j12 wrote:To say that it is unethical I think is taking a rather narrow scope.
That's why I didn't say it was unethical. I'm not sure that it is and really don't care too much one way or the other. I'm just not comfortable with the practice if
it involves outright lying for me. Negotiating a job salary does not involve deceit (or it shouldn't). Maybe its because I've spent so much time in ME conflict resolution, where your honor is prime in getting a deal not only worked out, but to stick.
But I def do think in comparison to most Americans that I take a narrow view of ethical questions. That's where my cookie crumbles. I like to get ahead as much as the next guy, but I also like to sleep soundly at night (well as soundly as I can with two kids under 4 and being 6 months pregnant lol). Everyone has their own tolerance for these things, mine def is low relative to other people and that's why I wouldn't judge them engaging in the practice. If they think its right for them and they are happy to do so, feel free. Its just not the right choice for me and not the way I want to make the first decision of my legal career. That's why I gave the original questioners both perspectives and encouraged them to think it over, and choose the path that was right for them. I don't think there can be a standard, "yes, you must do this or you are an idiot," or "no, you absolutely shouldn't or your destined to become an evil corporate bastard" lol. Like most things, its a grey area and depends ultimately on the comfort level of the person engaged in the behavior.
ETA: But I totally agree with you that if there is any doubt about attendance, you should apply. Its so early in the cycle and you don't want to have regrets over $16. There is no question in that regard and if I was 22, I would probably be blanketing the T-14 and visiting around 5 before making a final decision. I think it is unique to know certain places you couldn't be paid to live (well just NY really) with 3 small children; because I did my masters in London and I'm a country girl. I've actually lived in a comparable city and spent a good deal of time in NY, so I know from experience I wouldn't be happy there. I love DC, but I was not happy with the quality of life in London because I need to be able to easily access some level of rural life. You don't grow up hay-raking and frog-jumping, and then feel comfortable in a small apartment with 3 kids. I don't know how to manage that lifestyle well and I wouldn't want that stress on top of the already stressful law school transition. I totally can do it on my own, but want to expose my kids to the sort of pleasures I took from my youth. In youth though, I think one should really explore the options and take some leaps out of their comfort zone. I'm glad I got to live in London, even though I know I don't want to end up there again.