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Anonymous User wrote:First question. Have you asked your future spouse if this would even remotely be okay?

Also. You won't likely have time to network like you want at your own wedding. And if it's that small it'll be a littler weird. A 200 guest wedding maybe. But not for 50-60

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Anonymous User wrote:First question. Have you asked your future spouse if this would even remotely be okay?

Also. You won't likely have time to network like you want at your own wedding. And if it's that small it'll be a littler weird. A 200 guest wedding maybe. But not for 50-60

She's the one who suggested it. From the angle that we kinda need to impress others.

Anonymous User wrote:

Anonymous User wrote:First question. Have you asked your future spouse if this would even remotely be okay?

Also. You won't likely have time to network like you want at your own wedding. And if it's that small it'll be a littler weird. A 200 guest wedding maybe. But not for 50-60

She's the one who suggested it. From the angle that we kinda need to impress others.

Danger Zone wrote:lmao

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RaceJudicata wrote:Honestly, as someone who is getting married in the next 6 months, I found the most shocking part of this post to be the fact that you are a pulling off a wedding for $15k.

Monochromatic Oeuvre wrote:OP: Don't listen to the naysayers. This is an absolutely crucial time in your career, and you can't afford to be missing a single opportunity to network. The guys who really have a step on the competition are the ones who always have their eye on the prize when it comes to turning chitchat into books of business, and a social gathering like your own wedding, where you control the attendee list and should have every opportunity to mingle with the power players, is often the foundational block in your pyramid of success.

In fact, one of the biggest rainmakers in my firm did just this when he was a junior. You had all the moms, dads, and friends from 1st grade back when he was blowing milk bubbles out of his nose on one side; on the other, partners, industry bigwigs, and the freaking GC of LyondellBasell (he had really been pounding the pavement at the conferences, slyly slipped over at a Marriott bar or two, that kind of thing). He had seated all his client contacts on the aisles during the ceremony, so he could seamlessly hand out business cards while waiting for his bride-to-be. Once the reception started, though, he really caught fire. He knew this one CFO of a small stereo equipment company really liked Mariah Carey, so he called an audible on the first dance and brought her up for a moving three minutes of "We Belong Together" and told her he hopes their union would last a long time "much like the one between Gabby and myself." Before we could even un-drop our jaws there he was, having zoomed by his grandfather who had Parkinson's, already talking to two guys in semiconductors about how the one oughta acquire the other one's Taiwanese sub and how they could expect $15M in synergies alone. Four years later, the firm submitted a $2.7M bill on that one.

After that night, he was the biggest thing at a firm that included 19 Super Lawyers, 15 HLS magnas, two future SCOTUS clerks, and a movie star (doesn't matter who). I may not be able to impress on you, at such an early stage in your career, how unprecedented it is to be quarterbacking ten-figure deals as a second year, but suffice it to say even our of counsel had never heard of such a thing, except some vague, unsubstantiated rumors that one of the Kennedys was pulling it off back in the '40s. MDs from Deutsche, Citi, and all the rest that we didn't even know were calling partners and asking to be put through to this kid. Despite all that--and OP, this is the really important part--he kept his nose to the grindstone, never missed a comma, and cracked 2800 for eleven more years, never letting any anniversaries or basal-cell carcinomas stop him from achieving his dream, before he finally snagged that brass ring we all knew he was headed for. He weighs 275 pounds now and his kids call him "Jeff," but that's not the point. The point is, you need to talk to your fiancee ASAP about getting a venue that can incorporate everyone on those deal teams, because you know how quickly those venues fill up.

Monochromatic Oeuvre wrote:OP: Don't listen to the naysayers. This is an absolutely crucial time in your career, and you can't afford to be missing a single opportunity to network. The guys who really have a step on the competition are the ones who always have their eye on the prize when it comes to turning chitchat into books of business, and a social gathering like your own wedding, where you control the attendee list and should have every opportunity to mingle with the power players, is often the foundational block in your pyramid of success.

In fact, one of the biggest rainmakers in my firm did just this when he was a junior. You had all the moms, dads, and friends from 1st grade back when he was blowing milk bubbles out of his nose on one side; on the other, partners, industry bigwigs, and the freaking GC of LyondellBasell (he had really been pounding the pavement at the conferences, slyly slipped over at a Marriott bar or two, that kind of thing). He had seated all his client contacts on the aisles during the ceremony, so he could seamlessly hand out business cards while waiting for his bride-to-be. Once the reception started, though, he really caught fire. He knew this one CFO of a small stereo equipment company really liked Mariah Carey, so he called an audible on the first dance and brought her up for a moving three minutes of "We Belong Together" and told her he hopes their union would last a long time "much like the one between Gabby and myself." Before we could even un-drop our jaws there he was, having zoomed by his grandfather who had Parkinson's, already talking to two guys in semiconductors about how the one oughta acquire the other one's Taiwanese sub and how they could expect $15M in synergies alone. Four years later, the firm submitted a $2.7M bill on that one.

After that night, he was the biggest thing at a firm that included 19 Super Lawyers, 15 HLS magnas, two future SCOTUS clerks, and a movie star (doesn't matter who). I may not be able to impress on you, at such an early stage in your career, how unprecedented it is to be quarterbacking ten-figure deals as a second year, but suffice it to say even our of counsel had never heard of such a thing, except some vague, unsubstantiated rumors that one of the Kennedys was pulling it off back in the '40s. MDs from Deutsche, Citi, and all the rest that we didn't even know were calling partners and asking to be put through to this kid. Despite all that--and OP, this is the really important part--he kept his nose to the grindstone, never missed a comma, and cracked 2800 for eleven more years, never letting any anniversaries or basal-cell carcinomas stop him from achieving his dream, before he finally snagged that brass ring we all knew he was headed for. He weighs 275 pounds now and his kids call him "Jeff," but that's not the point. The point is, you need to talk to your fiancee ASAP about getting a venue that can incorporate everyone on those deal teams, because you know how quickly those venues fill up.

Anonymous User wrote:I was going to have a wedding and invite my friend's and family. I was also going to invite some associate-buddies at my firm from my class. Wedding budget is about $10k, will likely go up to $15k. Guest list is about 50-60 so far.

Someone mentioned the possibility of having a nicer wedding and inviting partners of my firm or clients.

Do you guys have thoughts on this? Did you invite partners/clients to your wedding?