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Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 9:55 pm
by kpuc
I used to think that I was going to law school, but had many doubts along the way. About 2 months ago, I finally decided to not go, even though I had taken the LSAT and had gotten my letters of rec. My parents and I fought, and still do occasionally, but they've started to give up.
I remember that when I was thinking of law schools to attend, UMich was one of my top choices. But my parents didn't like it, and even wanted me to attend Duke instead (which by most accounts seems to be regarded as the less prestigious school). Why? Because Duke had more name-recognition in their social circle, and because of that, it would enhance my future marriage prospects.
It was stuff like this that made me lose confidence in my parents' wisdom when it came to career advice. My dad didn't even know what a JD was. Their idea was always, "Go to law school and you'll be guaranteed a secure six-figure job, and then you'll be able to marry one of the daughters of our friends".
Am I correct in choosing not to regard them as reliable authorities anymore?
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 9:58 pm
by Grizz
lol wut use your damn brain to see whether advice they give you makes sense or not. It's not an all or nothing thing. You don't have to follow blindly everything they say or not listen to a word of what they say.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 9:59 pm
by fetalposition
Yes. Don't listen to them.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 10:00 pm
by fatduck
this is me holding back potentially racist comments
also you should ditch your parents and become an outlaw biker
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 10:06 pm
by 09042014
kpuc wrote:I used to think that I was going to law school, but had many doubts along the way. About 2 months ago, I finally decided to not go, even though I had taken the LSAT and had gotten my letters of rec. My parents and I fought, and still do occasionally, but they've started to give up.
I remember that when I was thinking of law schools to attend, UMich was one of my top choices. But my parents didn't like it, and even wanted me to attend Duke instead (which by most accounts seems to be regarded as the less prestigious school). Why? Because Duke had more name-recognition in their social circle, and because of that, it would enhance my future marriage prospects.
It was stuff like this that made me lose confidence in my parents' wisdom when it came to career advice. My dad didn't even know what a JD was. Their idea was always, "Go to law school and you'll be guaranteed a secure six-figure job, and then you'll be able to marry one of the daughters of our friends".
Am I correct in choosing not to regard them as reliable authorities anymore?
Asians are awesome.
Though those friends are right. I wouldn't let my daughter marry a Michigan grad.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 10:07 pm
by mala2
do what you want, marry who you want. If you want to go still, go to Mich
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 10:09 pm
by fatduck
op if you wouldn't mind satisfying my curiosity what were your numbers and what career path have you (wisely) chosen other than law?
also marry me
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 10:09 pm
by lovejopd
Desert Fox wrote:kpuc wrote:I used to think that I was going to law school, but had many doubts along the way. About 2 months ago, I finally decided to not go, even though I had taken the LSAT and had gotten my letters of rec. My parents and I fought, and still do occasionally, but they've started to give up.
I remember that when I was thinking of law schools to attend, UMich was one of my top choices. But my parents didn't like it, and even wanted me to attend Duke instead (which by most accounts seems to be regarded as the less prestigious school). Why? Because Duke had more name-recognition in their social circle, and because of that, it would enhance my future marriage prospects.
It was stuff like this that made me lose confidence in my parents' wisdom when it came to career advice. My dad didn't even know what a JD was. Their idea was always, "Go to law school and you'll be guaranteed a secure six-figure job, and then you'll be able to marry one of the daughters of our friends".
Am I correct in choosing not to regard them as reliable authorities anymore?
Asians are awesome.
Though those friends are right. I wouldn't let my daughter marry a Michigan grad.
How do you know OP is an asian?...
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 10:17 pm
by 09042014
lovejopd wrote:Desert Fox wrote:kpuc wrote:I used to think that I was going to law school, but had many doubts along the way. About 2 months ago, I finally decided to not go, even though I had taken the LSAT and had gotten my letters of rec. My parents and I fought, and still do occasionally, but they've started to give up.
I remember that when I was thinking of law schools to attend, UMich was one of my top choices. But my parents didn't like it, and even wanted me to attend Duke instead (which by most accounts seems to be regarded as the less prestigious school). Why? Because Duke had more name-recognition in their social circle, and because of that, it would enhance my future marriage prospects.
It was stuff like this that made me lose confidence in my parents' wisdom when it came to career advice. My dad didn't even know what a JD was. Their idea was always, "Go to law school and you'll be guaranteed a secure six-figure job, and then you'll be able to marry one of the daughters of our friends".
Am I correct in choosing not to regard them as reliable authorities anymore?
Asians are awesome.
Though those friends are right. I wouldn't let my daughter marry a Michigan grad.
How do you know OP is an asian?...
Racial stereotyping.
I'm probably right
http://www.top-law-schools.com/forums/v ... 6&t=140709
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 10:32 pm
by fatduck
fatduck wrote:this is me holding back potentially racist comments
Desert Fox wrote:Asians are awesome.
i like that these posts were 5 minutes apart
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 11:20 pm
by lovejopd
Desert Fox wrote:lovejopd wrote:Desert Fox wrote:kpuc wrote:I used to think that I was going to law school, but had many doubts along the way. About 2 months ago, I finally decided to not go, even though I had taken the LSAT and had gotten my letters of rec. My parents and I fought, and still do occasionally, but they've started to give up.
I remember that when I was thinking of law schools to attend, UMich was one of my top choices. But my parents didn't like it, and even wanted me to attend Duke instead (which by most accounts seems to be regarded as the less prestigious school). Why? Because Duke had more name-recognition in their social circle, and because of that, it would enhance my future marriage prospects.
