Some LOR recommenders advise AGAINST YOU? Forum

[SandyC877]

I hear some stories on TLS that some ppl found out that their recommender pulled a bitch move on them. I personally remember one of my recommender stating in his LOR instruction that he will flat out advise against you if he has his reasons (unknown to the student). Wow, why don't they just decline instead of writing a bad one? I'm scared now. Not that I did anything remotely shady in college.

[rx3r]

I don't understand why someone would write a bad recommendation w/o any hint that they would do so. I feel like it's one thing to talk about applicant weaknesses to provide a full picture of the applicant, but to flat-out write a negative rec seems ridiculous, especially considering that it is probably a waste of time for the recommender.

[saltoftheearth]

scary shit

especially because I just got word that my profs are down to write LORs for me

[fonzerelli]

One scenario where I could imagine this happening is if you asked some esteemed professor to write you a rec to a school that he/she is a faculty member of. Naturally, I'd imagine his/her loyalties are tied more towards the university than you and therefore they may be more critical.... I know it's a bit oxymoronic (critical letter of rec) but you know what I mean.

[pleasetryagain]

"pulled a bitch move" eh..?

[saltoftheearth]

maybe the recommender secretly hated your UG-gunner ways (flooding OHs, stating the obvious in class, obvious LOR hopeful)

It could happen..

[JOThompson]

I've heard of this happening occasionally, mainly when a semi-unknown student relentlessly pesters the LOR writer. As long as you're on good terms with the professor, you shouldn't have to worry about a negative LOR.

[calicocat]

Just get someone you know really well that would never hurt your chances without telling you. One of my profs let me look at my rec to see if there was anything else he should add.

[javajoe]

Years ago, I received some advice about this very thing. It has stayed with me, and I always use it when looking for a letter or a reference for a job, school, whatever.

The advice was to always ask the intended reference if they felt comfortable writing a positive (or good, or whatever other word you want to subsitute) recommendation- or a positive reference, whatever the case may be.

For whatever its worth to any of you...

[j.wellington]

I knew a couple people who had something like this happen with grad school apps, though they weren't outright negative letters. They made the mistake of asking professors who they liked or got good grades from but who didn't know them personally. The letters they got were to the effect of: "I don't really know John Smith, but the record shows he did alright in the one class he took with me his junior year." Not exactly the way to make an impression.

Bottom line: Ask a prof you're chummy with and you should be fine.

[dk8]

I think professors who would do this are pretty terrible. The way my cycle is going, I think my professor did this to me.

[cubswin]

In some cases, it's probably partially the student's fault for picking someone who doesn't know them at all.

[eljay]

Asking for a rec is sometimes a delicate thing. Quite often, you've got to read between the lines. If a recommender doesn't want to write you a rec, she/he will most likely tell you it is a bad idea, if not in so many words. Here's the thing, though: I doubt, very highly, that an academic would consent to write an LOR and voice explicitly negative views of an applicant. What might, and probably is, the case, however, is that an author might not gush over an applicant, signifying, probably, that the appicant has, in the author's opinion, performed in a mediocre fashion.

[BriaTharen]

I think this happens most with students that are going after recommenders that have star power (noteworthy academics, Nobel/Pulitzer prize winners, etc) where the recommender has no idea who they are other than a miscellaneous student or knew the student, but the student was a slacker.

Honestly, though- you can tell when someone is super willing to write a rec versus one that is begrudgingly doing it.

[Oblomov]

I've heard of this happening occasionally, mainly when a semi-unknown student relentlessly pesters the LOR writer. As long as you're on good terms with the professor, you shouldn't have to worry about a negative LOR.

I've known it to happen, but it was evident that the prof gave the student the hint before hand.

If when you ask the prof is not enthusiastic, move on to someone else.

[Oblomov]

A knew a couple people who had something like this happen with grad school apps, though they weren't outright negative letters. They made the mistake of asking professors who they liked or got good grades from but who didn't know them personally. The letters they got were to the effect of: "I don't really know John Smith, but the record shows he did alright in the one class he took with me his junior year." Not exactly the way to make an impression.

Bottom line: Ask a prof you're chummy with and you should be fine.

This too. Though more so with smaller grad programs (not 1,200 person law schools) there looking for recs to show that you're pleasant to work with. They have your grades and scores to see your academic potential. Obviously there are outliers (amazing recs, ones that speak to low grades), but I think they are read more to find out about you than your academic potential.

[Dick Whitman]

Years ago, I received some advice about this very thing. It has stayed with me, and I always use it when looking for a letter or a reference for a job, school, whatever.

The advice was to always ask the intended reference if they felt comfortable writing a positive (or good, or whatever other word you want to subsitute) recommendation- or a positive reference, whatever the case may be.

For whatever its worth to any of you...

TITCR

If you really want to play it safe, you can set up a meeting with a professor just to discuss law school. If he/she spontaneously offers to write a recommendation during the meeting, then you can rest assured they feel comfortable writing a positive one.

[cubswin]

Honestly, though- you can tell when someone is super willing to write a rec versus one that is begrudgingly doing it.

+1. My recommenders said something like, "I would be delighted to write such a letter."

Also, I don't think there is a problem in asking the professor if they would have a problem writing you a strong letter of recommendation. When I applied to history PhD programs and was looking for a third writer, one of my other writers told me to ask another professor in precisely this manner.

[Pearalegal]

I mean, maybe you shouldn't have slept with your professor's wife.

[Hopefullawstudent]

There is a Letter of Recommendation parlance, a code so to speak, that many writers follow and many readers understand. From talking with some people who have read LORs as part of their job, there are basically three tiers of LORs. "Glowing", "Acceptable", and "Not Recommended". The true nature of the LOR can just be inferred by the language used. Any recommender with decency will write the LOR cordially. However, it is the tone, the diction that gives it away, sometimes in very subtle ways...

[wakefield]

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[Dick Whitman]

I mean, maybe you shouldn't have slept with your professor's wife.

Or maybe you should have asked her to write the LOR.