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Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2017 8:57 pm
by ski17
How many people plan on bringing their parents?

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2017 9:09 pm
by Lavitz
Fwiw, plenty of opinions on this topic have been expressed in this thread: viewtopic.php?f=8&t=205439

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2017 10:36 pm
by waldorf
Do not do this. If they want to see where you're going to school, they can visit another time and tour the city and the school.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Mon Jan 23, 2017 1:28 am
by ski17
Lavitz wrote:Fwiw, plenty of opinions on this topic have been expressed in this thread: viewtopic.php?f=8&t=205439


Thank you! Didn't know it was such a faux pas.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Mon Jan 23, 2017 2:23 am
by SlippinJimmy
ski17 wrote:
Lavitz wrote:Fwiw, plenty of opinions on this topic have been expressed in this thread: http://top-law-schools.com/forums/viewt ... 8&t=205439


Thank you! Didn't know it was such a faux pas.


It's not. I saw plenty of parents at my ASDs. That said, what's the point?

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2017 12:41 pm
by galadriel3019
There's nothing wrong with your parents spending their own day touring the campus separately, but I would absolutely not bring them to admitted events. Also, many schools specify that there is not room for folks beyond the admitted students themselves. But I see no problem with your parents say, wandering around the campus as a whole while you are at the law school doing things. I just would not try bringing them in to events or have them hanging around the law school the whole day.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2017 8:32 pm
by zeglo
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Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2017 8:43 pm
by emkay625
Wut.

No.

I went to several ASDs. I saw no parents.

Do not be that person.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2017 8:48 pm
by KunAgnis
I didn't, but I did see a few when I went to W&L's ASW. I think it's okay, it probably won't help you socialize with your peers but if you want to treat it as a family vacation, I don't see why not. Some schools will ask how many guests you are bringing and will provide you with badges for your guests.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2017 5:15 am
by brinicolec
I'm willing to bet this varies for different schools. I'd imagine places like Northwestern don't have many parents there because most students are older --> more independent. I, personally, wouldn't do it unless your parents really want to see the campus and have no other time they'd be able to do it/you don't want to have to pay to go twice. In that case, I'd arrive with them but send them on their own way and tell them to leave me be :lol:

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2017 4:14 pm
by paytonalexandra
I just thought I would chime in with my recent experience.
At first this seemed like such a stupid debate to have, if you want to bring your parents, of course you should go ahead and do it. I personally opted not to, my parents were kind enough to pay for travel and came with me to the city, mainly because they lived there for 10 years and wanted to reminisce, but they entertained themselves while I was at the visit, and we were all content with that.
On my tour, two people brought a parent/parents, and I initially thought nothing of it. One guy brought his mom and she was great, exactly how a parent should act while on the tour, quiet and out of the way, just taking in the information. The other parents however, not so great. They whispered throughout the entire class we sat in on and asked way too many questions to the guides, they were hogging the whole session and left little time for other questions, and strangely, their daughter never even talked once (weird.)

I guess what I am getting at is, if you want to bring parents, go for it, but please try to tell them not to be like those overbearing and annoying parents, it will make the whole tour more enjoyable for the actual students who might be attending the school.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2017 3:30 pm
by jag13
I did 3 ASD at various schools and on all 3 I saw Parents. They were definitely in the minority, but there was definitely parents. I don't think it really matters. My parents didn't come with me, but when I look for housing for next fall they most definitely will come and I am sure we will take a small walk around the law school.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2017 3:42 pm
by KissMyAxe
emkay625 wrote:Wut.

No.

I went to several ASDs. I saw no parents.

Do not be that person.


I disagree. I went to 5 ASWs when I was admitted, and always saw parents. I have even had classmates bring their parents to certain classes if they were curious about experiencing a professor. If your parent has enough decorum to sit there silently, then by all means bring them.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2017 3:49 pm
by eck456
KissMyAxe wrote:
emkay625 wrote:Wut.

No.

I went to several ASDs. I saw no parents.

Do not be that person.


I disagree. I went to 5 ASWs when I was admitted, and always saw parents. I have even had classmates bring their parents to certain classes if they were curious about experiencing a professor. If your parent has enough decorum to sit there silently, then by all means bring them.


A girl at Berkeley ASW brought her mom last year. they stayed with students in a frat house, partied all night, and mom came to the mimosa brunch in the morning super hung over and ready for more champagne. could see how people would feel it was a little weird but they had made a vacation out of visiting cali from canada, and honestly mom was cool and could hang? that's not what me bringing my mom would look like, but I think what I'm trying to say is it could depend on your relationship w your parents and what kind of time you want to have when you're there

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Wed Apr 19, 2017 4:23 pm
by taxman14
eck456 wrote:
KissMyAxe wrote:
emkay625 wrote:Wut.

