mrsdraper wrote:Hi all--
I'm looking for advice on whether or not it's crazy to be pregnant during your first year of law school. Has anyone here done it? Did it affect your performance in school? Did you have to take off time or were you able to go back to school right away? I'm 26 and married (planning to attend a T5 school in the fall) and would rather not have to wait 3 more years to have children, if possible, but also want to make sure I'm not making a decision that will jeopardize my law school career.
Thanks in advance!
From the opinion of someone who is nowhere close to having a baby, haha, I think it might be more logical to wait until after law school. But sometimes logic isn't the way people make decisions as personal as this (nor, maybe, should they).
However, I think the most important thing is that your husband is ready to take on more work than (stereotypically and unfairly), is placed on a new Dad...which might be hard if he is working to support you and the new tot through law school. Also probably vital, do you have family in the area?
Both my parents worked my entire life, but for the first few years of my life, my mom ran her business out of our home. They simply couldn't afford to hire someone to watch me when both of them were out of the house and didn't have family nearby. This is something to consider. When you're in class, where will baby go? I personally think its quite disrespectful to your fellow classmates to bring a newborn to class.
Also, will you be moving for summer work? Are you going to law school where you'll ultimately practice (planning to, anyways?)
You will also be going through a lot of hormonal and physical changes that will be exhausting as you study and the like...without the benefit of maternity leave that law firms provide (my firm gives 9 months to primary caregivers, and 4 to secondary). You'll have to study and work through that, which for some women is close to impossible.
I think its doable either way, but I would vote to wait until after. You'll have maternity leave, you'll have more money to provide for the tot, ect. Most of my female attorneys wait until after law school.
You're pretty young still, I think it might be best to wait.