Is it weird to have your parents at ASD with you? Forum

[ThatGuyWithTheFace]

I think it's ridiculous to have your parents with you. It strikes me as really immature, even childish, and definitely not professional. You're in your 20's.

Bring them with you if you want, let them check out the town, but don't bring them to school sponsored events.

[Dany]

Bring them with you if you want, let them check out the town, but don't bring them to school sponsored events.

This is generally TCR, in my opinion.

[moneybagsphd]

There is literally no way my parents could embarrass me at an AspieFest 2012!, not around a bunch of prospective law students I don't respect to begin with. That said, I wouldn't bring my parents to an AspieFest 2012! (because they would probably be even more bored than I am). Mostly, I just sit there feeling bad for myself and everyone else. Like a bunch of buffalo knowingly being led off a cliff.

Are you actively trying to avoid making any friends (or at the very least, acquaintances who don't hate you so much that they won't share their class notes) for three years or something?

He has a point. Law students are terrible people.

Also, I fail to see how being unembarrassed by my parents constitutes "actively" avoiding law students. I'm not going to be unfriendly to them, or tell them I don't respect them.

[rinkrat19]

There is literally no way my parents could embarrass me at an AspieFest 2012!, not around a bunch of prospective law students I don't respect to begin with. That said, I wouldn't bring my parents to an AspieFest 2012! (because they would probably be even more bored than I am). Mostly, I just sit there feeling bad for myself and everyone else. Like a bunch of buffalo knowingly being led off a cliff.

Are you actively trying to avoid making any friends (or at the very least, acquaintances who don't hate you so much that they won't share their class notes) for three years or something?

He has a point. Law students are terrible people.

Also, I fail to see how being unembarrassed by my parents constitutes "actively" avoiding law students. I'm not going to be unfriendly to them, or tell them I don't respect them.

Your future classmates could potentially figure out who you are IRL from your posts here. It has happened before.
Anyway, you don't think they'll be able to tell that you don't respect them? Newsflash: people who go around thinking they are better than everyone around them are pretty obvious.

Plus, not respecting other potential law students just because they're doing exactly what you're doing is a pretty dick move. What makes you better than them?

[Dany]

Your future classmates could potentially figure out who you are IRL from your posts here. It has happened before.
Anyway, you don't think they'll be able to tell that you don't respect them? Newsflash: people who go around thinking they are better than everyone around them are pretty obvious.

Plus, not respecting other potential law students just because they're doing exactly what you're doing is a pretty dick move. What makes you better than them?

Incorrectly assumes he respects himself.

[moneybagsphd]

Your future classmates could potentially figure out who you are IRL from your posts here. It has happened before.
Anyway, you don't think they'll be able to tell that you don't respect them? Newsflash: people who go around thinking they are better than everyone around them are pretty obvious.

Plus, not respecting other potential law students just because they're doing exactly what you're doing is a pretty dick move. What makes you better than them?

Incorrectly assumes he respects himself.

Just for the record: I don't think I'm better than other law students.

[desertlaw]

Only acceptable reason to bring them is if they're footing the bill for either the travel or some significant part of law school. Even then, I think it's best that they don't come to the actual event unless you feel it's necessary to convince them that you want to go there (and therefore, their financial investment is worthwhile). Have them travel with you, then they can check out the city while you do the ASW, and then at some point, walk around the campus together to share thoughts/feelings about what you like about this school.

If they're not investing money into your law school career, bringing them to ASW is weird. They can come visit you when you've actually decided on a law school and are in October of 1L.

[spleenworship]

Your future classmates could potentially figure out who you are IRL from your posts here. It has happened before.
Anyway, you don't think they'll be able to tell that you don't respect them? Newsflash: people who go around thinking they are better than everyone around them are pretty obvious.

Plus, not respecting other potential law students just because they're doing exactly what you're doing is a pretty dick move. What makes you better than them?

Incorrectly assumes he respects himself.

Just for the record: I don't think I'm better than other law students.

Then why wouldn't you give them some respect?

[Dany]

Because law students suck.

[sd5289]

It doesn't really matter if they are there with you or not. Doesn't bother me either way. What DOES bother me is when your mom peppers me with questions because I'm not straight out of undergrad and I've worked in the field I plan on returning to after I graduate (especially given the fact that this school didn't have the foresight to supply coffee for much needed caffeine fixes such as mine). How the hell would I know what X school has to offer? I'm a "prospective" just like your daughter. Go ask one of the people in the red shirts.

/rant

[Lily Pad]

At one ASD, I ended up sitting next to a girl who I tried to strike up a conversation with while we were waiting for the program to start. Turns out the guy sitting next to her was her dad, and he just completely took over the conversation while she sat in the middle of us completely silent. It was so awkward.

