4. Whether you want to live in walking distance, or don't mind driving.
I’d like to live in walking distance, although I’d be willing to drive 5-10 minutes for a sick deal.
5. Smoking preference
Non-smoker
6. Anything else you might think is useful.
I'd like to get an Ivy Gardens apartment reserved fairly soon (I hear they go fast). Also, I really like Boston Legal.

[sialeeds]

all joking aside, i think it's best to head to law school unattached if you're not committed to a longterm relationship that will inevitably have many bumps along the road. however, those still in relationships, i genuinely wish you all the best.

TITCR.

Asking someone to either follow you to grad school or attempt long-distance almost requires his/her being prospective marriage material. Even though we had dated for a year, I broke up with my last girlfriend in anticipation of law school largely because, as harsh as this sounds, I couldn't see us getting hitched.

Not that everyone here in something long-term has to meet this threshold... but especially since top law schools (and surrounding professional schools) are filled with ambitious, intelligent, talented (and, in UVA's case, attractive) people, the opportunity cost seems massive unless the existing SO is really something.

I totally agree. There is no point in dating someone long distance unless you can see yourself marrying them eventually. That doesn't mean you have to see yourself getting married soon, but if you've never even thought of it as a possiblity... well, then why bother! Sounds like you made the right decision, Wells.

[tkm.]

ah, I like how all the UVA threads have turned to relationship talk

[sialeeds]

Well, I'm not actually worried for myself. I've been with my boyfriend for three years as well, living together for two, and he's coming along to Charlottesville. I'm just a cheerleader for relationships so I thought the idea of most couples breaking up was slightly depressing! Yeah, I don't see why you would have a problem if you've already been long distance for so long...btw you two are a very cute couple!

Yeah I didn't think you were, but I had to put my two cents in! I was being a cheerleader for long distance relationships at the ASW A lot of people seemed worried about it, but when two people are both in grad school, it's really not so bad b/c you'd never see each other anyway. Instead, when you see each other, it's like a vacation.

I just also really hate to see girls make their decisions based on their boyfriends. I've had my mother constantly hammering it down my throat that men never do this, and girls always do this, and that's stupid, so I haven't done it. Ultimately, coming to UVA is the best decision for my relationship b/c although it makes things harder for the next few years, I will have no problem following him wherever he goes for his medical school residency -- if I had gone to a regional school closer to him and he got his residency in say, CA, there might be a problem!

[sialeeds]

Kind of like how at the ASW the student panel on academic life turned into relationship talk. Until the guy ran over and clarified that this is about ACADEMICS, and the student panel is really qualified to talk about ACADEMICS. Hahaha.

[Wellsfargowagon]

ah, I like how all the UVA threads have turned to relationship talk

Hooray, sexual frustration!

[triadolpho]

Kind of like how at the ASW the student panel on academic life turned into relationship talk. Until the guy ran over and clarified that this is about ACADEMICS, and the student panel is really qualified to talk about ACADEMICS. Hahaha.

Haha, yeah. That was hilarious.

[Holly Madison]

I just also really hate to see girls make their decisions based on their boyfriends.

[cantwaitforuva]

Asking someone to either follow you to grad school or attempt long-distance almost requires his/her being prospective marriage material. Even though we had dated for a year, I broke up with my last girlfriend in anticipation of law school largely because, as harsh as this sounds, I couldn't see us getting hitched.

Not that everyone here in something long-term has to meet this threshold... but especially since top law schools (and surrounding professional schools) are filled with ambitious, intelligent, talented (and, in UVA's case, attractive) people, the opportunity cost seems massive unless the existing SO is really something.

I completely agree.

[greygoose]

what is the consensus about "bad grades" that might screw up your scholly?

FAS has me with a 71 on my econ midterm which behooves me...i'll get my exam back today, but wtf? i hope it was an 4/1 joke. I don't think I've gotten a C since HS.

My 3.99 is falling from the sky. 4 Courses this semester: 1 B, 1 C?, 1 A, 1 A...wtf? should i be concerned?...

[cantwaitforuva]

Lol, good to see this thread has turned into match.com. I'm also single and not keen on three years of zero prospects. Another point for UVA...

Guy or girl?

[cantwaitforuva]

what is the consensus about "bad grades" that might screw up your scholly?

FAS has me with a 71 on my econ midterm which behooves me...i'll get my exam back today, but wtf? i hope it was an 4/1 joke. I don't think I've gotten a C since HS.

My 3.99 is falling from the sky. 4 Courses this semester: 1 B, 1 C?, 1 A, 1 A...wtf? should i be concerned?...

No.

[cantwaitforuva]

damn HS drama again!

Lol, good to see this thread has turned into match.com.

Welcome to the University of Virginia (Middle) School of Law

Well we've all been told that law school is like high school - everyone prepare yourselves.

[Holly Madison]

I am definitely getting my first C's this semester. Senioritis + UVa acceptance = NO motivation.

[greygoose]

holly, like 2 days ago i was talking to you, like damn prob my first B, etc.

now i'm in C territory, holy shit this better not happen come law school

fuck if i don't turn it around i'll lose highest honors which would be f-ing unreal.

do 1L employers look at undergrad transcripts?

[sialeeds]

I just also really hate to see girls make their decisions based on their boyfriends.

You're different. If you chose Fordham over UVA because of your boyfriend, then yeah. But NYU is the same caliber of school as UVA (and some would argue better, although I of course am in UVA's camp). But I still think you should make your decision primarily based on you and not him... if your decision is based primarily off of a guy and then you break up, you will be really mad about it! Notice how guys never do this... ever.

[cantwaitforuva]

Have any of you already submitted applications for apartments? I submitted mine to Carriage Hill in mid-March, but they won't know if they have spots open until the end of April. I'm nervous that they won't have anything open and then I'll have to sign with someone else and be further down their waitlist. This is killing me.

[greygoose]

you could say my professor has a good sense of humor, as our april fool's joke he decided to post grades that were 30 pts lower than reality. so my 71 goes to 101, whew when i went to class today, everyone was like wtf was going on, can't belief we did so bad, etc.

[Da Stain]

I thought 101s ended in elementary school?

[Wellsfargowagon]

But I still think you should make your decision primarily based on you and not him... if your decision is based primarily off of a guy and then you break up, you will be really mad about it! Notice how guys never do this... ever.

She's right, at least on the first count. Unless you've married the guy, you can't be certain that he will be around for the rest of your life or even the rest of the year. You can be sure, though, that your law degree will follow you wherever you go. Your choice of law school has a permanence that makes factoring in a non-spouse (or at least non-fiancee) inappropriate. Be mindful, of course, of his feelings on the subject, and make sure he knows that his perspective is appreciated, but in this instance, you should do what will suit you best in the long run.

[greygoose]

bilko, not when you wreck the curve which wasnt me, some person got 106

[kritiosboy]

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