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How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 11:51 pm
by seersucker
I have no problem sending my notes to someone who was sick or missed class for any reason. But there's this girl who sits next to me in one class. She wanted me to send her all my notes for a certain subject. I did and now I have a feeling that she's going to ask for my notes in other classes as well.
I don't know if it's dickish for me to mind doing this...there's also the fact that she's one of the gunners, really annoying, and plays computer games/surfs the internet during class. How do you say no?
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 11:53 pm
by OGR3
"Were you in class?"
"Yes."
"Then take your own damn notes."
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 11:57 pm
by mala2
In that case, I would either
1. (if you're chicken) take notes in really confusing short hand that only makes sense to you (bonus if you know a foreign language) and then gladly give her a copy, doubt she'll ask again
2. tell her you don't mind helping her out once in awhile if she's sick, but that not only is she cheating herself by not paying attention that you don't feel comfortable doing that all the time.
Some people are just users, and they'll use and use until you stop them
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 11:58 pm
by Renzo
OGR3 wrote:"Were you in class?"
"Yes."
"Then take your own damn notes."
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 11:59 pm
by plenipotentiary
mala2 wrote:take notes in really confusing short hand that only makes sense to you (bonus if you know a foreign language) and then gladly give her a copy, doubt she'll ask again
TCR.
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 12:04 am
by patrickd139
plenipotentiary wrote:mala2 wrote:take notes in really confusing short hand that only makes sense to you (bonus if you know a foreign language) and then gladly give her a copy, doubt she'll ask again
TCR.
TINCR. Way too much work for no appreciable help moving you up the curve.
Renzo wrote:OGR3 wrote:"Were you in class?"
"Yes."
"Then take your own damn notes."
TCR.
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 12:11 am
by seersucker
haha
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 12:35 am
by Jack Smirks
Dear "No"te thank you,
It sounds like you're suffering from what we in the business call getting "gunned down" hard. What you need to do in order to be above median secure is to send your little unwanted study buddy some bunk notes.
You might be saying, "but Gunner Friendly, this sounds time consuming and difficult!"
Well, let me assure you, it's not. You just have to change the few words that matter from your real notes. For instance, give her the Palsgraf brief with a holding that reads, "A defendant owes a duty of care only to those who are in the unreasonably unforeseeable zone of danger."
Your no-good-note-borrowing-nuisance will either become wise to your plans of sabotage and invite you in on the freeride freeway or have one hell of a time come finals. Either way, enjoy your upper percentile status.
Yours Truly,
Mr. Gunner Friendly
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 12:40 am
by plenipotentiary
I think you should run your notes through Google Translator in a couple of different languages and then send them to her.
Here's an example using the above sentence:
English - Russian - French - Japanese - Swahili - Arabic - Norwegian - Icelandic - Latin - English
I'm with you running on the tongues of Google I think it were a description of the translator amet.
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 12:42 am
by patrickd139
plenipotentiary wrote:I think you should run your notes through Google Translator in a couple of different languages and then send them to her.
Here's an example using the above sentence:
English - Russian - French - Japanese - Swahili - Arabic - Norwegian - Icelandic - Latin - English
I'm with you running on the tongues of Google I think it were a description of the translator amet.
Does "reverse translation" turn that back into the original sentence?
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 12:42 am
by plenipotentiary
patrickd139 wrote:plenipotentiary wrote:I think you should run your notes through Google Translator in a couple of different languages and then send them to her.
Here's an example using the above sentence:
English - Russian - French - Japanese - Swahili - Arabic - Norwegian - Icelandic - Latin - English
I'm with you running on the tongues of Google I think it were a description of the translator amet.
Does "reverse translation" turn that back into the original sentence?
Do you mean if I went all the way back through the languages? I'm too lazy for that.
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 11:04 am
by Renzo
plenipotentiary wrote:patrickd139 wrote:plenipotentiary wrote:I think you should run your notes through Google Translator in a couple of different languages and then send them to her.
Here's an example using the above sentence:
English - Russian - French - Japanese - Swahili - Arabic - Norwegian - Icelandic - Latin - English
I'm with you running on the tongues of Google I think it were a description of the translator amet.
Does "reverse translation" turn that back into the original sentence?
Do you mean if I went all the way back through the languages? I'm too lazy for that.
No, it won't.