It was stuff like this that made me lose confidence in my parents' wisdom when it came to career advice. My dad didn't even know what a JD was. Their idea was always, "Go to law school and you'll be guaranteed a secure six-figure job, and then you'll be able to marry one of the daughters of our friends".
Am I correct in choosing not to regard them as reliable authorities anymore?
Asians are awesome.
Though those friends are right. I wouldn't let my daughter marry a Michigan grad.
How do you know OP is an asian?...
Racial stereotyping.
I'm probably right
http://www.top-law-schools.com/forums/v ... 6&t=140709
Wow well done
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 4:56 am
by gothamm
Its ok. My father judges a school's worth by looking at college football rankings.
for him, uFlorida>UCLA
does not mean that all of the advice he gives is terrible.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 5:04 am
by HBK
You probably shouldn't be going to law school in the first place.
It sounds like you need to put some big boy pants on and start making your own decisions for once.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 6:25 am
by HopefulFish
HBK wrote:You probably shouldn't be going to law school in the first place.
It sounds like you need to put some big boy pants on and start making your own decisions for once.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 6:31 am
by Fark-o-vision
Wow. Johnny Storm, right here on TLS.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 7:07 am
by LLB2JD
kpuc wrote:I used to think that I was going to law school, but had many doubts along the way. About 2 months ago, I finally decided to not go, even though I had taken the LSAT and had gotten my letters of rec. My parents and I fought, and still do occasionally, but they've started to give up.
I remember that when I was thinking of law schools to attend, UMich was one of my top choices. But my parents didn't like it, and even wanted me to attend Duke instead (which by most accounts seems to be regarded as the less prestigious school). Why? Because Duke had more name-recognition in their social circle, and because of that, it would enhance my future marriage prospects.
It was stuff like this that made me lose confidence in my parents' wisdom when it came to career advice. My dad didn't even know what a JD was. Their idea was always, "Go to law school and you'll be guaranteed a secure six-figure job, and then you'll be able to marry one of the daughters of our friends".
Am I correct in choosing not to regard them as reliable authorities anymore?
It does not disqualify them from giving you advice. Also, they are comparing schools that can be considerably regarded as peer schools, and it is true that outside legal circles, Duke does seem prestigious. At least, they are not totally absurd saying things like Michigan State > Michigan
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 7:15 am
by bbermud
waah. waah. cry me a freaking river. if the hardest decision you have to make is whether or not to go to duke or michigan, you have problems. either one would be an excellent choice. also, marriage prospects? seriously?!!!? are you wanting them to arrange a marriage for you? you're an adult. you don't need mommy and daddy making ur life decisions e.g. law school choice or marriages. grow up and go with what you feel is right.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 7:36 am
by gothamm
bbermud wrote:waah. waah. cry me a freaking river. if the hardest decision you have to make is whether or not to go to duke or michigan, you have problems. either one would be an excellent choice. also, marriage prospects? seriously?!!!? are you wanting them to arrange a marriage for you? you're an adult. you don't need mommy and daddy making ur life decisions e.g. law school choice or marriages. grow up and go with what you feel is right.
Typical uninformed TLS post with a complete disregard for alternative cultural norms.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 7:55 am
by LLB2JD
gothamm wrote:bbermud wrote:waah. waah. cry me a freaking river. if the hardest decision you have to make is whether or not to go to duke or michigan, you have problems. either one would be an excellent choice. also, marriage prospects? seriously?!!!? are you wanting them to arrange a marriage for you? you're an adult. you don't need mommy and daddy making ur life decisions e.g. law school choice or marriages. grow up and go with what you feel is right.
Typical uninformed TLS post with a complete disregard for alternative cultural norms.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 8:03 am
by KMaine
If friends' daughters are hot, go to Dook!
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 9:38 am
by bartleby
gothamm wrote:bbermud wrote:waah. waah. cry me a freaking river. if the hardest decision you have to make is whether or not to go to duke or michigan, you have problems. either one would be an excellent choice. also, marriage prospects? seriously?!!!? are you wanting them to arrange a marriage for you? you're an adult. you don't need mommy and daddy making ur life decisions e.g. law school choice or marriages. grow up and go with what you feel is right.
Typical uninformed TLS post with a complete disregard for alternative cultural norms.
OP is an adult, though. And posting this on TLS is just weird.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 11:06 am
by Grizz
kpuc wrote:I used to think that I was going to law school, but had many doubts along the way. About 2 months ago, I finally decided to not go, even though I had taken the LSAT and had gotten my letters of rec. My parents and I fought, and still do occasionally, but they've started to give up.
I remember that when I was thinking of law schools to attend, UMich was one of my top choices. But my parents didn't like it, and even wanted me to attend Duke instead (which by most accounts seems to be regarded as the less prestigious school). Why? Because Duke had more name-recognition in their social circle, and because of that, it would enhance my future marriage prospects.
It was stuff like this that made me lose confidence in my parents' wisdom when it came to career advice. My dad didn't even know what a JD was. Their idea was always, "Go to law school and you'll be guaranteed a secure six-figure job, and then you'll be able to marry one of the daughters of our friends".
Am I correct in choosing not to regard them as reliable authorities anymore?
I can't believe I missed the blatant Mich trolling the first time around.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 11:12 am
by BeenDidThat
The people who say there is no such thing as a stupid question are themselves quite stupid. And this is a stupid question.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 11:21 am
by CanadianWolf
OP: Have you actually been accepted to Duke & Michigan ? If not, seek your parents advice about Stanford versus Yale since you might as well dream big.
Re: Does this disqualify my parents from giving me career advice
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 11:29 am
by kwhiteside
My parents are pulling for UGA over UVA/Mich/GW because apparently my marital prospects at UGA would be better and I would stay close to home...
Parents emotion > parents logic