Dealing with Family
Posted: Wed Sep 01, 2010 6:27 pm
This might not belong here in this particular forum, so I apologize in advance. 0L who is looking for advice from those of you who may have family working in the legal profession. Myself, I've got a few family members spread over both sides of the tree who work in the profession, most of whom insist I'll "be okay" despite the current state of legal employment. They're really encouraging me to go, but I'm hesitant because economic markers seem to indicate we could be heading into another bad couple of hiring cycles. I'm not all doom and gloom, I think things will eventually get better--much better--but bad years in bad economies certainly happen and I'd hate to get caught in that shit storm without a way out. When I talk to family about this they just push the old "Don't get worked up about it--a legal education is a valuable thing" type talk. I'd like to discuss the possibility of working with them after school, but a few things stand in the way:
1) It's a bit awkward, right? I mean, if they don't mention it then it probably isn't something they want me to think is a possibility.
2) I'd prefer not to do it. I'm uncomfortable with the concept of getting by on your family name, but a job is better than no job, regardless of how you got it, right? Still, if another opportunity did present itself, even one less lucrative, I think I'd like to take that out. I worry, though, that if I do manage to set something up with a family member it would become something of an expectation and they might feel betrayed if I sought other employment.
3) Some of these people I really never was all that close to, most of them I didn't know very well before I decided to go to law school. Since I made the decision, though, they seem to have taken an interest.
Anyway, I'm not an economist, so don't blast whatever my reading of the news may be (I have no stake in it, so if you think the economy is going to be sunshine I'll just pray you're right) and I'm not really looking to debate the merits of going to law school itself. I only included that bit to explain why this is even an issue for me. Anyone else have family in law? How did you approach this issue, or did you think better of it?
1) It's a bit awkward, right? I mean, if they don't mention it then it probably isn't something they want me to think is a possibility.
2) I'd prefer not to do it. I'm uncomfortable with the concept of getting by on your family name, but a job is better than no job, regardless of how you got it, right? Still, if another opportunity did present itself, even one less lucrative, I think I'd like to take that out. I worry, though, that if I do manage to set something up with a family member it would become something of an expectation and they might feel betrayed if I sought other employment.
3) Some of these people I really never was all that close to, most of them I didn't know very well before I decided to go to law school. Since I made the decision, though, they seem to have taken an interest.
Anyway, I'm not an economist, so don't blast whatever my reading of the news may be (I have no stake in it, so if you think the economy is going to be sunshine I'll just pray you're right) and I'm not really looking to debate the merits of going to law school itself. I only included that bit to explain why this is even an issue for me. Anyone else have family in law? How did you approach this issue, or did you think better of it?