[wolfmalfoy]

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[spleenworship]

If you're paying for law school completely on your own with no contribution from your parents then yes, it is weird. It's your money and your decision. You can choose to listen to their advise, and if you want them to come along that's great, if not then you don't have to let them.
If they are making a significant contribution to your tuition and want to come along it is perfectly acceptable to bring them. They're making an investment in you and ultimately deserve to to see where their money is going. A couple people were whinging about how this is your decision even if they're paying for it, and to a certain extent that really isn't true, if they're committing to it financially they deserve to be involved, whether you like it or not. It's THEIR money, not yours, and it definitely comes with strings attached. Either suck it up and let mummy or daddy tag along or pay for it yourself.

Or, alternatively, if your parents want to help you they could have some effing faith in your decision making capabilities and deal with it.

How bad a parent were/are you that you don't trust your kid to make major life decisions with intelligence and reasonable judgement? This isn't undergrad where your 17-18 year old is going out on their own for the first effing time.

[wolfmalfoy]

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[moneybagsphd]

Then why wouldn't you give them some respect?

Assuming respect should be freely given.

[spleenworship]

Or, alternatively, if your parents want to help you they could have some effing faith in your decision making capabilities and deal with it.

How bad a parent were/are you that you don't trust your kid to make major life decisions with intelligence and reasonable judgement? This isn't undergrad where your 17-18 year old is going out on their own for the first effing time.

I think you completely missed the point I was trying to make. (Also, I'm not a parent you moron, as your post seemed to imply) It isn't about your parents trusting you or not trusting you, it's about the fact that if they're making a financial contribution with their money they deserve to see where it's going. Lose your sense of entitlement, the money doesn't belong to you, it belongs to them and they get to choose what to do with it, not you. Would you entrust your money someplace or make an investment in something you weren't sure about? No, so don't expect your parents to do the same if they're going to help you out. If they want to blindly shell out money so you can go wherever the hell you want then that's their issue, but don't get pissed off just because your parents essentially want to be informed purchasers.

And you missed my point: your parents should trust you to spend their money wisely if they raised you well. And I did not intend to imply you were a parent... moron.

[spleenworship]

Then why wouldn't you give them some respect?

Assuming respect should be freely given.

Yes I do, unless someone gives you a reason to take it away. Try it, you might like it.

[spleenworship]

Because law students suck.

I dunno... I think the 0Ls are worse than the law students, personally.

[wolfmalfoy]

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[spleenworship]

Raising you well has nothing to do with it, and your parents are under no obligation whatsoever to trust you. It's their money. Their money from their job or inheritance = they decide what to do with it. Your money from your job or trust fund = you decide what to do with it. If you can not otherwise afford to pay and your parents are willing to step up and help you, then quite frankly you should be grateful. Making petty demands of someone financially supporting you sounds like a pretty good way to get cut off.

Petty demands like "Please help me pay to make something of myself in a profession where the tuition has risen approximately 1000% since you had this option, mostly as part of a ploy to ensure your generation has a shitload of tenure track spots, and to keep paying into social security for your parents who will continue to vote against me getting grants or other education while continuing to vote to maintain their social security and other entitlements that benefit them and their poor choices regarding retirement savings?" or "If you don't help me I'll have to take ruinous loans, loans that your generation didn't really have to deal with, and that will likely be held against me on the C&F portion of the bar, the committee being run by a-holes of your generation that are totally out of touch with the reality on the ground?"

No wait... those aren't the petty demands we are talking about. We are talking about saying to your parents: "Hey, I am going to my ASD. I'll bring you back some literature. When I am done, I'd love to give you a tour if I attend."

Also, how many parents are knowledgable enough about the profession or legal education to even be able to see past the BS of ASD to actually know what is or isn't important? The most likely ones who can (lawyers) already know, and don't need to go. The rest just get in the way and make decisions about where they want to spend their money based on things like "OMG honey, did you see that your school is ranked #1 in INTERNATIONAL LAW??!?!?!!! Isn't that amazing! You so need to go to Cooley honey! #1 in International Bird Law!!! And their facilities are so nice! Where do they get that money, do you think?"

[applesoranges123]

Is it weird to have your parents help you with moving in and stuff at the end of August if you're living in law school housing, or visiting you in the dorms, etc. To me, personally, I think there is nothing weird at all about this, but just wondering...I would definitely not bring them to ASW events with me though..

[20130312]

Is it weird to have your parents help you with moving in and stuff at the end of August if you're living in law school housing, or visiting you in the dorms, etc. To me, personally, I think there is nothing weird at all about this, but just wondering...I would definitely not bring them to ASW events with me though..

Decidedly not weird if you are moving far for school.

[Dany]

Is it weird to have your parents help you with moving in and stuff at the end of August if you're living in law school housing, or visiting you in the dorms, etc. To me, personally, I think there is nothing weird at all about this, but just wondering...I would definitely not bring them to ASW events with me though..

Nothing weird about that at all.

[imbored25]

its fine, especially if your in the south, we care about family

[Dany]

its fine, especially if your in the south, we care about family

But not grammar, apparently.