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Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by ballouttacontrol » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:41 pm

3L in the Vale -- done TONS, probably at least a hundred law interviews at this point over my 3 years

When interviewing with a firm, would it be odd/offputting to use a girlfriend to establish ties? I feel like the connotation with "girlfriend" is kinda unimportant/transitory opposed to a wife or maybe fiance and they might just think you're bullshitting or something idk

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by totesTheGoat » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:43 pm

I don't know about bullshitting, but I don't think they'll much care that your girlfriend went to UG in that city or her uncle lives there. If you got to visit the city because of your connection to her, that's worth mentioning.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by rpupkin » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:43 pm

ballouttacontrol wrote:3L in the Vale -- done TONS, probably at least a hundred law interviews at this point over my 3 years

When interviewing with a firm, would it be odd/offputting to use a girlfriend to establish ties? I feel like the connotation with "girlfriend" is kinda unimportant/transitory opposed to a wife or maybe fiance and they might just think you're bullshitting or something idk

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In before DF tells you to convert gf to fiance for interview purposes.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by acr » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:44 pm

If your girlfriend wants to live in the area for a long period of time and you are willing to move there and be there long-term because of her, yes, mention it.

Also, put a ring on it. that'll help establish ties.

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Post by grand inquisitor » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:45 pm

depends a lot on context and delivery. if it's really your best tie into the local area I would probably mention it along the lines of, "I've spent a lot of time in X visiting with my SRS girlfriend's family and I have fallen in love with her family and her hometown," etc, etc.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by 052220152 » Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:49 pm

rpupkin wrote:
ballouttacontrol wrote:3L in the Vale -- done TONS, probably at least a hundred law interviews at this point over my 3 years

When interviewing with a firm, would it be odd/offputting to use a girlfriend to establish ties? I feel like the connotation with "girlfriend" is kinda unimportant/transitory opposed to a wife or maybe fiance and they might just think you're bullshitting or something idk

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In before DF tells you to convert gf to finance for interview purposes.
now thats a more accurate dfism

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by fats provolone » Tue Oct 27, 2015 4:29 pm

acr wrote:If your girlfriend wants to live in the area for a long period of time and you are willing to move there and be there long-term because of her, yes, mention it.

Also, put a ring on it. that'll help establish ties.
just tell them she's your fiancee. if you get the job, propose.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by jbagelboy » Tue Oct 27, 2015 4:55 pm

Desert Fox wrote:
rpupkin wrote:
ballouttacontrol wrote:3L in the Vale -- done TONS, probably at least a hundred law interviews at this point over my 3 years

When interviewing with a firm, would it be odd/offputting to use a girlfriend to establish ties? I feel like the connotation with "girlfriend" is kinda unimportant/transitory opposed to a wife or maybe fiance and they might just think you're bullshitting or something idk

Thoughts? Ty
In before DF tells you to convert gf to fiance for interview purposes.
this is a no brainer.
Or say you called it off; irreconcilable differences between the sheets. No shame in the truth.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by zot1 » Tue Oct 27, 2015 6:02 pm

I'd use the word partner with a "she" thrown in. More official, but without mislabeling her as fiancé when she has no ring yet.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by First Offense » Tue Oct 27, 2015 6:38 pm

Or realize that by the time you start, no one will fucking remember.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by CanadianWolf » Tue Oct 27, 2015 7:54 pm

Probably odd. Hopefully, you'll have more to talk about than this.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by kartelite » Tue Oct 27, 2015 8:13 pm

zot1 wrote:I'd use the word partner with a "she" thrown in. More official, but without mislabeling her as fiancé when she has no ring yet.
Why throw in the "she"? And do you mean fiancée? I can't tell if your two points are supposed to be related...

