Changing Social Classes Forum

[Kafkaesquire]

Has anyone grown up from a lower/middle class background, went to law school, and had their professional growth put strain on their old family relationships (for whatever reason)?

I know it's a pointless personal question, but I would enjoy it if people could humor me with pertinent anecdotes.

It's a Friday, guys. Don't take things too seriously

[fallingup]

Gross

[francesfarmer]

Yeah my whole family resents me for going to Ivy League school

I'm not joking.

ETA: They were dicks to begin with though so idk

[holdencaulfield]

Yes. Some people will resent your success; that's just life.

[stillwater]

i bet you dont even know how to sail

[TheThriller]

Has anyone grown up from a lower/middle class background, went to law school, and had their professional growth put strain on their old family relationships (for whatever reason)?

I know it's a pointless personal question, but I would enjoy it if people could humor me with pertinent anecdotes.

It's a Friday, guys. Don't take things too seriously

yea, I can't think of anything less serious than discussing each others family's socio-economic circumstances and the often painful dissolution of life-time bonds with people who love/loved you.

It's a Friday, bros.

[Tom Joad]

Honestly, it wouldn't surprise me if a lot of my life-long friends think I am a sell out.

I guess that is just how it is.

[KD35]

Honestly, it wouldn't surprise me if a lot of my life-long friends think I am a sell out.

I guess that is just how it is.

Are your friends ecoterrorists and do you work for "The Man?"

But seriously, if people seem to abandon you and you feel like you have done nothing wrong, then there is nothing in the long run that you should feel guilty about. People should be happy for your success, even more so if you've overcome significant difficulties in life.

[rinkrat19]

If you are not an asshole about having money and your friends still have a problem with it, they are the assholes and you should get new friends. Not necessarily new richer friends, just friends who aren't assholes.

[cinephile]

Family should, ideally, be forever. Is there something that suggests that your family will resent you for what you plan on doing?

I mean, all parents have certain expectations for their kids and naturally can be disappointed when they expectations are thwarted. But hopefully they accept you for who you are.

[scifiguy]

I really think a great question related to this would be, "How do you handle success?"

In fact, I'm going to start a thread topic on it.

[Ded Precedent]

I don't know why but I always feel uber self-conscious talking about law school and my job to my old friends who never left my hometown. I sense resentment but I don't even do anything fancy, I'm not going to make a ton of money when I graduate and I didn't even attend a prestigious school. I wish they realized I'm still the same guy they went to high school with but I think they have some strange perception that I've accomplished something important.

[Balthy]

Has anyone grown up from a lower/middle class background, went to law school, and had their professional growth put strain on their old family relationships (for whatever reason)?

I know it's a pointless personal question, but I would enjoy it if people could humor me with pertinent anecdotes.

It's a Friday, guys. Don't take things too seriously

yea, I can't think of anything less serious than discussing each others family's socio-economic circumstances and the often painful dissolution of life-time bonds with people who love/loved you.

It's a Friday, bros.

The principle of charity just doesn't exist on the internet. OP is saying not to take TLS forum-creating etiquette too seriously, not that you shouldn't take your family's socio-economic circumstances seriously.

[Balthy]

I'm in the inverse situation: going to a good law school and pursuing a traditional legal career may seal my fate as less rich than much of my family. First world problems bro.

[Cobretti]

I really think a great question related to this would be, "How do you handle success?"

In fact, I'm going to start a thread topic on it.

Stop making threads

[apollo2015]

Has anyone grown up from a lower/middle class background, went to law school, and had their professional growth put strain on their old family relationships (for whatever reason)?

I know it's a pointless personal question, but I would enjoy it if people could humor me with pertinent anecdotes.

I feel as if the bigger difference to me so far was in undergrad when I (1.) went to a university that was (2.) out of town. The cultural capital that I picked up from interacting with so many upper middle class people has made it hard to interact with my family and its lower/middle class values.

[Br3v]

I really think a great question related to this would be, "How do you handle success?"

In fact, I'm going to start a thread topic on it.

Stop making threads

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[Kikero]

I'm in the inverse situation: going to a good law school and pursuing a traditional legal career may seal my fate as less rich than much of my family. First world problems bro.

Chin up, there's always inheritance.

[dudders]

Luckily I graduated unemployed and brokeass, so technically I'm lower class than when I started.

[cinephile]

Has anyone grown up from a lower/middle class background, went to law school, and had their professional growth put strain on their old family relationships (for whatever reason)?

I know it's a pointless personal question, but I would enjoy it if people could humor me with pertinent anecdotes.

I feel as if the bigger difference to me so far was in undergrad when I (1.) went to a university that was (2.) out of town. The cultural capital that I picked up from interacting with so many upper middle class people has made it hard to interact with my family and its lower/middle class values.

I'm actually curious about what the difference in values would be between lower-middle and upper-middle.

[Kafkaesquire]

The nail has already been hit on the head as far as I am concerned. So really I would admit that a lot of the tension I feel with my family has to do with my own journey being so different from their own, and being so caught up in my journey that it has become difficult to take myself out of my own shoes and put myself in the shoes in which I was born and raised (and that my family still wears).

Money, education, travel, that stuff really changes people; my family is foreign to it all, and yet all of that has basically come to define who I am.

[rad lulz]

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[courtneylove]

i get where you're coming from OP. one of my very best friends is in severe debt from undergrad/poor career prospects in her field, and talks constantly about her situation because of the strain she's under. i feel awkward discussing my issues or life situation with her; it seems so selfish for me to be whining "i didn't get the $160,000/year job i wanted wah" while she can't afford to get her own apartment or buy new clothes.

[guinness1547]

My family is pretty well off but I feel I'm gonna be poor

Dad wants to know why I do my banking at Amscot

Mom wants to know why I drink MD 20/20

Ah, Mad Dog chugging races. I do miss college.

[untar614]

I really think a great question related to this would be, "How do you handle success?"

In fact, I'm going to start a thread topic on it.

Stop making threads

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Yeah, I took that as a self-deprecating joke. I'm glad he can find humor in the hate he gets on here.