BigLaw OCI while pregnant....need advice on wardrobe and other stuff Forum

[Tls2016]

This is my honest take on how a biglaw interviewer might feel abut interviewing a mother who has just given birth and left a newborn to interview for an SA job.

Putting aside the characterization of interviewing as "leaving a newborn" (which is objectionable), OCI is a special opportunity that happens at a specific time. You move what you can, but for something like OCI, you just have to make it work. As a parent, you can't put everything on hold.

Ok. I'm sure I'm wrong and no one would ever imagine thinking this about OP flying in for a callback with a newborn at home. You obviously know much more about it.

[patentlitigatrix]

This is my honest take on how a biglaw interviewer might feel abut interviewing a mother who has just given birth and left a newborn to interview for an SA job.

Putting aside the characterization of interviewing as "leaving a newborn" (which is objectionable), OCI is a special opportunity that happens at a specific time. You move what you can, but for something like OCI, you just have to make it work. As a parent, you can't put everything on hold.

Ok. I'm sure I'm wrong and no one would ever imagine thinking this about OP flying in for a callback with a newborn at home. You obviously know much more about it.

Well, this is the "weeding out of asshole firms" that I mentioned. If the attorneys at a firm generally think that way about a woman's role in her family and career, that isn't a firm conducive to fostering female (or arguably any) attorneys. It is for sure not somewhere that I would want to work. Bleh.

[morningstar]

If the baby is born before the interview and needs to come along, make sure she or he isn't wearing anything with spit up formula all over it and is wearing a clean diaper. The conventional wisdom is to dress the baby as though he or she were interviewing for the position. In most instances, this will be business formal. That means a suit and tie for a male baby, and a business suit for a female baby. Allen Edmonds makes a great pair of baby cap toe oxfords.

Do you feel like the baby should have his own business cards? I think that might send a more professional message. Also, what color of tie do you recommend? I'm looking for something that says "I'm a team player, and my love of boobs won't interfere with my work ethic."

[morningstar]

This is my honest take on how a biglaw interviewer might feel abut interviewing a mother who has just given birth and left a newborn to interview for an SA job.

Putting aside the characterization of interviewing as "leaving a newborn" (which is objectionable), OCI is a special opportunity that happens at a specific time. You move what you can, but for something like OCI, you just have to make it work. As a parent, you can't put everything on hold.

This is kind of where my head is at too. I'm not planning on being an absentee parent while my kid is growing up and letting a nanny go to all of his soccer games in my place. Having said that, this is a special exception, and I'm willing to do what needs to be done in order to make it work. I know that some firms might be uncomfortable with that logic, but I feel like for some others it might send the message that I'm willing to go to great lengths for things that really matter.

[patentlitigatrix]

If the baby is born before the interview and needs to come along, make sure she or he isn't wearing anything with spit up formula all over it and is wearing a clean diaper. The conventional wisdom is to dress the baby as though he or she were interviewing for the position. In most instances, this will be business formal. That means a suit and tie for a male baby, and a business suit for a female baby. Allen Edmonds makes a great pair of baby cap toe oxfords.

Do you feel like the baby should have his own business cards? I think that might send a more professional message. Also, what color of tie do you recommend? I'm looking for something that says "I'm a team player, and my love of boobs won't interfere with my work ethic."

Oh yes on the business cards. I think a card is good, no need for a resume yet.

For ties, i would do a red/blue combo so it also can say "I love America" at the same time as looking super professional. A blue shirt with a white color/french cuffs would be killer. No worries about boob-loving-that is an expected quality at biglaw firms.