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by zot1 » Tue Oct 27, 2015 8:19 pm

kartelite wrote:
zot1 wrote:I'd use the word partner with a "she" thrown in. More official, but without mislabeling her as fiancé when she has no ring yet.
Why throw in the "she"? And do you mean fiancée? I can't tell if your two points are supposed to be related...
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Post by Anonymous User » Tue Oct 27, 2015 9:39 pm

Desert Fox wrote:
rpupkin wrote:
ballouttacontrol wrote:3L in the Vale -- done TONS, probably at least a hundred law interviews at this point over my 3 years

When interviewing with a firm, would it be odd/offputting to use a girlfriend to establish ties? I feel like the connotation with "girlfriend" is kinda unimportant/transitory opposed to a wife or maybe fiance and they might just think you're bullshitting or something idk

Thoughts? Ty
In before DF tells you to convert gf to fiance for interview purposes.
this is a no brainer.
My 2l SA is near my, as stated in the interview, "Now girlfriend, soon to be fiancé."

Are you worried they'll stand up in their chair then tell you to get out b/c this interview is about you, and not your girlfriend?

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by Danger Zone » Tue Oct 27, 2015 9:47 pm

kartelite wrote:
zot1 wrote:I'd use the word partner with a "she" thrown in. More official, but without mislabeling her as fiancé when she has no ring yet.
Why throw in the "she"? And do you mean fiancée? I can't tell if your two points are supposed to be related...
1) So pathern doesn't think you're a gay boi
2) to connote a serious relationship but leave it ambiguous
3) they aren't but kinda are
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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by North » Tue Oct 27, 2015 9:53 pm

Anonymous User wrote:"Now girlfriend, soon to be fiancé."
I always got weird "oh congratulations?!" when I used this one. Settled on partner/significant other.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by fats provolone » Tue Oct 27, 2015 9:54 pm

just go with ex-wife

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by dixiecupdrinking » Tue Oct 27, 2015 10:28 pm

If she is genuinely a "soon to be fiancée" then just say fiancée. No one cares if you're engaged or just engaged to be engaged. Otherwise, "partner" may be credited, though no joke I think this is a less good idea in a conservative area for two reasons. One is they might think you're gay. Two is even if they get that you're straight, they'll think "partner" is some twee millennial affectation for people who reject social conventions like "marriage." Neither one is a big deal in NYC or SF. Houston or Atlanta, maybe not the best impression.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by iamgeorgebush » Tue Oct 27, 2015 11:35 pm

Danger Zone wrote:
kartelite wrote:
zot1 wrote:I'd use the word partner with a "she" thrown in. More official, but without mislabeling her as fiancé when she has no ring yet.
Why throw in the "she"? And do you mean fiancée? I can't tell if your two points are supposed to be related...
1) So pathern doesn't think you're a gay boi
2) to connote a serious relationship but leave it ambiguous
3) they aren't but kinda are
regarding (2), i'm pretty sure kartelite was referring the fact that fiancé refers to a man, while fiancée (with the extra "e") refers to a woman. it's a silly french thing.

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by zot1 » Tue Oct 27, 2015 11:42 pm

iamgeorgebush wrote:
Danger Zone wrote:
kartelite wrote:
zot1 wrote:I'd use the word partner with a "she" thrown in. More official, but without mislabeling her as fiancé when she has no ring yet.
Why throw in the "she"? And do you mean fiancée? I can't tell if your two points are supposed to be related...
1) So pathern doesn't think you're a gay boi
2) to connote a serious relationship but leave it ambiguous
3) they aren't but kinda are
regarding (2), i'm pretty sure kartelite was referring the fact that fiancé refers to a man, while fiancée (with the extra "e") refers to a woman. it's a silly french thing.
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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by anyriotgirl » Wed Oct 28, 2015 12:04 am

straight people saying "partner" sound like goobers imo

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by El Pollito » Wed Oct 28, 2015 1:16 am

it's not weird but people might judge you

i said bf and not fiance though bc lying seemed hard

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Re: Is it weird to mention girlfriend in interview?

Post by rustyyoda » Wed Oct 28, 2015 8:52 am

I don't think it's weird to say that you're looking in that city because your significant other works there. But I'd call her that sort of term to imply seriousness.

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