Blindmelon wrote:You'll be in a much, much better position than people who will go get hammered after work with partners (not a good move).
I don't drink much (1 here or there) and I've developed some tricks for these types of situations where people don't really know you.
1). Order your own drinks. Tonic with a twist of lime is the best way to go and bartenders always know what you're trying to do.
2). If someone orders you a drink, just sip on it the whole night, just carrying it around is enough to look like you've been drinking like crazy.
3). Shots are tricky (I've had a senior manager buy a round of shots - I'm not against it, just didn't want to be hammered in front of the boss, I have no tolerance). So I just pretended to take it, and dumped it out when no one looked.
Most of all, just be honest about it. When everyone is ordering drinks just say you're not into it and move on. No long explanation necessary - that'll make things weird. Generally, no one cares.
This is pretty much the best advice in the thread, with the exception of #3. If the partner who just bought you a $10 shot of Patron sees you dump it on the floor, he's going to think you're weird at best, and rude at worst. Shots are INCREDIBLY EASY to avoid doing, because almost nobody actually likes doing shots. They're fucking disgusting. Just say "No thanks, I don't do shots." If they needle you about it (which seems unlikely), give them a sickened-looking thousand-yard stare and say "I'm serious... I think I'll heave if I do a shot right now." This implies you've already been partying quite enough, thankyouverymuch.
In all honesty though, not drinking is FAR, FAR, FAR LESS likely to get you into trouble than overdrinking. You never want to be "the drunk guy" in the group when going out with work people. Err on the side of being too sober every single time. I heard a story of a guy who blew his offer on the very last day of summer, because he got blacked out at the firm's end-of-summer party, hit on a partner's wife (the term "cougar" was reportedly thrown about) and puked on said partner's shoes shortly thereafter.