Partner Gunning For Me
Posted: Mon Nov 14, 2022 1:39 pm
How would you handle if one partner is suddenly gunning for you?
I’ve tried the usual strategies such as trying to deescalate by having conversations (both to ventilate any concerns and rebuild rapport), clarifying instructions in writing upfront, not responding in kind to rudeness, politely pushing back where any criticisms are (objectively) based on “non-facts”, and so on.
I recently received a positive performance review (one of the best in my group according to my supervisor), and I’m relatively senior with decent hours.
One approach is to get off the partner’s matters as soon as possible and/or seek political cover from other partners. I’m working on the former, but it’ll take time given the number of legacy deals. I don’t want to be seen to be dropping the ball by actively transferring off the partner’s matters (nor do I really want the partner combing through my previous work with another associate for ammo). I’m loathe to raise the situation for political protection given (1) it is hard to establish that someone is gunning for you (I bet some responses here will suggest I’m imagining the situation), and (2) I don’t want to be the person making a big deal of it unless I actually know the partner has began trashing me behind closed doors.
I’ve tried the usual strategies such as trying to deescalate by having conversations (both to ventilate any concerns and rebuild rapport), clarifying instructions in writing upfront, not responding in kind to rudeness, politely pushing back where any criticisms are (objectively) based on “non-facts”, and so on.
I recently received a positive performance review (one of the best in my group according to my supervisor), and I’m relatively senior with decent hours.
One approach is to get off the partner’s matters as soon as possible and/or seek political cover from other partners. I’m working on the former, but it’ll take time given the number of legacy deals. I don’t want to be seen to be dropping the ball by actively transferring off the partner’s matters (nor do I really want the partner combing through my previous work with another associate for ammo). I’m loathe to raise the situation for political protection given (1) it is hard to establish that someone is gunning for you (I bet some responses here will suggest I’m imagining the situation), and (2) I don’t want to be the person making a big deal of it unless I actually know the partner has began trashing me behind closed doors.