No.

I went to several ASDs. I saw no parents.

Do not be that person.


I disagree. I went to 5 ASWs when I was admitted, and always saw parents. I have even had classmates bring their parents to certain classes if they were curious about experiencing a professor. If your parent has enough decorum to sit there silently, then by all means bring them.


A girl at Berkeley ASW brought her mom last year. they stayed with students in a frat house, partied all night, and mom came to the mimosa brunch in the morning super hung over and ready for more champagne. could see how people would feel it was a little weird but they had made a vacation out of visiting cali from canada, and honestly mom was cool and could hang? that's not what me bringing my mom would look like, but I think what I'm trying to say is it could depend on your relationship w your parents and what kind of time you want to have when you're there


do you happen to know the mom's name?

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Fri Apr 21, 2017 4:41 pm
by snarfing
At my ASD for fordham I saw plenty of parents, a professor even asked me where mine were ( I mentioned I'm from the area). Dont take them to the classes or stuff thats "student only" like asking current students questions, but for the tours and breakfast/lunch general info stuff I dont see a problem

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Fri Apr 21, 2017 11:08 pm
by megamega88
I brought my parents to admitted students day but no one else did so it was pretty awkward. I guess you should call your school beforehand and ask them if it is okay to bring parents, have students brought parents in the past, etc.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Sat Apr 22, 2017 2:09 am
by KMart
went to one ASW and during the mock class the parent kept raising his hand and speaking. don't do that.

i mean, it's fine. weird, but fine. i'm guessing you'll be either the only one or one of the select few who did it. no one will really care as long as you're parents dont do what i just mentioned above.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Sat Apr 22, 2017 9:00 pm
by bigchiefhoho
There were parents at both of the ASDs I went to. I'd say probably 70% of students were there alone, maybe 20% had parents with them, and 10% brought a spouse/SO. I don't think it seemed weird at all, for the most part. There were a few parents who asked excessive amounts of questions and spoke for their kids a lot, though, which was both embarrassing for the prospective student and irritating for everybody else in the room. Guests, both parents and SOs, should be seen and not heard, IMO. Leave the questions for the people who will actually be attending.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Sun Apr 23, 2017 5:16 pm
by brinicolec
I saw very minimal amounts of parents. I'm almost willing to say that when I went to Michigan's ASW, I didn't see any. I saw one or two when I went to Texas' ASD. I think as long as they're not trying to hijack convos/ask questions all the time or anything, it's not a big deal. As you can tell, I barely noticed.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Mon Apr 24, 2017 2:55 pm
by amta
don't take your parents to a professional school's admitted students day. like wtf.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Mon Apr 24, 2017 3:31 pm
by dietcoke1
in addition to how it looks, I think bringing your parents will take away somewhat from the experience of visiting. When you are in law school, your parents won't be there for you so figure out what it is like to be at that particular law school by yourself.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Mon Apr 24, 2017 3:38 pm
by Dr.Degrees_Cr.Cash
I'll add to the chorus of no's.

It's not a terrible thing and I definitely saw some parents at the asw's, but that said I don't think it's super worth it to drag them down there when it's really really not their decision to make.

Also I think you'll lose some good opportunity to feel out the student body if you're with your parents the whole time

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Mon Apr 24, 2017 3:40 pm
by curry1
Dr.Degrees_Cr.Cash wrote:I'll add to the chorus of no's.

It's not a terrible thing and I definitely saw some parents at the asw's, but that said I don't think it's super worth it to drag them down there when it's really really not their decision to make.

Also I think you'll lose some good opportunity to feel out the student body if you're with your parents the whole time


Depends on the circumstances; a good chunk of people at T14s parents are paying full freight or a large portion of their costs.

Re: Parents at admitted students days

Posted: Mon Apr 24, 2017 3:43 pm
by Dr.Degrees_Cr.Cash
curry1 wrote:
Dr.Degrees_Cr.Cash wrote:I'll add to the chorus of no's.

It's not a terrible thing and I definitely saw some parents at the asw's, but that said I don't think it's super worth it to drag them down there when it's really really not their decision to make.

Also I think you'll lose some good opportunity to feel out the student body if you're with your parents the whole time


Depends on the circumstances; a good chunk of people at T14s parents are paying full freight or a large portion of their costs.


Even then I would not advise letting them make the decision for you. A bank doesn't get to decide what car you buy just the amount of money you have to work with.

This is an investment in your future and will effect the entire rest of your life, it is worth far more than the cost for most posters on here.

If anyone wanted to have a say in where I went in exchange for funds I'd go straight to the loan office and do it myself