Personal Statement. Critique please!
Posted: Mon Dec 09, 2013 4:05 pm
“Another useless female,” these were the words I heard countless times when I reported to my first command. Not only was I seen as useless, but as a piece of meat that the guys took turns trying to take to bed. I couldn’t understand why I was met with such hostility when I first arrived, but after listening to conversations for my first month, I realized that previous females had left a bad impression. I had to prove them wrong in order to change their perspective of females and gain their respect. I volunteered to be part of third platoon boat crew, which the males soon laughed about because I was a weak female and wouldn’t get anywhere. I was told many times to, “Stay in the kitchen where you belong.” Their cruel comments didn’t have the desired effect, instead it pushed me to be better and learn more.
Things were slowly moving forward for me, until a couple of new supervisors stepped in to take over the platoon. At first I didn’t think much of it because they soon realized that I was more knowledgeable and had a great working relationship with our maintenance department. Although I was lower ranking than most that I was working with, I was still in charge of training and the daily operations of boat crew. I was doing well until my new supervisors became more interested in me than my work. The comments they made towards me were easily pushed aside, but soon the words were becoming actions and it turned into sexual assault that was happening almost daily. I witnessed many incidents pushed under the rug instead of dealing with them properly or the lower ranking individual being retaliated against because they spoke up. I didn’t know who to turn to or if I could trust the person that I was supposed to speak with. It was hard to keep things quiet in such a tight nit community and I was afraid that should I speak out, it would soon be known that it was me who made the complaints. Out of fear of retaliation and lack of trust, I pushed through the incidents and focused on my work.
My drive and passion for my work took my mind off the problems I face and the negatives were soon becoming positive. I was leading and training those in the platoon and soon took position as primary coxswain. One of best actions to happen was when my supervisor was removed from his position and the sexual assaults had stopped. During my time as primary coxswain, I assisted in a humanitarian mission in the Philippines were we worked with their military in a search and rescue effort and later attended a board with my Commanding Officer and earned the small craft pin. I was the lowest ranking and only female of two individuals, out of 200+ in the command, to have earned that pin.
My Commanding Officer handpicked me for an assignment where I travelled to three different countries; I was the only female on my crew. This assignment involved me training foreign military in boat operations and combat tactics, but was far more important than just training because it helped to keep our alliance between these countries strong and positive. By the end of my tour I was not only a primary coxswain, but the lead training petty officer for boat crew. I had earned every qualification that I was allowed to have in not only boat crew, but also for landside or regular operations. I showed the men to not judge just because of previous experiences, while teaching other females to speak up about sexual harassment and to show them that they are more than just their gender.
Although I was doubted, on the receiving end of negative comments and worse unwanted sexual harassment, just because I was a female, I didn’t allow myself to become what they had me titled as. I have spent eight years as military police that has allowed me to learn the investigation side of the law and my paralegal degree has given me some insight into the law field. So I ask you, please do not judge me based off of numbers, instead judge me for the type of person I am, a person who overcame appalling situations and ended up at the top, while helping others to avoid the same awful situations I encountered. Allow me to share and use my experiences, my passion, motivation, and self- determination to become a skillful student that this University can be proud to call their own.
Things were slowly moving forward for me, until a couple of new supervisors stepped in to take over the platoon. At first I didn’t think much of it because they soon realized that I was more knowledgeable and had a great working relationship with our maintenance department. Although I was lower ranking than most that I was working with, I was still in charge of training and the daily operations of boat crew. I was doing well until my new supervisors became more interested in me than my work. The comments they made towards me were easily pushed aside, but soon the words were becoming actions and it turned into sexual assault that was happening almost daily. I witnessed many incidents pushed under the rug instead of dealing with them properly or the lower ranking individual being retaliated against because they spoke up. I didn’t know who to turn to or if I could trust the person that I was supposed to speak with. It was hard to keep things quiet in such a tight nit community and I was afraid that should I speak out, it would soon be known that it was me who made the complaints. Out of fear of retaliation and lack of trust, I pushed through the incidents and focused on my work.
My drive and passion for my work took my mind off the problems I face and the negatives were soon becoming positive. I was leading and training those in the platoon and soon took position as primary coxswain. One of best actions to happen was when my supervisor was removed from his position and the sexual assaults had stopped. During my time as primary coxswain, I assisted in a humanitarian mission in the Philippines were we worked with their military in a search and rescue effort and later attended a board with my Commanding Officer and earned the small craft pin. I was the lowest ranking and only female of two individuals, out of 200+ in the command, to have earned that pin.
My Commanding Officer handpicked me for an assignment where I travelled to three different countries; I was the only female on my crew. This assignment involved me training foreign military in boat operations and combat tactics, but was far more important than just training because it helped to keep our alliance between these countries strong and positive. By the end of my tour I was not only a primary coxswain, but the lead training petty officer for boat crew. I had earned every qualification that I was allowed to have in not only boat crew, but also for landside or regular operations. I showed the men to not judge just because of previous experiences, while teaching other females to speak up about sexual harassment and to show them that they are more than just their gender.
Although I was doubted, on the receiving end of negative comments and worse unwanted sexual harassment, just because I was a female, I didn’t allow myself to become what they had me titled as. I have spent eight years as military police that has allowed me to learn the investigation side of the law and my paralegal degree has given me some insight into the law field. So I ask you, please do not judge me based off of numbers, instead judge me for the type of person I am, a person who overcame appalling situations and ended up at the top, while helping others to avoid the same awful situations I encountered. Allow me to share and use my experiences, my passion, motivation, and self- determination to become a skillful student that this University can be proud to call their own.