cogitoergosum wrote: crumpledq wrote:
Nobody wrote:Moving away from your spouse is insanity.
As someone who may be moving to NYC for law school while my spouse stays in DC, and who does not consider myself or my husband to be insane, this is a bit of an unfair statement. But the choice to live in different cities a very serious decision and depends on the individual couple's situation. For us, keeping my husband's biglaw job is very important both for paying off his law school debt as well as for the substance of the work--he has the best job at the best firm at this point in his career in his particular, specialized field. Also, we have done long distance before on the I-95/Amtrak corridor and we know what to expect, so it is less of a scary unknown.
My point is just that individual circumstances vary, and it's important not to be too judgmental about the very personal decisions of others. If there are other folks like cogito and me who are faced with the long-distance-marriage question, I'd would be happy to chat via PM or in a new thread, perhaps.
Agreed. Thanks for the input CQ. Sorry the thread got so real last night. I suppose the crazy TLS is a lot more fun than real TLS, but this is a pretty big part of my own cycle, and it's similar for at least a few others, so I do appreciate you guys weighing in. Everyone sees this whole process a bit differently.
CQ, would you just be in NYC for the week and try to get to DC most weekends or??
I would probably try to get to DC most weekends because I'd be more location flexible--my husband is in the office every Saturday and often on Sundays. Yay, biglaw! But the fact is between my study habits and his work schedule, we wouldn't be spending a typical married couple's amount of time together even if I stay in DC.
Speaking only for myself, I actually find that marriage gives me a long-term view of our relationship such that the next three years of possible distance do not loom as large as, say, the 50-60 years we'll have together once it's over.