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Posted: Fri Jun 21, 2013 7:46 pm
Edit: Thank you everyone for sharing.
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ThisLudovico Technique wrote:If you are even thinking about breaking up that's probably not a good sign. For what it's worth anecdotally my girlfriend moved with me across the country when I started law school and we made it through just fine. We got married right after graduation
rad lulz wrote:ThisLudovico Technique wrote:If you are even thinking about breaking up that's probably not a good sign. For what it's worth anecdotally my girlfriend moved with me across the country when I started law school and we made it through just fine. We got married right after graduation
Not even engaged.Monochromatic Oeuvre wrote:A four-year relationship >>>>>>>> Law school anything
Keep some perspective.
FWIF I actually think law school helped my relationship with my wife. Something about solidarity + learning to see the other side of an issue = success.A. Nony Mouse wrote:If you think you're likely to want to break up with him during 1L, does it matter whether he's there with you or long distance? Either way, you're going to end up dealing with a breakup during 1L.
(FWIW, law school didn't make the slightest bit of difference to my own relationship. Of course, we're married and I'm as old as dirt, so that probably makes a difference.)
Also married before law school and it had a positive effect. I'd guess it probably depends on how strong your relationship is.Nammertat wrote:FWIF I actually think law school helped my relationship with my wife. Something about solidarity + learning to see the other side of an issue = success.A. Nony Mouse wrote:If you think you're likely to want to break up with him during 1L, does it matter whether he's there with you or long distance? Either way, you're going to end up dealing with a breakup during 1L.
(FWIW, law school didn't make the slightest bit of difference to my own relationship. Of course, we're married and I'm as old as dirt, so that probably makes a difference.)
Rory19 wrote: However, I also have heard that law school changes you and you meet a lot of new people who may shift the type of person you want to spend your time with.
Yep. I got divorced fall of 1L year (shortly after our 4th anniversary). Coincidentally, my ex is a doctor, too. Law school didn't kill my relationship, though; nor did med school or residency. I suspected the morning after my wedding I'd made a horrible mistake. It was a bad match, and law school doesn't allow time for bad matches masquerading as committed relationships.Ludovico Technique wrote:If you are even thinking about breaking up that's probably not a good sign. For what it's worth anecdotally my girlfriend moved with me across the country when I started law school and we made it through just fine. We got married right after graduation
Anyone who says that is an immature douchebag with little or no self-knowledge. Maybe you'll feel this way if you've done nothing but attend school since kindergarten and have also never done anything interesting in your life.Rory19 wrote:However, I also have heard that law school changes you and you meet a lot of new people who may shift the type of person you want to spend your time with.
This entire post just screams dissatisfaction with your relationship. If after four years together, these are the questions you're asking and the concerns you're dealing with, then simple inertia is the primary reason you're still in the relationship, and you're wasting your time and his. Break up now and (a) save yourself the trouble of dealing with the drama during 1L, and (b) save him the pain in the ass of following you somewhere only to have you do what you're obviously going to do.My concern is what if he moves out there with me and I realize I'd rather be doing this solo and then I am dealing with a bad breakup during school. Does anyone have any anecdotal experience and advice?
Reading what you wrote, 100% this is not the person for you. Don't waste any more time than you have to.Ludovico Technique wrote:If you are even thinking about breaking up that's probably not a good sign. For what it's worth anecdotally my girlfriend moved with me across the country when I started law school and we made it through just fine. We got married right after graduation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EghvqQyFgQMRory19 wrote:This may seem like an entirely inappropriate place to pose this question but I wanted to hear from current and former law school students about this topic.
My significant other and I have been together for four years and have lived together for three. I am getting ready to move across the country for school while he is in the process of applying to medical school. He wants to come with me, for at least this first year.
+1 for season 4 lovejas1503 wrote:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EghvqQyFgQMRory19 wrote:This may seem like an entirely inappropriate place to pose this question but I wanted to hear from current and former law school students about this topic.
My significant other and I have been together for four years and have lived together for three. I am getting ready to move across the country for school while he is in the process of applying to medical school. He wants to come with me, for at least this first year.
...Just had an AD moment.
Wut. This is a perfectly legitimate topic for this forum an one that has been discussed several times. Law school is a rare type of stressful experience and it makes sense to ask people who have been through it about the effect it can have on relationships.jbagelboy wrote:I'm moving to NYC with my SO. Excited and scared. I get how tough it is.
However, I would never, ever post about breaking up with her on an anonymous forum. That's an intensely personal decision that would depend on factors entirely removed from law school.
It sounds like you are trying to compute how the relationship would impact your law success, and how you could best use it to your advantage/avoid disadvantage. Stop now. This isn't an empirical exercise, and if it is, you should re-evaluate who you are as a person. After 4 years, it should be relationship > professional achievement. If it's not, you shouldn't be in that relationship.
I don't blame you for questioning -- I do too -- but it's totally unfair to him that you would go behind his back and post this here. It's dishonest. Think about how he would feel if he read this? after 4 years together? I would be crushed.