I am totally getting cold feet about this whole thing
Posted: Fri Mar 11, 2016 1:22 am
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Listen to your doubts. You were planning on going to law school under different circumstances: namely that you would have a full ride.lunixer wrote:Bleh.
I feel so trapped. I got into pretty much my top pick of school and am now thinking that I don't want to go. I had been hoping for a full ride at a lower ranked school, but alas while I got into my top(ish) pick, I got YP'ed out of everything else (waitlisted at all but 1 of them, which gave me a disappointing scholarship).![]()
I just feel super trapped and kind of wish I had never applied. I really love my life and where I live, but know that if I don't go to school this year I'll regret it for the rest of my life. Wouldn'thave had this dilemma if I hadn't applied in the first place. Any of you feel the same way? I'm thinking I already have a great job and enough education to have a wonderful career in my field and where I live. I also have already applied in two cycles, retaken the LSAT, etc. I know I'm not going to get a better opportunity to go than now.
I'm considering deferring, but thinking about how much I'd hate myself when I'm sitting at my boring (but really really good) job every morning. And then I'd feel obligated to go because I've already spent money on a deposit.
And I don't know much about the law. I have a very good idea what lawyers do (know a ton of them) but how can I possibly know if I want to spend the rest of my life doing what I decided to do in my mid-20's?
I really wish I had never applied and wasn't faced with this dilemma.
Think how trapped you will feel paying off massive student loans. That is a bigger trap than you are in right now.lunixer wrote:Thank you very much for this input. I wish it were that easy, but I think of I'm ever going to go, I have to go this year. I took the LSAT three times and know I am at my best score. And I am pretty sure that if I turn down this school this year, they won't admit me again. The life implications of ending up in a lower ranked school because I chose to wait another year are huge. And so are the personal implications-- what an I going to think of myself every day when I'm sitting in my cubicle shuffling papers? That's kinda why I feel trapped. I don't see any way I can turn out down without feeling horrible about myself.smaug wrote:To post substantively:
If you're concerned about the cost and aren't sure you want to move, don't go right now. Law school will always be there.
I think it's easy for 0Ls (and law students) to live in the future. You think that if you get into Harvard, you'll get the biglaw job you want, not becuase it's what you want forever, but becuase you can spend a few years paying off the debt and then you can move into (insert dream here).
That's very obtainable. It's the modal outcome from a good school so you think you can plan on it. What you're not recognizing is time. It'll be three years until you're in law school. It'll be six or seven years until you start to reach that "next job" stage.
Seven years.
That's a long time. Even if you took time off between, for most law students, if you wind back the clock seven years you're back in high school or middle school. Think about that. You could spend a full year thinking it over more, change your mind, go to college for a new degree, and graduate and enter that field in that time. (And, you would probably have less debt at the end of the process.)
Don't go. One thought you'll have during the three years of law school will be "this better be worth it" and even if you really enjoy the job you end up in, I promise you will wonder what might have been elsewhere.
Until you've made peace with those other choices, don't go. It seems hard but it really is that easy.
One final point, you may notice a difference between the 0Ls view and the lawyers view here. Just keep that in mind. Good luck!lunixer wrote:Tls2016 wrote:Listen to your doubts. You were planning on going to law school under different circumstances: namely that you would have a full ride.lunixer wrote:Bleh.
I feel so trapped. I got into pretty much my top pick of school and am now thinking that I don't want to go. I had been hoping for a full ride at a lower ranked school, but alas while I got into my top(ish) pick, I got YP'ed out of everything else (waitlisted at all but 1 of them, which gave me a disappointing scholarship).![]()
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I really wish I had never applied and wasn't faced with this dilemma.
I think you are being pragmatic.
Don't fall for the sunk cost theory and let past spending convince you to go to law school at a price you don't want.
Lots of people decide not to go if they don't get what they need in terms of schools or scholarships.
Edit: you don't have to say that you will never regret going. Everyone will have little regrets about past choices from time to time. That isn't a deciding factor.'
Don't try to talk yourself into something you know may not be the right choice for you.
Thank you very much for your input.
You'll still be shuffling papers after law school.lunixer wrote:Thank you very much for this input. I wish it were that easy, but I think of I'm ever going to go, I have to go this year. I took the LSAT three times and know I am at my best score. And I am pretty sure that if I turn down this school this year, they won't admit me again. The life implications of ending up in a lower ranked school because I chose to wait another year are huge. And so are the personal implications-- what an I going to think of myself every day when I'm sitting in my cubicle shuffling papers? That's kinda why I feel trapped. I don't see any way I can turn out down without feeling horrible about myself.smaug wrote:To post substantively:
If you're concerned about the cost and aren't sure you want to move, don't go right now. Law school will always be there.
I think it's easy for 0Ls (and law students) to live in the future. You think that if you get into Harvard, you'll get the biglaw job you want, not becuase it's what you want forever, but becuase you can spend a few years paying off the debt and then you can move into (insert dream here).
That's very obtainable. It's the modal outcome from a good school so you think you can plan on it. What you're not recognizing is time. It'll be three years until you're in law school. It'll be six or seven years until you start to reach that "next job" stage.
Seven years.
That's a long time. Even if you took time off between, for most law students, if you wind back the clock seven years you're back in high school or middle school. Think about that. You could spend a full year thinking it over more, change your mind, go to college for a new degree, and graduate and enter that field in that time. (And, you would probably have less debt at the end of the process.)
Don't go. One thought you'll have during the three years of law school will be "this better be worth it" and even if you really enjoy the job you end up in, I promise you will wonder what might have been elsewhere.
Until you've made peace with those other choices, don't go. It seems hard but it really is that easy.
It's also possible to volunteer and make a difference while you have a full time job. Your job isn't the only outlet to make a difference in your community or the world.landshoes wrote:Most lawyers would die for a federal job like the one that you have. You have federal hiring preference. What I consider as a more wise choice, go to school in something else while maintaining your federal job, and then switching agencies. It is a really serious benefit to be at a federal job, and I would not give it up for law because you're wanting to help people. There are about 1 million other ways to do that within the context of the federal government.
You're naïve.lunixer wrote:I am aware of this and I'm not naive. And I really don't want the school that I am going to to influence what advice I receive. That was one example of what I *hope* to do. There are other examples of ways that paper shuffling as a lawyer may be better than paper shuffling as a librarian.smaug wrote:Are you going to HYS? Impact litigation isn't a common outcome, even there.
You seem naïve.
Not wrong, though.lunixer wrote:That is very nice and helpful of you, totally backed by strong logical support, and exactly what I was hoping to hear when I posted on a forum looking for moral support.smaug wrote:You're naïve.lunixer wrote:I am aware of this and I'm not naive. And I really don't want the school that I am going to to influence what advice I receive. That was one example of what I *hope* to do. There are other examples of ways that paper shuffling as a lawyer may be better than paper shuffling as a librarian.smaug wrote:Are you going to HYS? Impact litigation isn't a common outcome, even there.
You seem naïve.