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Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Thu Sep 05, 2013 11:46 pm
by Connor Benz
Every one knows 1L life is crazy and the last thing you want to be is distracted. However, I have developed a crush on a girl that sits next me in my Civil Procedure class. I need to focus and it does not help that she is in my section. So in other classes, I sometimes find myself staring at her
The unfortunate thing is she really does not talk to me because she probably thinks I'm an idiot. Has anyone else dealt with a crush in law school? I don't know if I have the time and energy to try to get her to like me haha.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Thu Sep 05, 2013 11:50 pm
by LeDique
Offer to carry her books.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Thu Sep 05, 2013 11:50 pm
by swimmer11
Wtf is this?
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 12:19 am
by zworykin
TCR is a note, passed by a friend, containing the line "check yes or no."
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 12:30 am
by fundamentallybroken
First: don't shit where you eat. Dating girls you go to law school with is a recipe for an awkward break-up, where you still get to see the person for what seems like forever. Dating a girl that sits next to you in class is adding a multiplier of ten.
Second: Are you 12?
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 12:33 am
by goldeneye
Send her a note. Since it is CivPro, send a complaint to her discussing your love for her. If she responds with a 12(b)(6) motion, sorry bud.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 12:37 am
by Icculus
zworykin wrote:TCR is a note, passed by a friend, containing the line "check yes,no, or it depends."
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 12:38 am
by Icculus
fundamentallybroken wrote:
Second: Are you 12?
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 12:53 am
by paglababa
Icculus wrote:fundamentallybroken wrote:
Second: Are you 12?
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 1:03 am
by NYC2012
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Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 1:04 am
by Nightrunner
Connor Benz wrote:Every one knows 1L life is crazy and the last thing you want to be is distracted. However, I have developed a crush on a girl that sits next me in my Civil Procedure class. I need to focus and it does not help that she is in my section. So in other classes, I sometimes find myself staring at her
The unfortunate thing is she really does not talk to me because she probably thinks I'm an idiot. Has anyone else dealt with a crush in law school? I don't know if I have the time and energy to try to get her to like me haha.
I always went with the "meet her at bar review and have sex with her" plan. It wasn't flawless, but it worked a lot more than it probably should have.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 1:07 am
by paglababa
Nightrunner wrote:Connor Benz wrote:Every one knows 1L life is crazy and the last thing you want to be is distracted. However, I have developed a crush on a girl that sits next me in my Civil Procedure class. I need to focus and it does not help that she is in my section. So in other classes, I sometimes find myself staring at her
The unfortunate thing is she really does not talk to me because she probably thinks I'm an idiot. Has anyone else dealt with a crush in law school? I don't know if I have the time and energy to try to get her to like me haha.
I always went with the "meet her at bar review and have sex with her" plan. It wasn't flawless, but it worked a lot more than it probably should have.
This. If you're going to do it, might as well as do it right, rather than stare at her in class/feel butterflies,see rainbows/post on TLS about it. Personally, I wouldn't do it because there are other women who won't make your relationship with fellow law students awkward. If you end up going out with her and breaking up and you have mutual friends, you are DUNZO.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 1:52 am
by RELIC
goldeneye wrote:Send her a note. Since it is CivPro, send a complaint to her discussing your love for her. If she responds with a 12(b)(6) motion, sorry bud.
A motion for joinder is the credited response in this situation.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 1:52 am
by nickb285
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Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 2:19 am
by lmr
Okay, well if this is genuinely a problem I'd change seats. Sit in the front or somewhere you can't see her. I get you may have assigned seating but just ask to switch w someone or look for an empty seat that you can takeover. Or you could maybe just start talking to her like a normal classmate/may demystify her and you'll be able to relax. You'll be dealing w attractive women throughout your career, you need to learn to be professional about it.
realized you are a flame..
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 2:22 am
by CO2016YEAH
NYC2012 wrote:fundamentallybroken wrote:First: don't shit where you eat. Dating girls you go to law school with is a recipe for an awkward break-up, where you still get to see the person for what seems like forever. Dating a girl that sits next to you in class is adding a multiplier of ten.
Second: Are you 12?
I don't agree with this! I know at least four associates who met their wives/husbands in their 1L section.
Some people having had success doesn't mean it is generally a great idea. Some people have had success going over waterfalls in barrels, too.
Anyhow, if op finds sitting near his cute classmate distracting he should try sitting near a girl with whom he has had dates/a relationship missearably fail, for the remainder of the semester or year. That takes distraction to a new level of unmanageability, friends.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 2:29 am
by CO2016YEAH
lmr wrote:Okay, well if this is genuinely a problem I'd change seats. Sit in the front or somewhere you can't see her. I get you may have assigned seating but just ask to switch w someone or look for an empty seat that you can takeover. Or you could maybe just start talking to her like a normal classmate/may demystify her and you'll be able to relax. You'll be dealing w attractive women throughout your career, you need to learn to be professional about it.
Btw, this is the actual TCR.
In addition to being better off learning to treat attractive women with professionalism, you may just realize she is not as awesome for you as she appears. On the other hand, if she really odd amazing you can then get to know each other on a more paced and authentic basis, helping to minimalize the repercussions of eventual pitfalls. But the latter should not be your objective. Tread carefully, keep your head down, and focus on doing well in class.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 8:00 am
by arizonairish
Read the title of this really fast, thought it said "Dealing with Candy Crush in Law School."
I have that issue too.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 8:02 am
by Danger Zone
zworykin wrote:TCR is a note, passed by a friend, containing the line "if yes, check yes. if no, do a backflip."
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 8:06 am
by NoodleyOne
Deal with a crush by crushing that box, yo.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 8:07 am
by HoratioHornblower
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Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 8:39 am
by 90convoy
Connor Benz wrote:Every one knows 1L life is crazy and the last thing you want to be is distracted. However, I have developed a crush on a girl that sits next me in my Civil Procedure class. I need to focus and it does not help that she is in my section. So in other classes, I sometimes find myself staring at her
The unfortunate thing is she really does not talk to me because she probably thinks I'm an idiot. Has anyone else dealt with a crush in law school? I don't know if I have the time and energy to try to get her to like me haha.
Talk to her! Find something interesting to say to her and say it. Worse case scenario you have a convo together
Also, don't put her up on a pedestal; she is just a human being.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 10:32 am
by fundamentallybroken
lmr wrote:...You'll be dealing w attractive women throughout your career...
Only if you plan on dropping out of law school.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 10:35 am
by NoodleyOne
fundamentallybroken wrote:lmr wrote:...You'll be dealing w attractive women throughout your career...
Only if you plan on dropping out of law school.
Zing.
By the way, law school isn't quite as ugly as I was lead to believe.
Re: Dealing with a crush in Law School
Posted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 10:40 am
by KD35
NoodleyOne wrote:fundamentallybroken wrote:lmr wrote:...You'll be dealing w attractive women throughout your career...
Only if you plan on dropping out of law school.
Zing.
By the way, law school isn't quite as ugly as I was lead to believe.
Hmmm...disagree. UG was 10x better.