TheStrand wrote:romothesavior wrote:In fact, I've heard a number of older lawyers say that their biggest pet peeve with our generation of lawyers is that we have a hostile, disrespectful, "win at all costs" mentality. Too much TV perhaps? I dunno. But your conception of what goes on in trials is laughably naive. Being competitive is one thing, but being a douche-truck (as you are) will almost certainly get you fired. Trial lawyers generally respect their opposition, and if they don't, then they at least act like it.
Yeah I hear this complaint often as well, and it is not unusual for judges to sanction attorneys who act out of line like that in court, or who are deliberately deceptive or refuse to work civilly with others on discovery timelines, making people available for depos etc. Acting like the biggest asshole in the room will definitely not help you when it comes time to ask your opposition for a favor either. And if you ever plan on doing anything more like becoming a judge, judiciary panels/commissions have been known to call people's opposing counsels to ask how someone has behaved in order to vet for judgeships.
I have paralegaled a bit, and the successful attorneys are all very polite and professional. By successful I mean ones who are partners or sole practioners with huge client books. Heres why: The legal field is 100% insular. You are going to get 90% of your referrals from fellow attorneys who either conflict out of a matter or have a side issue with a client (e.g. they may represent the business and need you to rep the principal that is owed deferred compensation or they may do bankruptcy and they need you to deal with an underlying intentional tort they don't feel comfortable doing), you are going to argue before fellow attorneys (or former attorneys depending on how the bar/bench partition is setup in your state), you are going to have to request trials and deadlines be adjourned due to scheduling conflicts from fellow attorneys, you are going to have to borrow brief language and templates from fellow attorneys, you are going to have to request fellow attorneys to appear for you in a minor hearing in one court so you can argue in a more important case across the state, and most important you are going to have to work nearly everyday with fellow attorneys.
Being a dick, a shark, or whatever you call it is bad for you professionally, bad for the client, bad for the judicial system, and ultimately bad for your health and sanity. Aggressive is fine, being an ass never is.
Trust me, I am no pushover but rather ultra-uncompetitive, insensitive, and results-oriented, but being unprofessional is not commendable nor benefical, but rather stinks of insecurity.
Sorry for the rant, just moved from dealing with the Bankruptcy Bar, an extremely collegiate bunch, to the criminal side the house in a town where everyone is more concerned with being the next AG/POTUS then seeing that justice is done.