When I run Google, and you, I love it I think that this description of the interpreter
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 11:11 am
by plenipotentiary
Renzo wrote:plenipotentiary wrote:patrickd139 wrote:plenipotentiary wrote:I think you should run your notes through Google Translator in a couple of different languages and then send them to her.
Here's an example using the above sentence:
English - Russian - French - Japanese - Swahili - Arabic - Norwegian - Icelandic - Latin - English
I'm with you running on the tongues of Google I think it were a description of the translator amet.
Does "reverse translation" turn that back into the original sentence?
Do you mean if I went all the way back through the languages? I'm too lazy for that.
No, it won't.
When I run Google, and you, I love it I think that this description of the interpreter
A+
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 11:20 am
by dood
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Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 11:26 am
by Blindmelon
I actually outlined for a class last year and a good friend of mine asked if she could have my outline because she didn't feel like her outline was good enough. This was pretty much the most dick thing someone could ask someone - put me in a weird position of wanting to say no, but also being open to helping her.
So I just told her my outline sucked, but if she had specific questions, I would help her work out the issues. She didn't ask anything else after that. I think she was just lazy.
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 11:39 am
by dood
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Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 11:44 am
by OGR3
Blindmelon wrote:I actually outlined for a class last year and a good friend of mine asked if she could have my outline because she didn't feel like her outline was good enough. This was pretty much the most dick thing someone could ask someone - put me in a weird position of wanting to say no, but also being open to helping her.
So I just told her my outline sucked, but if she had specific questions, I would help her work out the issues. She didn't ask anything else after that. I think she was just lazy.
I'll be fine giving people my outlines, since the main reason I'm making them is to help internalize as much as possible. I doubt my outlines will be of any great help to anyone.
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 12:25 pm
by Grizz
naterj wrote:Dear "No"te thank you,
It sounds like you're suffering from what we in the business call getting "gunned down" hard. What you need to do in order to be above median secure is to send your little unwanted study buddy some bunk notes.
You might be saying, "but Gunner Friendly, this sounds time consuming and difficult!"
Well, let me assure you, it's not. You just have to change the few words that matter from your real notes. For instance, give her the Palsgraf brief with a holding that reads, "A defendant owes a duty of care only to those who are in the unreasonably unforeseeable zone of danger."
Your no-good-note-borrowing-nuisance will either become wise to your plans of sabotage and invite you in on the freeride freeway or have one hell of a time come finals. Either way, enjoy your upper percentile status.
Yours Truly,
Mr. Gunner Friendly
Guns up!
pew pew
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 1:50 pm
by beach_terror
OGR3 wrote:Blindmelon wrote:I actually outlined for a class last year and a good friend of mine asked if she could have my outline because she didn't feel like her outline was good enough. This was pretty much the most dick thing someone could ask someone - put me in a weird position of wanting to say no, but also being open to helping her.
So I just told her my outline sucked, but if she had specific questions, I would help her work out the issues. She didn't ask anything else after that. I think she was just lazy.
I'll be fine giving people my outlines, since the main reason I'm making them is to help internalize as much as possible. I doubt my outlines will be of any great help to anyone.
+1
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 1:52 pm
by lolol10
if she looks good you do it. then bam. if not then theres no need to withhold being rude and just telling her to take a hike.
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 1:55 pm
by eandy
How hard is it to say "I'm not comfortable with that"?
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 1:56 pm
by cubswin
"I don't take notes, actually."
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 2:11 pm
by JJDancer
I know you are just venting/there have been some hilarious responses but in all seriousness, I would probably do this:
mala2: 2. tell her you don't mind helping her out once in awhile if she's sick (or something), but that not only is she cheating herself by not paying attention thatyou don't feel comfortable doing that all the time.
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:48 pm
by MisterChase
As a matter of policy, I avoid sharing my notes because I don't want to be responsible for someone getting a B- (or whatever). I intend to confine any possible damages of my own errors (however subtle or blatant they may be) to me, and ME ONLY. That's what I tell people, and they respect that.
Re: How do you politely refuse to share notes?
Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:53 pm
by vamedic03
I freely share my notes with anyone I know and I'll send my outlines to anyone I know if they need them. Neither my notes nor my outlines hold any sort of secret power. The value of my notes is the process of taking them and generating a written record of the class. The value of the outline is the synthesis that occurred in making it.
I agree that this girl sounds annoying, but, in the end, its better to make friends that enemies. When I missed classes at the beginning of the semester for callbacks, I had several people send me their notes unsolicited because I generated good will among classmates.